From a men's point of view, you have done a great job ...maybe yr husband think you spend too much time with kids and there are less time for both of you for love bonding
If i were to hang out till late nite twice week, i believe my wife would strangle me . Believe everyone need some fresh air & stay in touch with friends. Ever since settling down 2 years, i would only tried to meet friends for drinking only once a month....with my baby on the way, most likely can only do it less often probably once every 2 months.
With family commitment, we guys need to sacrifice and have less personal time.As my spouse is working full time, we wuld share the house chores ..alot of thing can't be so calculative as a couple....just give & take