This is a discussion on An unhappy confinement period within the Home Life, Relationships & Finance forum, part of the You and Your Family category; haha...your house can spend $ meh...my pediatrician gv my baby destin 2 tube so no need buy also..as for bird ...
haha...your house can spend $ meh...my pediatrician gv my baby destin 2 tube so no need buy also..as for bird nest my fridge still got but nver cook as dont koe y during my pregnacy i will vomit when i ate bird nest so there is alot balance..but i koe ask her buy what...CORDYCEP haha veri ex herbs........heehee so bad...must let her go back
bbgal, actually desitin you can stock up mahh, i dont know for other mummies but for me, i will appl desitin on dear son's butt after every diaper change so 2 tube for me can only last around 2-3 mths.. haha... and diapers, just stock up M n L size like what spiral said.. haha!
afraid gt expiry that y dont dare stock up the desitin creme n she also not stupit ...just now i hint hint that no more cordycep she ask mi tell my hubby to buy ...n just now my neighbour bought her to chinatown shop shop wahhhh she bought 12 pcs of baby clothes of the same design n same pattern of 4 colours...haha even nanny ask her y buy same design so many...she say cheap...
Go IMM just go buy more. And pretend to forget to bring your wallet and such.
I'll be a full time mummy. Actually I'm already. had quit my job when we found out that I'm pregnant, as my previous working place environment isn't very good for the baby.
my mum is always wrying that i cant cope with dear son alone, esp last time when i just finished confinement. then i asked her "what is it so wrying? i'm his mother! no matter i hav experience anot, i CAN cope and i have to learn!" i'm not one who has much patience, but since i can do it, you can too! and it's every mothers' responsibilty to learn too =)
my suggestion is, if your hubby's salary is okay to support you and baby, y not spend the time with your baby see her grow up? it's very amazing to see how a baby grows and how fast they learn you know? =) and you dare to put your baby under other's care? the person is not your inlaws, not your paretns worr, unless you wanna put her in infant care. at least infant care's teachers are more experience with babies.. haha
i call my hubby my BOSS! everytime i'll call him "lao ban!" HAHA!!!! anw, for allowances, he will deposit his salary into our joint acc and he will transfer HIS allowances to his personal acc, then the rest of the money i will go and pay the bills, buy dear son's FM/diapers etc.. so i'm in charge of going to pay everything, buy everything and decide hw much to save and of cos a small parts will goes to my personal acc..
it depends on both of you also. hmmm if your hubby is the one who GO and bpay all the bills then mayb the money he gives you monthly will be lesser. mayub he just give you some allowances for you to buy your own things n save. but if you r the one who GO and buy all the bills, buy baby's things then your have to wk out hw much all these cost per month and he has to give you that amount of money + your allowances.. =) for me, i cant rely on my hubby to go n pay the bills cos he always FORGET to pay! haha!!
Can bring your mother in law to the casino to spend money. Hehehe.
so angry with her just now she say i stubborn...arggggg my pediatrician say dont gv water to my baby till they are at least 3 month old n she said y must isten to doc last time all her kid all gv water..gv water wun die. Everything also listen to doc she is a parents of FOUR listen to her y i so STUBBORN alway want listen to DOCTOR!!!THEY NOT ALWAYS RITE!!! then what is doc for? STBBORN she is my gal dont i have the rite to say sumthing...when i told my hubby, my hubby say he dont koe who is rite....argggggggg y no 1 want to listen to mi...she reli getting to my nervessssssssssssssss............my gal got rashes i told her is heat rash that what the doctor say...as long maintain temp around 24 to 25 degree wun have pb....she say allergy to my BREASTMILK!!!!!!Goshhhhh....i nver heard will allergy to breastmilk .She claim that coz my milk is unhealthy that y she got rashes..what rubbishhhhh n she said feed FM wun have these pb....n tml she going to buy FM for her...arggggggggggg i'm going to explode!!!!!!!!!
If she so expert, then go be a doctor, earn so much more money right. And yes, some babies are allergic to FM, thus there are soya milk available in the market.
