This is a discussion on Stay on for babies/kids? Stay on without love? within the Home Life, Relationships & Finance forum, part of the You and Your Family category; Originally Posted by jal Eh... Why divorce only after your hubby retires??? Is it because he will have a lot ...
no , it's because dear daughter will be grown up by that time, so it prob won't be so traumatic for her.
also, must give hubby more time to just in case he really changes for the better what. maybe i also change, and become not so ngiao what.
They told me it's because they put in too much effort into their house & they paid so much for the bed, so no one is willing to NOT sleep on the bed
Anybody wld wonder y stay on n even feel it's meaningless to hold on....but oni the ppl involved r in the best position to judge...you'll never kn for sure how you'll react when things really happens on yourself...esp when there's kids n 3rd party...
kinda lik two strangers sleeping on the same bed like what stonston mummy say ...
abit sian of this style of marriage.
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what if... your hubby did something you cant forgive nor forget.. will you stay for the kid? but of cos.. you dont hate him.. stay together still will talk. and he treat you very well? as in.. he has always been treating you very well since day 1 and has never changed but one day he told a lie that you cant forgive nor forget... will you divorce cos no trust together also no pt or will you stay on for the kid or what?
is it better to divorce when the baby still young or what?
Last edited by annie; 31-07-2009 at 08:25 PM.
There are some things I can't tahan at all: infidelity and abuse. I will walk out of the door and never return, especially for abuse.
I'm a bit old-fashioned and will stay on for my dear daughter's sake, unless we really hate each other's guts.
so if he abuse you you also stay for your girl?
oh.. so if he unfaithful 2nd time you sure say bye bye ? even got girl also?
well.. no one knows if he will keep making the same mistake hehe.
some men when say they change, they really will change. some men wont change. some men.. change for a while then forget everything n back to old self..
sometimes i wonder y men make women so headache to make such decision on whether to let our child go fatherless or not. its such a hard decision n feel the baby so poor thing..choose to make them fatherless feel they very poor thing.. dont make them fatherless then we very poor thing lol. even if we stay on without love, think kids can sense it.. then eventually they also very poor thing.. like watever choice we make also wrong... y men create such problems for us women!!! if they guai guai be a good hubby n father then our kid can grow up happily in a family with both mummy n daddy right? hai~
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annie mummy, i have the same tots as you... ya, why can't they just "behave" themseleves for the sake of their children or for us? why must they be unfaithful and etc? sigh!!!
because some men dont't think with their heads, they think with their hormones!
yeah loh, quite unfair. There's this little hooha in the straits times over a counselling centre's statement that women see divorce as a sign of independence and a nice to have status!
Hello! Why would we want to get married for fun, and then get divorced just so that we can appear independent? Wahhh, want to be independent can save up and buy our own car, our own apartments, go travelling etc. Seriously there are other lesss painful ways of asserting our independence!
i just feel.. men is not mature enough to think with their brains should not get married n 害人害己. even married should not have a baby n ruin the baby's future with a broken family..
i totally agreed with you again, annie mummy... yes, why dont they think with their freaking brains... just get married and dont plan for their family... just want to have baby without thinking about their baby's future... mine is unplanned and unexpected though we are married... i find that most mummies are more mature than men / daddies / hubbies...
yup, yup, agree.
If they are not prepared for married life and kids, they really shouldn't get married!
i think its not very fair to say that all men are the same like that.
there are some men, or hubbies that make good fathers.
sometimes its how they were brought up, the peer influence they have throughout their lives. these things add on to their thinking and decisions in life.
as you guys said, if they not prepared to get married and have kids, then the questions shld go back to us women, why didnt we open our eyes big enough and understand them better (their goals in life, whether they are ready or not) before marrying them??
we can choose not to marry them if we feel they are not ready right???
many a times in life, we ourselves can be unsure of what we want, and our thinkings change with time. sometimes only when things happen, then we realise, we might not be ready at all.
marriage and parenting are very big commitments, many ppl think they can handle it, only in actual fact they are in it, then perhaps they realise they are not.
but if our men stray, ever thought the cause of it? is it just them or are we part of the reason why???
bcos men do not go thru pregnancy, thus they dont feel how we feel. thus might not be easy for us to give up our kids just like that.
Do not argue with an idiot. He will drag you down to his level and beat you with experience.
perhaps too many women also think they can change their men after marriage. Which the change almost never happens.
its all really depends on how well you can take it....as woman, i guess it is easy to forgive them for the sake of kids....but repeat the mistake, i guess it is time to say bye bye!~
currently, this is what i do now....he is now try very hard to patch back....but i still need to think a lot first....
if we are together, everyday quarrel in front of son, and one day he will sure to abused me again...i am very sure, that why i leave....i want to give my son complete family...but i think i would rather not to let him witness the quarrels, shouting and violence....this is really bad for him....
if stay becos of kids , but there no feeling , staying like strangers , never get happiness again ,what for have to stay , maybe there is a another way that kid still can stay happily and grow haelthy , who knows !! For me i wont stay , with him unfaithful , abuse , quarrel everyday .. sleeping in one bed like stranger ..