This is a discussion on What does your mother in law do for you when you are pregnant? within the Home Life, Relationships & Finance forum, part of the You and Your Family category; Originally Posted by akachan09 Hi dont be sad...it seems like we are on the same boat. I had two miscarriages ...
There're always 2 ways to look at things ... a same glass of water on the table, some will see it as half-full while others will see it as half-empty.Originally Posted by izanyzam
In your case, I seriously feel your mother in law just dont wanna put unnecessary pressure on you ... with the knowledge of your 2 miscarriages at the back of their mind.
If she's the superstitious sort, it could also be her effort not to attract attention onto your little one ... so that no "dirty things" can do harm to it, like they previously did for the past 2 times.
Rest assured that your mummy is looking down from up there ... she's definitely doing all she can to protect you & your little one.Originally Posted by izanyzam
But you must do your part too ... be strong, be focused ... dont waste your energy on little things that is only gonna make your pregnancy a more stressful one. Your little one will always rather you smile than you cry ... always remember that.
You sounds positive and it maybe the case for izanyam. However....for my case, my mother in law really dont care much. I once told her that I kept having fainting spells and hope that she cared to say something nice. At first she did not hear it clearly. Her reaction was "huh... boy got fainting spell?..what happened to him?" When I clarified that it was me, she got nothing to say. So sad. I always feel upset whenever I visit my in-laws.
Last edited by CanCanMum; 24-05-2009 at 09:26 PM.
Life's always more beautiful when we are positive ourselves.Originally Posted by akachan09
For your case, whatever your mother in law is, you are only a few more steps from successfully being a mummy again.
Like I always tell some mummies here, if your mother in law was really so evil ... then all the more you must make sure you become the perfect mother in law in future.
It's good to think positively but by looking at their expressions each time I visited them, I cannot think positive at all...sigh... Luckily my hubby always stand by me. My mother in law had a wonderful mother in law in the past so I do not understand why she cannot treat me like the way her mother in law treated her. I always tell my hubby that I will not want to behave like his mum when I had DILs in future.