Are U Ever Think Married is Regret

[yoan]

Hi...

mum & dad r you ever think married with hubby is regret? sometimes i will think i want divorce but think back how about my son.
How about of you?

[LoVeS]

Nope never regret in fact i hope to get marry to dear husband earlier

[smurferoos]

My hubby and i are each other's first love, our love was very strong, but after our child, i feel that my love for him has changed, maybe becos he is so busy with work and i feel that i am left alone to do all the caregiving stuff and sort of feel very frustrated with him, sometimes i really feel like giving this marriage up, but like you i won't do it for a few reasons

1) My daughter
2) Deep down i know i still love him very much, despite the difficulties we faced now!

though it might seem very bleak now, and it seems that both of you can't agree on anything and can't communciate with each other, but if the couple really put in an effort, i believe the marriage will come up stronger!! Good luck!

[yoan]

Originally Posted by smurferoos My hubby and i are each other's first love, our love was very strong, but after our child, i feel that my love for him has changed, maybe becos he is so busy with work and i feel that i am left alone to do all the caregiving stuff and sort of feel very frustrated with him, sometimes i really feel like giving this marriage up, but like you i won't do it for a few reasons 1) My daughter 2) Deep down i know i still love him very much, despite the difficulties we faced now! though it might seem very bleak now, and it seems that both of you can't agree on anything and can't communciate with each other, but if the couple really put in an effort, i believe the marriage will come up stronger!! Good luck!

i same with you. he also busy with work. i alone do caregivingg stuff & very frustraed to look after my son.

[xiaodaisy]

sometimes wen quarrels get too heaty .. but after all thinking for e kids of cos forget loh .. but all e while oni i did all e tinkin cos he never bothered mi much even wen i say divorced haha cos he just treat mi as a little kid throwing temper lolz..

[deardar]

Originally Posted by yoan Hi... mum & dad r you ever think married with hubby is regret? sometimes i will think i want divorce but think back how about my son. How about of you?

sama sama

i did ever voice out to him that i want to divorce
bt for the sake of my baby is hold on till now

[deardar]

Originally Posted by xiaodaisy sometimes wen quarrels get too heaty .. but after all thinking for e kids of cos forget loh .. but all e while oni i did all e tinkin cos he never bothered mi much even wen i say divorced haha cos he just treat mi as a little kid throwing temper lolz..

hannor
we are serious bt they treats like sing song
really takin us for granted

[deardar]

i knw that i cant change him
i just pray hard that he will b more mature & responsible in thinking

i did think back if i will to turn the clock backwards again
i will never say "I DO"

[xiaodaisy]

but actually wenever saying that word if he gonna say yes what you do?? as for mi sometimes angry of cos serious but if he really agree i tink i would also regret after that haha cos no matter how also we choose in e first place.. sometimes no need to change dear husband cos what he si now is the one that you onced loved as long as he place you in e heart else dont matter ..

[tommyBoi]

[quote=deardar;18587]i knw that i cant change him
i just pray hard that he will b more mature & responsible in thinking

i did think back if i will to turn the clock backwards again
i will never say "I DO"[/quote]

This is quite serious.. you need to talk to your dear husband how you feel, if not you and him will still divorce in future, is a matter of time.

[stonston]

i never regret marrying my husband....sometimes get frustrated, but we went thru alot to get married, nothing in this world will change that....

n i feel that though after have baby not much alone time, but we still spend alot of time together as a family....n simple things like my husband fetch me home after work, we tok about our day during e journey home is very nice...
n i'm thankful my husband noes it is hard work having to look after kid when we reach home fm tired day at work....he takes e initiative to help look after my boi while i rest....
n he dont mind weekday stay at my mum's place cos he noes got more pple to help look after or play with my boy....

[bluechin]

No regrets... in fact i feel blessed to marry my husband and now with 2 wonderful kids.

I think it takes two hands to clap in a marriage. Communication as well as understanding each other.

[smurferoos]

Good for your Stonston, for me my hubby is so busy that sometimes i dont't think i talk to him more than 10 sentences a day...serious!!

i really treasure our relationship, but sometimes it is just so trying!

If i can turn back the clock, i will still say yes to marrying him, but i will not have kids with him! cos he is not the kind of partner who is suitable to have kids with, cos he is too preoccupied with his career!

