endoh > ya... this can be a very extensive scenario to talk about.
mayb i'm getting old. find that many youngsters nowadays want to behave like adult but their minds r still not ready for it. and many definitely lack self confidence and esteem. maybe partly due to past experiences.
alot of causes for all that. family upbringing, past experiences, exposures, modernization, freedom, competition,...
liang jia > you can also blog about your unhappiness or even share it here, esp if your friends r bz.
gals n guys handle things differently. mayb your husband want to listen fr gal's pt of view? i seek for my guy friends' opinion sometimes. but everything must have limit . guys dont think so much about their loved one's feelings, unlike we gals. you'll need to let him know that doing this will hurt your feelings. if he cares, he'll stop doing it. ask him y he doesnt want to share his probs w you.
there was 1 time when my husband share his probs w me. but instead of giving him the support n love (which is all he wanted fr me), i try to find what went wrong, try to find solutions for him which made him more unhappy. but i'm lucky 'cause my husband will voice out what he want fr me, what he dont like n stuff. will tell me if i cont to do that, it'll make him not want to share anything w me 'cause i'm not helping at all, actually making him feel worse.
so mayb you want to have a talk w your husband again. for the sake of your kid. it's alw better to give your kid a happy complete family. it takes 2 hands to clap. both must b willing to communicate, b open n handle any differences calmly n maturely. no finger pointing. if he refuses, then dont care about him anymore. at least you've tried your best.