This is a discussion on What do you do when your hubby SHOUTS at you in PUBLIC??? within the Home Life, Relationships & Finance forum, part of the You and Your Family category; Originally Posted by bellerichez Haha. Same. But so far my hubby never shout at me in public before. But there's ...
Married for 12 years, my husband never shouts at me. He has very good temper. On the contrary, my temper is very bad, It explode so quick sometimes I dont even realise that I'm loosing it! Ahh bo, how to survive through these 12 years?
If i put myself in that situation, I think I would have slapped him, or slammed him, or kicked him in the a55 (hmm i dont know but my tolerance is ZERO) aah well that's just me...
I think number 2 will be the best remedy. When one is angry, words can be very harsh, you can say/hear the most horrible things, so it's best to walk away and leave him alone. One bloody fool is enough, you dont't need to join him.
bf's temper is much better than me!!
he never shout at me before, but whenever we are argueing, im sure to raise my voice.
but he said, only to me then he can tolerate and give in, if other ppl, already kena F by him.
If anyhow shout at me i take out the parang!!!hahahhah.
But i am lucky he never shouts at all..maybe lucky for him..or else surely make curry out of him.My temper is the worst..so unless he has really lost his mind n shouts..then ..free curry for whole neighborhood..hehehhehe
WOW, very violent wife, Jasbias!
But I think the truth is all along we are more fierce than our hubby ^^
I'll choose option 2.
However, my temper is much worse than hubby. lol.
at least yours is still daring.my only has the guts to raise his voice at me in front of his own family members. For me i will try and control. if he steps on me too much, its bye bye
Wow, Jal dear, if your hubby shouts at you in public, you better ask yourself wether it's his bad habbit or it's just a spontaneous anger.... But still he have no right to shouts at you in public
if me i'd choose no.2
but when he calm down after that then you need to clarify to him that he have to respect you too as an adult and as his wife!
It's not like you're a 5 year old and got scolded in public for doing something bad rite?
Even to a 5 year old parent's should not shout at them in public to coz it's making their self esteem down..coz it's making ppl around the kid looking and stare which is not a pleasant feeling.... (according to child psychology..hehe)
Why not let the internal house issue stays at home where you both can talk about it as an adult.
hmmm, your hubby's attitude change after marriage? dotn treat you as well???
well, im very confident that the treatment my bf gives me will get better after marriage.
cos it keeps getting better.
if a man changes so much after he marries his gf, perhaps he doesnt truly love her.
ppl dont just change the way they do things after they are married. it slowly improves due to mutual understanding and love.
Last edited by Ting; 02-09-2009 at 10:26 AM.
Not to scare you ....but one good example is my sis....now my brother in law change totally compare to years back...
Then now, my brother who is having a gf, treat her real good also.....i asked him before, after marry will you still do the same, he said : of cos not , after marry hack care ! lol (jokingly reply) hope he is really joking.
me? My husband during that time, treat me like shit! I treat him like king, everything also give in, after years i slowly change, and he also change a little, then after marriage, i try not to give in everything, then after have my dear son, i totally hack care also....then we fight and fight~~~
sigh, me before very navie, thot after marry will be better....sigh....no more confident in marriage and relationship ....morever i also very old
My hubby and I know each other for 17 years in total. Dated for 5 years, married for 12 years and he never shouts at me in public nor at home, also partly due to his good temper. In fact, I find he is more loving than before. I think to be able to meet my husband and marry him is the greatest reward that God has given me.
hmm perhaps not the cases ive seen.
my dad still treat my mum well after so many years of marriage, bring her out to dinner n buy stuffs n all. of cos there will still be arguements.
one of my close gfs, before marriage, her hubby woo her very hard, theirs is shot gun marriage, n now already gg to have second child, he still treat her very well, will come to fetch her (and us) to n fro if we go out, bring her here n there.
my ex teacher also the same, her hubby once in a while will give her nice surprises like buy her diamonds n stuffs.
i guess, boils down to the personality.
perhaps i understand my bf well enough to know he will treat me well bah.
liang jia~ you not old !! be hopeful, sure to meet a nice guy.
Do not argue with an idiot. He will drag you down to his level and beat you with experience.
Me old 30yr old , no more strength to go thru another relationship again.....I find it is very tiring....to know someone all over again.....dont want .......have my darling isaac is enough....and he is already a headache at times...where got energy