This is a discussion on April 09 MTBs! within the Year 2011 and earlier Mummy forum, part of the Mummy Meeting Place category; Originally Posted by pinkytham did it once and it was very very painful =( It shouldn't be very very painful, ...
I'm back! I even figured out how to attach photo to my profile.
Actually, I thought I typed out a reply 2 weeks ago. I have not't checked the forum cos recovery took about 2 weeks - I had this rare side-effect, epidural headache, as well as incredible water retention, not to mention the after- pains & aches. Breastfeeding was a BIG pain. Bleeding nipples....cos baby has big mac appetite (or so I thought, until I read about other ravenous babies )
My baby was born on 18 April 2009 at almost 41 weeks. I was induced & baby was delivered naturally after a 33-hr labour. I used 5.5 vials of epidural. The nurses at Mt A were so accommodating but most were mildly shocked/surprised to see me still lying there when they returned at next shift!
My gynae also asked me to return in 5 weeks for pap smear. dont't like it. Cos my tempermental cervis may act up again... without epidural, nurses & doc had difficulty putting their fingers down there to measure dilation. Even with epidural, dilation was like 1 cm per two hours!
sigh, I almost had a c-section cos even after waiting so long, baby was in wrong position - too high & facing front & maybe a bit big (53 cm & 3.35 kg) for my size. Fortunately, my gynae managed to get baby out with vacuum and baby heartbeat was good & stable until the last 2-3 hours.
We're preparing for baby party this coming wkend. Confinement auntie will leave on Sunday. Argh... not sure if I can cope without her... The domestic helper gave quite a bit of problem & attitude. That will take up an entire email.
Fortunately, milk supply is a bit better after I started on fenugreek pills. Appetite has returned. Breastfeeding is more tolerable though it's still painful cos skin keeps tearing.
So far, baby is sweetie. Even her cries sound like a doll.
She has grown. I think she weighs 4kg plus now.
So far, I have not't been waking up at night. Wish us strength!The real race starts then.
Same too, we're planning for baby's 1st month this weekend and my confinement lady is also leaving on sunday so i'm thinkg of doing on a Sat so that she can still help out.. heh heh.
How much is your ger drinking now? I'm also breastfeeding and supply so far ok. Have you tried fenugreek in tincture (aka liquid)? just need to drop 1-2 drops in your drink if you're tired of popping pills. I was.
Lucky you, I'm waking up at least twice to express my milk or got woken up my baby's cries.
My girl's drinking about 90 ml per 3-hr feed of breast milk & FM. My confinement auntie has to work hard for her dough cos my milk supply is paltry at about 40-60+ ml. 3 hours->40ml, 6-8 hr->50-60+ml. She has to estimate & work out the balance, trying her best not waste FM. She's trying to keep the little one to a 3-hr feed. The little one also falls asleep at breast, breaking into 2-hr feeding pattern at one point. That really threw confinement auntie off.
I dont't wake up at night as I've taken the easy way out Cos my friends tell me to sleep & rest my back during confinement cos after that, I have to keep waking up! Plenty of time for bonding for next 6 month.
I figure it'll prob be faster to breastfeed every 2-3 hours at night than to wake & make FM. Will sleep longer during the day.
I'm ok w popping fenugreek pills as I have a "legit" excuse to gulp water! after starting on fenugreek pills, I feel hungry now (maybe also cos I'm recovering) & I can pump 50ml per 3 hours now! That's 20-30% more!
I wonder when I can pump 90 ml ? by then baby's probably going to want 120-150 ml. I may never catch up with her appetite
My mother lives nearby but can't come over regularly cos she has to take care of 2 my nieces - 14 month & 4 yr-old.
I'm a little nervous as I have not't been taking care of baby. Cos my friends told me to rest until no ache during confinement. For my first mother's day, I spent the whole morning sleeping...
Today I bathed baby for the 1st time. Confinement lady said I did great for 1st-timer. Tmw I will sleep in baby room & start feeding at wee-hours. The real race starts on Sunday.
I can't rely on my helper as she's quite careless & not teachable, esp when tired. I almost fired her at end of wk after we got back fr hospital. After lots of conference, we decided to keep her so that I can focus on caring for baby for time being. I can't risk baby in her hands.