Ask her on what basis is your breastmilk unhealthy and what proof does she have to back up with? As for her being able to bring up 4 kids, yes. But as each generation advance, there's more knowledge and research. You might as well say last time police wear shorts, now they wear long pants. Yes, doctor may not be always right, but she's always right is that it?
Just insist on your stand, you are the mom, and repeatedly remind her that. YOU ARE THE MOTHER, NOT HER. Thus remind her to respect your position. yes she has HBP, but sooner or later, you'll have HBP too, next time just tell her that if she dont't have HBP, you'll be having one soon.
Really cannot take your mother in law.
and those rashes izzit on face only? if so, it's perfectly NORMAL! every babies has it, dont need apply anything, just use cool boiled water to clean it frequently.. allergy to your breast milk? WTH! who will get allergy to breast milk?
if i were you, i will tell EVERYONE in the house "WHOEVER DARE TO FEED MY BABY A DRIP OF WATER OR FM, I WILL CHASE HIM/HER IMMEDIDATELY! SHE IS MY BABY! SO I DECEIDE WHAT TO GIVE, WHAT NOT TO GIVE!"
anw if she wants to buy FM, let her buy, buy as much as possible, she buy, doesnt mean you have to feed, just let her buy, ask her to buy Enfalac, enfalac most expensive. let her spend her money lorrrr.. FM nvm dee, wont waste, you can always come to the forum, sell it cheaper to the mummies here.
she bought 2 tin of similac argggg n she want mi to feed her with similac coz she say salegirl say that similac like breastmilk and she say try drink maybe after drinking the rashes will go away..n it make her full coz babies cannot b asking for feed every 2 to 3 hr coz my milk dont make her feel full that y she keep asking for milk...i ask her dont buy she go BUY!!!!So angry... like she is the expert coz she had 4 kids before. Alway comparing mi n her past tense experiences...WORSE she say BREASTMILK is actualli BLOODSTAIN...coz last time she feed BREAST got BLOOD come out!!! W T H.....i even show her the colours of my breastmilk is milky white n she say is hidden ...Tho i want her to finish her $ but dont BOTHER MY CHILD!!
BTW hw much is 1 tin of similac 900g anyone koe?
If breastmilk is unhealthy means you r not eating enough healthy food. Time to get her to spend more $$$ on you and stock you up on all the ginseng...or watever expensive herbs....and tell her it's true your milk not healthy cos you everytime kena pissed by her till your blood pressure rise and this affects the milk therefore, your girl have the rash. Ask her to leave you alone then the rash will disappear....
rmb, DONT feed your baby FM if you want to fully BF her. never start FM since your breast milk is enough, and you're determine enough to BF your baby. and, dont let her have the chance to make milk for your baby.
honestly, even your baby is drinking FM, she also will ask for milk every 2hrs. last time my breast milk not enough, so i alternate with FM n breast milk, even he drink FM, also cried for milk 1.5-2hrs later. if breast milk, will cried 1 hr later. haha!!
tell her even your baby drank your milk thru bf-ing, it's OKAY! tell her your breast milk is xian dan! given by God! can cure every illness, can keep babies healthy!
when the hell your mother in law is going back?!
I just read your plight and am really angry for you.
I guess your CL must be more frim with your mother in law as well since she is a pro in doing Confinement and must stand by her own principles in cooking esp putting wine in your food, its not a prob for bf if you bf before eating or 2 hours apart.
I think our mother in law are in the generation which they were "tortured" by their mother in law so its like revenge time for them now.
The best way to deal with her in my opinion is not to let her go out everyday, if she insist, then you tell her she can only go out when CL does her marketing because you scared sg weather so unpredictable nowadays she will get heat stroke or fall down if raining. And pls dont't give in to her by going out to buy cakes for her anymore. Tell her cakes cannot eat cause high sugar, fat content blah blah blah so will cause her diabetes and increase her HPB.
I think to deal with this kinda mother in law, the words you used and speak to her must be sharp and sarcastic. dont be too worked up as its bad for your health and might affect your and baby's mood too.
Hope it helps.