Sigh...After 4 years of peaceful life, it's all gonna be over tomorrow...

[stonston]

sigh...

my peaceful life for 4 years is gonna be over soon....

[mag_huiling]

Originally Posted by stonston sigh... my peaceful life for 4 years is gonna be over soon....

Why why?? What happened??

[sugarcookie]

Originally Posted by stonston sigh... my peaceful life for 4 years is gonna be over soon....

Oh no...is everything ok?

Let me guess. In-laws moving in?

[stonston]

We've not had any contact with them at all. But my husband needs to go back tomorrow. Sigh. & he wants to bring my boy along without me. My mum has brought my boy to her place & said she won't let my husband bring him there without me.
Cos my boy very naughty & my husband can't handle. If he bring him along, my boy sure Jena scolded by them.

Plus once they see their grandson, I'm sure they'll give me tonnes of shit when they want to see him.

My husband last time won't soft hearted & go back. But they personally called & beg him. Sigh.

[apollo]

Originally Posted by stonston We've not had any contact with them at all. But my husband needs to go back tomorrow. Sigh. & he wants to bring my boy along without me. My mum has brought my boy to her place & said she won't let my husband bring him there without me. Cos my boy very naughty & my husband can't handle. If he bring him along, my boy sure Jena scolded by them. Plus once they see their grandson, I'm sure they'll give me tonnes of shit when they want to see him. My husband last time won't soft hearted & go back. But they personally called & beg him. Sigh.

stonston mummy, reginakoh here, rmb me?? hehe... i dont know what had happened btwn you and your inlaws.. but i personally feel that it is alright for your hubby to bring your boy back to see his parents. afterall, he is still their son no matter what happened.

but I can see that they really did very nasty/sickening things to you before... *sayang* =)

[stonston]

I dont't agree because they did not even recognise me as their daughter in law. No daughter in law = no grandchildren!

Plus he can't manage my boy alone because my boy dont't like him & won't listen to him. I dont't want ppl to say I dont't know how to teach my boy just because his dad can't manage him. Anyway, I'm putting a full stop to this. He want to go back is his problem. dont't ever cone back to my house after he dirty himself there.

[llcyahoo]

dirty himself??

i can understand cos CNY coming meaning my mother in law coming to stay..... few days like many years. I usually can't eat during those days. Scare she talk to my children and teach them negative things n many many....sigh.

[Phoebii Cheng]

Dirty himself? you mean with their thoughts?

[stonston]

Their house is damn dirty. Last time I went their house, always have asthma attack. & I dont't even get attacks when I sleep with my dog!

[llcyahoo]

Originally Posted by stonston Their house is damn dirty. Last time I went their house, always have asthma attack. & I dont't even get attacks when I sleep with my dog!

same!!! mine very LAZY....

[Renzie]

hmm...if their house is extremely dirty until you can get asthma attacks, it wouldn't be good for your son as well isn't it?

Plus if you husband can't handle your kid, they might say its because of you that the child misbehaves(they'll never blame their own son, but since they dont't recognize you as the daughter in law....its much easier to blame). Why dont't tell your husband about your concerns about your in-laws environment and such, like how dirty it is, and might not be good for your child.

And its simple, if they want to see their grandchild, well, they'll need to see you and recognize that you are the mother of the child as well. Or else what? treat your son like a single parent child? pretend you dont't exist?

[Justina]

Originally Posted by stonston Their house is damn dirty. Last time I went their house, always have asthma attack. & I dont't even get attacks when I sleep with my dog!

You mean that your son hasn't seen his grandparents for 4 years? Would you mind telling what happened 4 years ago? Is it possible that you happily try to follow them back, and start afresh, sweep everything under the carpet? This can't go on forever, someone has to make the first move fora reunion right?

[ChanelleHugo]

Looks like i'm not e only one facing these type of problems... sigh... and all these actually goes on n on never ending... bcoz of in-laws i'm proceeding to file my "D"... very sad but is a no choice.. if not more n more problems will come out next yr... facing these type of things and only myself to depend on for almost 7yrs... i really had enough...

I agree with you...No daughter in- law = No grandchildren & never let your husband bring your son back alone... you actually should follow him even you dont wish to c them.. coz you must protect your son...

Sorry if i had poke myself into your discussion...hope you dont mind...

[ping26]

Originally Posted by stonston I dont't agree because they did not even recognise me as their daughter in law. No daughter in law = no grandchildren! Plus he can't manage my boy alone because my boy dont't like him & won't listen to him. I dont't want ppl to say I dont't know how to teach my boy just because his dad can't manage him. Anyway, I'm putting a full stop to this. He want to go back is his problem. dont't ever cone back to my house after he dirty himself there.