[deardar]

[quote=tommyBoi;18600]

Originally Posted by deardar i knw that i cant change him i just pray hard that he will b more mature & responsible in thinking i did think back if i will to turn the clock backwards again i will never say "I DO"[/quote] This is quite serious.. you need to talk to your dear husband how you feel, if not you and him will still divorce in future, is a matter of time.

m trying to save this r/s but with me alone this cant work at all

[yoan]

I know my hubby now is hard working & when he reach home go to room & sleep.

i also cant change him & hope he will more mature & responsible thinking.

[stonston]

actualli, there r times i wish my husband is more career minded....cos it means e family will have more $$ to go holidays or more savings....

BUT....it is a fine balance...if he is really pursuing a highflying career, he wont be home alot n will always b so tired n grouchy....then i will start complaining that he dont spend enuf time with me n family....but actual fact, he is trying his best to earn more for e family to have a good life!!

but in reality, my husband not very career minded...he cares for e family but he values time with family more than $$....so he rather take a lower paying job, just do his job well n take his pay...everyday reach home on e dot at 6pm for dinner n play with my boi....

so you really need to ask yourself, ask your husband, if what he is doing now is really what you want? some men tink care for family = earn more money...forgot that they need to spend time with family....so must try to understand fm your husband's stand also...

Deardar, you got ever consider counselling?

[jopeck]

I've no regrets in my marriage. We've have our ups and downs but what I like about hubby is that he's always willing to sit down and work things through (as soon as I yell loud enough for him to pay attention. Heh heh!)

If not for him, I wouldn't have made it through my parenting journey so far and I wouldn't have the wonderful friendship I have with him.

If you are having issues with hubby, do take the time to sit and talk with him. Let him know its important to you. Many times, guys are so focused on their work/needs that they really dont't see what to us is in plain sight. You may be pleasantly surprised at the results of your efforts to be heard.

My last resort is usually a very long letter/email... that gets me results. But I do be sure to phrase what I say carefully so it doesn't sound like I'm beating him up.
I usually throw enough info for him to start getting worried and then he'll come and ask me to talk.

[Leanne]

I have.....................

[vion]

Originally Posted by smurferoos Good for your Stonston, for me my hubby is so busy that sometimes i dont't think i talk to him more than 10 sentences a day...serious!! i really treasure our relationship, but sometimes it is just so trying! If i can turn back the clock, i will still say yes to marrying him, but i will not have kids with him! cos he is not the kind of partner who is suitable to have kids with, cos he is too preoccupied with his career!

Hehe just to share with you ...my dear husband also always busy with work...I'll stand or sit outside the toilet while he's doing his 'biz' to tok to him about all that happen for the day n he'll also share his...

[vion]

Regrets??? Sometimes yes I must admit. But with no intention of divorcing cos like many others said life's full of ups n downs, it's just a phrase of life that we have to go thru.

There were times when I really feel neglected by dear husband, so much so I wanted to buy his time. Haizzz it doesn't just happen in I NOT STUPID 2 ...kekeke

[aishah_28]

Originally Posted by vion Hehe just to share with you ...my dear husband also always busy with work...I'll stand or sit outside the toilet while he's doing his 'biz' to tok to him about all that happen for the day n he'll also share his...

So cute and so sweet! As for me, during the early stages of marriage, I used to think that I regret marrying since I refused to compromise. But now.. after one kid, no regrets as I've overcome lots of obstacles and besides, I got to think of my son and the baby which is due next month. Sometimes I feel lost when he works for 24 hours, b cos dear husband helps me alot in taking care of dear son

[Leanne]

Vion, same for me! I'll lie on our bed, look at him shitting & talk about everything. LOL

[precious*baby]

Vion n Leanne, same with you mommies...

dear husband was very busy with his wrk so must treasure the time talking with him..

never regret marrying dear husband, was grateful to have him as a part of my life..

[elfsg]

i do think of divorce cos ever since married, there is lots of issue... during the whole pregnacy he is almost not with me, except delivery period. parenting responisbility is all taken care by myself... he is just simply busy with work till i not too sure whether to believe or not.... but the thought of my girl...endure..endure... till dont know when the bomb explode....

[ethans mummy]

hmm...sum xs ...thought of if stil single, life wuld be so much enjoyable & less tirng?!
* sighed *