This is a discussion on Why mother in law like to behave in this way? within the Home Life, Relationships & Finance forum, part of the You and Your Family category; Originally Posted by reginakoh it's your baby full month not her full month.. haha.. may i know who's paying the ...
all i did was ask my mum to come up with a list of who she needs to give, then from there calculate how many boxes and i go buy. that's it
but end up my mum say it's troublesome, so we had a buffet lunch for friends, and restaurant dinner for relatives. fully paid by my parents, so i just shut up n turn up
We ask her (mother in law) to give me a list of frenz or relative they wanna give out cakes, then she start saying "your family there also must give if not they will say us" i fed up & reply " my uncles' & aunty & frenz they dont like cakes "... Hubby see , ask me go into room & on air con & play game with him.
Then this is your bullet in future, if she still want to force-feed at home, you can tell her ", remember doctor say cannot drink too much ".
i already & just order her shares... haha... i simply bo chap want
actualli my relatives prefer giving bengawan solo gift vouchers cos can go use it to purchse other things of same value. i know my mum like to keep them till near CNY then take all out to use!
want face also must see practical anot ... sometimes i feel that those "elderly" should also respect the younger generations..
i keep tell my hubby that my baby full month i dont wanna celebrate cos very troublesome but father in law insist.. So i tell him, lao niang will be the one choosing the catering company and the food!!! Just tell me hw many ppl can alrdy, if not dont celebrate!
like my baby full month that time also like that. my sister In law always carry my baby here and there also askin for my baby. then my mum know i dont like, (i always complain to my mum bout em) so my mum say (ai yo, let me carry, baby's great grandmother want to c) my mum always find excuses to carry frm her, even my baby's lst one your old party also like that, then you can c two groups of ppl kept askin for my baby... but my sister In law not pai say one, thick skinned....
Last edited by sean-tan; 30-05-2009 at 01:14 AM.
Think of all these as outsourcing when planning events with inherited relatives.
I had my baby shower at husband's grandfather's house. They wanted to do everything, including buy cakes etc. So i didn't get invovled in the planning or anything. On that day, me, baby and husband went to the house. No clean up, no payment nothing. haha
Same for baby's first birthday. I did 2 parties. One at my mum's place, one at my mother in law home (unfortunately i live with mother in law). The one at my mum's place settled by my mum. The one at the house all paid and organised by mother in law I didn't do a single thing nor could I be bothered. Didn't even do any cleaning up =D Just be there with baby that's all.
my hubby got mention to me before that father in law might want to sponsor baby's buffet... but I straight away say NO! cos i know once they "sponsor" means they decide everything from the catering to the foods.... unless he dont mind paying and let us join in the discussion .. afterall it's my baby's full month..