I think a lot of us are having issues with our mils.. Me too..
I still remember during the first 2 months, when I was breastfeeding my baby, mother in law and grandmother-in-law will comment that baby not enough to drink, so must supplement with formula milk.. I was so stressed that I gave in after 2 months.. There was a period when baby had diarrohea during his 2nd month.. mother in law one day will say - Aiyah, you see, give baby breast milk when you are sick (I was down with throat inflammation during my confinement), now baby fall sick so easily.. Few days later, she said - You see, didn't give baby enough breast milk, now baby fall sick so easily.. Give breast milk wrong, dont't give breast milk also wrong..
I also feel that I am very useless by the comments / actions by my mother in law.. Whatever I say, she will brush it off, and follow her own method.. Now, as I am back to work, I dont't ask about her methods of taking care of my baby during the day.. However, when I am back from work, I will "claim" my baby from her and take care of him till the next morning.. Last time, I used to stay in the living room with the baby until it is time for his bath and sleep.. But I realised that my mother in law wants to monopolize my baby in the evening even though she spends the entire day with him.. She will purposely distract the baby when hubby or I am playing with baby.. So now, I will bring my baby back to my room once I am back from work, so that hubby and I can spend some time with him...
Sigh.. These are only a few of the incidents that happened.. Nowadays, I try to maintain a "No see no ask" policy, unless it is something that affects my baby's wellbeing..