This is a discussion on EDD in June'09 within the Year 2011 and earlier Mummy forum, part of the Mummy Meeting Place category; Originally Posted by MomoMummy talk ... ever since my mother in law came here 2 weeks before she already keep ...
ya i know. they are 62 this yr, their 1st grandchild.
today conversation wt her almost sparkled. i just keep quiet.
she insist to bringing baby back. she say not use to the life here. i know she misses my father in law and my brother in law. and both of em have difficulty cuming to spore (health). she say they waiting to bao sun for a long time, cant we let them have baby for 3 weeks and cum back. ( go back and forth.. )
i immediately msg my mom that if baby is going back, i want divorce and i will fight for her custody. i want my mom to stop working. since she owns e business she can go work whenever she wans. if not i will look after dear daughter by myself.
im crying everyday although im not supposed to during confinement.
im thinking that i regret marrying my husb bt i really love him. just that his surroundings are giving me problems. im stress out during my 40 week preg. problems arise one after another.
before i sleep, i tell myself if onli i can return back to before we dated. just treat all these as a dream. i really think im getting depression.
i really dont understand hw can they b so cruel to take my baby away from me. cant they understand my feelings?? :`(
Dear MomoMummy pls relax... dont bcoz of outside factor n let the idea of divorce run thru your mind.
just tell them like what M&M said, doc advise baby dont travel.
If they really care for baby then dont insist.
Faint during confinement is not a good sign!
Pls take care n rest well.
Pls stop all the crying coz it really stress yourself out.
baby r meant to be joy not quarrel!!!
Pls rest well dear... We all will b wori if you keep on like that
I think is not remove stitches is just to chk if the wound heal properly n any infection.
But the 1st time i pass motion, so painful, i almost cried!
Now very good girl, always eat vege & fruits to help soften stools...
I started my massage too, really can see diff in tummy after binding!
My CL is very nice too, she is very hardworking and automatic in doing things. Life is so good with her around!
Maybe can compromise, bring baby back to M'sia when she is 3 mths old and immune system is stronger...
dont cry & think too much though i knw is hard, mayb you sit dwn with your hubby and talk nicely....
thank you all mummies. yesterday dear daughter didnt want to sleep from 3pm - 10pm.. kept crying and everyone so worried. manage to sleep at 11pm and she is alright now.. sleeping soundly.
was thinking if bring msia and when she is sick how.. as msia side is a small town. their medical will not be as good as those in spore. so i can use this to make them let baby stay here. just in case she is sick.
talk slowly to husb my conv with mother in law.. he assure me whenever we go, baby go with us.
now still weak.. to me onli 50% complete from healing... do a few things out of breadth already... hopefully a few more days i can look after dear daughter already.
ya. momomummy, now use H1N1 and doctor is the best solution. talk nicely to them. not exactly as an excuse but it is a fact. H1N1 is really getting around fast and baby's immune system is not very strong yet at this moment. best is let baby stay in S'pore first since medical is within reach.
cheer up and get your health pink again. dont cry at least try not to...
i have only carried my son less than 10 times till now . kekeke. because was advised to rest and not carry anything if not my uterus will drop out.... also told not to squat... anyway, just listen . no harm. spend time with baby only when breastfeeding. Good ! lucky we hired good CL. Heard a lot of stories about bad experiences with their CL. some stories even came from my cousins.
so any luck with breastfeeding? how much did you managed to pump?
my baby is able to latch on well and suck well.. but he is kinda lazy... suck suck then Zzzzzz... ownself unlatch... then cry for milk again.. sigh... i can breastfeed him for 1 hour and he still not enough ! because he spend most of time Zzzz as though my milk got sleeping medication..hehehe.. he will fell asleep beside me(deep sleep) then when i walk away, immediately wakes up n cry for milk. been pumping 60ml of milk. today finally able to pump 80ml. wanted to wake up in the nite to pump but too sleepy... oh ya. my baby recently will get angry when drinking my milk... nipple already in mouth but refused to close mouth(like still searching for the nipple).. which gets me kinda frustrated...
i now pump instead of her latching. at Thomson Medical Center, the 2nd day she suck so hard till theres blood. n she drink the milk bottle can hear her sucking, dear daughter aso keep falling asleep until her cheeks soo red from me keep asking her wake up.
manage to pump 90ml today prob cos i drink more water. didnt drink the longan water anymore cos gt sore throat n i dont drink a lot. so i drank hot water.
Im finally reporting here with my lill prince... hehe...
I gave birth to my lill one on 16/6/09 at 531am via vaccum with epi... Everything just happen to fast for my this 2nd delivery...
Here's my short & summarise labour story...
15/06/09 - Discharge for whole day, gynae asked to me admit at 11pm that day, but i insisted to wait for contractions pain then admit.
16/06/09, 115am- Contractions started. Woke up prepare and bath, head to Thomson Medical Center after that, reach hospital at 215am.
230am - Checked and only dilated 1.5cm
300am - Epidural ON!
430am - 9cm dilated! Nurses there was too shocked and shouted for help to wheel me in to labour room! Both me & husband was so shocked as well. Especially me!
531am - Lill Prince came to this world!
Epi effect wasn't that good and fantastic compare to first delivery.. cos the nurses there did not top up full dose epi for me as they did not expect i will dilate so fast.. They only top up for me when im 9cm dilated... hmm... i really feel that my backside bone are going to break into half at that point of time... as baby head engage and keep pushing out.. But lucky for stitches part its quite numb and i did not feel anything.. My gynae did not cut for me, but still there's abit tear and need to stitch alittle but its totally much better compare to first one.. Afterall, its all worthwhile, after seeing my lill one...
I latch on at hospital, but told nurses to supplement with formula.
But baby refused to suck by 2nd day when i reach home.
My breasts was engorged and painful, but only few drops drip out when i tried to pump it. I massage, drink alot of water & soups but still no milk.
Then my breasts become soft after 5th day, no longer engorged! My CL said normally like that means dont have breastmilk....sad....
Im almost the same as you... I latch at hospital and top up around 3-4times due to baby demand.. Reach home on thurs, latch on as well, but baby cry again cos no milk in yet, so no choice got to give formula after latching... Breast started to engorged yesterday, start to massage with warm water and pump but its really very little milk flowing out, just dont know why...Now into 5th day.. same still engorge, massage and pump again, only manage to pump out 20ml for both sides... sian loh, no motivation at all... Somemore left side nipple crack and damn pain, so always give baby to latch on right side... already give baby formula loh cos no milk mah first few days... still trying hard to pump, hopefully will increase more milk flow.. will see how next few days, if still litlle milk, might give up bf already... As my engorgement really damn pain like hell...