The most impt thing is to stay happy for baby. I'm telling myself not to stress over helper, baby party & husband.
I really wanted a cute hi-tea party But it's turning out to be the relative-bee hoon-curry combi cos I can't starve my guests. I wanted cupcakes, not bangawan solo cards. To satisfy my vanity, I'm going to just waste money & buy lots of peach roses & baby breath to decorate my place & make myself happy!
Thereafter, i will prob send SOS on Mon or Tues to my girlfriends & here. cos I'm not going to get much help fr hubby, mother & helper! mother in law loves my girl but she lives so far away... I may have to enlist her help somehow.
crossing 1 slightly stubby leg (still water logged) & 1 slim leg!
Wow Ping, congrats on your very cute baby...
Seems like most of us are going thru the same things now... My CL will also be leaving this Sunday, so the challenge is on. Glad to know that I am not alone in this race... I hope that all of us will score well eh!
As for bathing, you will get better with practice! When I first bathed baby, I was so nervous! I was so worried I would drop or drown her! But as the days pass, you will be a pro!
And yes, the most important thing is to stay happy!
thanks for your encouragement!
I'm so happy for you, sugarcookie. You did it!
Is there any exercise I can do to strengthen the back, near pelvic bone? I get a backache when I breastfeed for more than 30 min. I'm not sure if it's cos baby's heavy (she's 4.7 kg now!) or I need more rest.
Still wondering if I should go for the 6-in-one jab or 5-in-one jab... Hope baby's takes it well.
how old is yoru baby? mine is coming to 2 months ans she is already drinking 140ml. My breast milk is never enough for her though my colleagues all encourage me to let her latch on as wil have more milk.. but how to right??
lately i realise manual pumping using hands are more efficient and will be able to clear out the milk...
hi cream,how you doing? learn how to shower baby yet?
Last night, I had to throw away a batch of precious breast milk again cos it was pinkish/had blood. A friend told me it's alright to drink pink milk but eww ! baby vampire? Already, sometimes I spot blood on the nipple shield. too late to stop her then.
There were times when I wonder how to tahan the pain. She really chomps & I am already using a nipple shield (as advised by nurses cos I have short nipples, making latching more difficult).
breast milk dries up within 15 min using pump... somehow my little champ can continue sucking loudly & vigorously until it hurts. (Even CL is in awe - my baby can clear any blocked duct) When she starts wailing, it means the well is really dry. CL is on standby & swoops in with another 60-75 ml of FM. (breast milk measures 50-60 ml these days.)
It's getting easier & more tolerable. I feel very good when I hold & breastfeed her like only 2-3x/day. Press on bit by bit! Take a break when cannot tahan...
Today I had my first practical lesson to bath baby as my CL will be leaving tomorrow... It is not that bad I think... Just that carrying baby when she is naked is so different from carrying her when she is wearing clothes. I think I would be able to handle this aspect of motherhood with more practice. Just like what sugarcookie said, it would get better with practice.
However, I realised that baby seems to be very used to/comfortable/attached to my CL... when my CL carries her, she would settle down better than when I carry her... So after CL goes back, I believe baby would take some time to get use to me and my scent.
I am working very hard to breastfeed baby but my breast milk is also not sufficient... I use to be able to pump out 150ml in the morning and about 90ml in the afternoon and evening... but now, I only have 70ml in the morning and 40ml in the other sessions of the day. I do not want to stop BF my baby, but CL told me that it seems my supply is coming to an end. So sad... I am still pumping and squeezing like as if my breast is a packet of macdonald's chilli. Every droplet means alot to me... But I tried all ways and means already... fishbone and papaya soup, eating more fish, drinking milo before I express, latch baby on, express regularly even if it's only 20ml. I thought all these should help, but in my case, it seems like it is not working... I wonder what else I can do. I have not tried fenugreek tho'. I heard that some people will have side effects from consuming it, so I dont know if I should.
you use pump ? i realise using hand to squeeze is better. my colleague ever told me as long as we continue to latch on, milk supply will increase. think maybe we should keep pumping even at one hour interval so that our brain will del the message that need to produce more milk.
By the way, are you gals still having the bleeding thing (lochia)? I gave birth for 1 month and still having that so-called menses... wonder when it would end!
It's normal to have spotting if you are still breastfeeding.