lik you said mah, it's MONEY that your hubby gave her... LOL...Each time I go back to my mother-in-law's place with my hubby with little presents of food or fruits, she will always say things like "Aiya, no need to buy". or "How much did you buy it for? The shop downstairs sells it cheaper by xx cents." "Why dont you take it back & eat it yourself"?
Alternatively, she will try to give the items away to her daughters who also come to visit. I mean I am fine with this if it is done occasionally since the item is cheap, but what I wish is she would sometimes understand my kind intentions & 'xin' (heart), & consume the food herself rather than giving them away everytime. After all, it is bought with my hard-earned money.
BUT BUT BUT when my hubby gives her monthly allowance, it is a totally different story. She will never ever say things like "Aiya, dont need to gimme. Save some for yourself." or "Next time dont gimme so much. I have enough $'. After taking the money from my hubby, she will IMMEDIATELY count it & keep the money in her cupboard & lock it properly. And keep the key by her side AT ALL TIMES. Even her hubby has NO access whatsoever to that mysterious cupboard. But what everyone knows is that she has a lot of money kept inside there because a few years ago, she withdrew her money from a bank after it reached maturity. From what I heard from my hubby, that amounts to a tune of a 5 digit figure!!!
And before I got married into his family, his mother did not once ask or offer my hubby any money for the wedding dinner or renovation or electrical appliances or furniture. NOTHING. And she did NOT gimme me any jewellery or things like that. She just kept quiet. Other mothers I know will try to help their son by offering or lending some money since they are going to receive a daughter-in-law. But she, she just guards her money zealously.
The above behaviour of hers makes me feel that she is a money grubber!!!
Do you also have such a mother-in-law???
eh... i dont know for others but i thought giving jewelleries to daughter in law when they get marry with their son is a "must"??? like those 4 dian jin???