This is a discussion on Wife, Will you scold & quarrel with your husband over trival matter within the Home Life, Relationships & Finance forum, part of the You and Your Family category; for me, i feel men always take some things lighter and brush off as minor things, whats the big deal ...
for me, i feel men always take some things lighter and brush off as minor things, whats the big deal - ok i am sorry then full stop.
but anything minor could be magnified 100 times to us. too many too many happening in everyday life already.
if she dont like you to do something, then avoid it when she is present. for example, my hubby dont like me to ask him sleep early. fyi, his sleeping time is 5-6am ok , worse can be 7 or 8am which wife in the whole world can tolerate? but i let him be, unless the next day there is important meeting, then i will just REMIND HIM ONCE.
I dont't know about the rest, but I would feel hurt should my guy be ranting about me in a forum to strangers. :/
Go talk to her instead of complaining. Do you think she could b suffering from post natal depression? You ought to know her personality better than any of us to judge if she's been acting different after birth....it's not only about bringing her out or helping with housework; not all females seek that. My guy know I prefer more personal time just both of us, without our girls... So maybe she's just seeking for something missing in your lives before your bub came along....
Whatever it is, work it out with her. You need to rant, grab some guy buddies , go for a drink and rant.. It's scary that she reads this forum as well.... Imagine the hurt she will feel if she knew it was you....
Sorry if I was crude and straightforward.
its seems like your problem is quite bad .. how long has this been happen already ??
Simon73, you have not't answered my question. Have you done something wrong to your wife and that's why she treats you this way? Or are you looking for validation from the ladies or men from this forum to tell you that you have a horrid partner and that you should leave her? I find it strange that if your marriage is really bad, shouldn't you be looking at counselling or ways to fix your marriage rather than coming to the forum site to rant about your wife? From your posts, this has been going on for a while, isn't it?
but you have to know that sometimes being a stay at home mum is more tired then working outside , cos being a stay at home mum is a 24hrs job with no pay n no off ..
somemore when the kids are small and being a first time mom , she might be more stress over it
you really have to try to talk to her slowly .. find days which she got better mood to see wats really troubling her
my hubby dont work in office job like you , he even have to work on wkends and his working hours is long , 12 - 13hrs
he only sleep 7hrs -8hrs at wkdays ! cos he have to do hsework and fetch my boy , even my boy is big enuff to go sch himself but he insist on bringing him thro n fro , sometimes he also cook for us ..
sometimes if i have gynae check up cos currently i'm pregnant , he only sleep like 4hrs only , my check up is twice a month
as a stay at home mum myself, i tink my hubby is really putting alot of effort on our family , he can dont help with hsework at all cos my kids r big already , i dont have to 24hrs look after my boys , they can jolly well look after themselves , not only bcos i'm pregnant so he help out , before that he's alrdy doing all the hsework for me ..
i believe if you help a little more , your wife will be very happy , esp wen the kids r small , its really very hard for them to do so much tings , when my kids r small , my hubby didnt help out alot , have to nagged everytime wen he comes home .. slowly he change , even now sometimes i will still nag abit on some stuffs but he always just smile n nod to me and i'll stop after that cos i just wanna whine abit ..
sometimes you may feel like girls sometimes a little more whiny on stuffs cos we keep on nagging but gonna understand that , if we care we will say , if we dont even care , i tink we cant be bothered at all alrdy .. =)
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Find a proper time and try talking to her properly. If it still doesnt work, guess its better to go separated ways. No point being together if you are not happy and no freedom.