I imagine your wedding joy was marred by your in-laws.

dont't worry too much cos you have a happy family now. your hubby is married to you, not them.

Even though he is still their son, he is first your husband and your boy's father. I think he will get his priorities right after a bit of erm, mayhem.

i think you shld tag along if your boy has to visit his grandparents. got grandson= got daughter-in-law!

[stonston]

It's Not that I dont't wish to see them. In fact, I've been the one who ask my husband to send gifts over during festivals but they always get returned anyway?

My husband has decided not to bring my boy after thinking it through. He wanted to bring my boy so he got excuse to leave early (say baby sleepy, etc). I've solved that for him so only he is going back. Maybe tonight during dinner then I'll go with my boy. See how they react to my husband later first.

For those who dont know, they almost ruined our wedding but it went ahead with them threatening to create trouble at the wedding & we had to hire armed guards at our wedding.

And we've decided that if they requested to see my boy on regular basis in future, it'll be at my parents place or outside. My husband dont't want them to come to our house and criticise us.

ChanelHugo, me & husband won't divorce cos of them. never will.

[apollo]

Originally Posted by stonston It's Not that I dont't wish to see them. In fact, I've been the one who ask my husband to send gifts over during festivals but they always get returned anyway? My husband has decided not to bring my boy after thinking it through. He wanted to bring my boy so he got excuse to leave early (say baby sleepy, etc). I've solved that for him so only he is going back. Maybe tonight during dinner then I'll go with my boy. See how they react to my husband later first. For those who dont know, they almost ruined our wedding but it went ahead with them threatening to create trouble at the wedding & we had to hire armed guards at our wedding. And we've decided that if they requested to see my boy on regular basis in future, it'll be at my parents place or outside. My husband dont't want them to come to our house and criticise us. ChanelHugo, me & husband won't divorce cos of them. never will.

OMG! what they did was really very bad!!!!!! Sry i didnt know that... No wonder you stand so firm on not visiting them...

correct, NEVER ever divorce cos of them.. live happily and of cos, blissfully with your hubby n son, to let them know, and regret of those bad things they had done to you.

cheer up!

[PinkDiamonds]

Hi stonston,

although I dont't understand exactly what is going on, I also agree that if things with your ILs are not good, then better not to let your hubby bring your boy alone. & it's good that you and your hubby have resolved not to bring the boy.

Whatever happens, dont't divorce simply because of the ILs! You married your husband, not them!

Is it their request that your husband bring your son? If they do request to see their grandson, which means they recognize him as a grandson, they should also recognize YOU as their daughter-in-law!

Perhaps one day they will eventually recognize you?

[stonston]

Is my husband wanna bring to show his grandma. I told him well visit grandma separately another day.

Anyway, he like half hearted to go back. Just now dont wanna wake up n take his own sweet time to get ready to leave home.

dont know what's the situation now cos he have not call back yet.

[Ting]

so ston ston, how was it????

[stonston]

Ting, GOOD! hahahaha

His parents did not say anything. Only his aunts ask us to bring my boy let grandma see, which we will do on weekly basis cos she staying elsewhere. But my boy was so shy cos never see before plus they all speak in Mandarin/dialect, my boy dont understand! So he keep hiding his face in my shoulder :P

End up all the children left home. Migrate or married off, all never go back to visit.

[annie]

Happy for you that things goes on well.

[hakisumi]

Hey hey stonston mummy...
Hehe..just happen to read this thread..
Glad everything turn rather well for you.. Hooray!!

[meiteoh]

Wonderful! I wanted to reply earlier but didn't know what to say except what has been said already.

Glad to hear that everything went as well as can be.

[ChanelleHugo]

Originally Posted by stonston It's Not that I dont't wish to see them. In fact, I've been the one who ask my husband to send gifts over during festivals but they always get returned anyway? My husband has decided not to bring my boy after thinking it through. He wanted to bring my boy so he got excuse to leave early (say baby sleepy, etc). I've solved that for him so only he is going back. Maybe tonight during dinner then I'll go with my boy. See how they react to my husband later first. For those who dont know, they almost ruined our wedding but it went ahead with them threatening to create trouble at the wedding & we had to hire armed guards at our wedding. And we've decided that if they requested to see my boy on regular basis in future, it'll be at my parents place or outside. My husband dont't want them to come to our house and criticise us. ChanelHugo, me & husband won't divorce cos of them. never will.

I;m not as lucky as you... i think your husband still sided with you .. I;m getting my divorce.. submitted my marriage cert to proceed already..
anw.. wish you all e best!

[Ting]

thats great stonston!
alls well, ends well!