This is a discussion on EDD May 2011 within the Year 2011 and earlier Mummy forum, part of the Mummy Meeting Place category; I also scared of pain,especially after watching the edu clips from the antenatal class,but try not to think too much ...
I also scared of pain,especially after watching the edu clips from the antenatal class,but try not to think too much on that.
My mom is in KL taking care of my sis child. My mother in law already 70+ , so i got to hired a maid to take care of my child after my ML , and mother in law will be the one to just make sure the maid dont't do anything funny. This is just our ideal plan. But i could forsee some problems in the future as my mother in law is not those stay home type, and she is a smoker too. So,i hope there won't be any conflicts in the future.
This is my first child, and its a gal. We both very happy to conceive one at this time, as we tried for 3 yrs already. However i am not sure my mother in law is very enthusiastic or not , as i know she is the type with old fashion thinking ( prefer boys).
Anyway, if no one to help me on taking care the child, i will source for other option.
i dont mind the infant care seriously, however my husband against the idea because it is too expensive than hiring a maid, and then my mother in law said the maid can help us to do on the house core. I also dont feel comfortable on letting maid to take care my baby but what to do? currently i am living with in laws family and we will be moving out next year to our flat, i am so looking forward to it. With the current small room for us ( husband, me and the newborn) , really inconvenient and rather squeezy.
I am a little paranoid with smokers recently. Although i have grown up living with a smoker dad. Now my father in law and hubby also smokes. I am forcing him to smoke outside the corridor. But my father in law how? He is still smoking inside his room. Still can smell one . Smokers just dont understand. Even their clothing will smell and have smoke dust on it. My motherly instinct is telling not to let anyone who smoke carry newborn unless they take shower LOL is it a bit too much?
Maid is out of our picture because no one is at home as father in law also not stay home type.
Maid usually behave well in front of employer but when no one is around , she will do funny things. Have heard enough of these. Feeding another person at home could be a cost too (extra utilities bill, food).
So considering that, both hubby and i rather put our baby in infant care at least the way they take care more systematic.
Only need to sacrifice leave when baby gets sick or fever after jab and all those days where infant care observed their holidays.
Hiring a maid is about the same cost compare to send to infant care if can enjoy government subsidence. Maid salary S$400-450 + govern levy $$170 and you need to provide food, toiletries etc... good thing is maid can help 24*7, drawback is lost privacy.
my mother in law is also old fashion type. she prefers boy. after she knows ours is baby gal, she dont't bother to ask about my condition anymore. only call received from her after was to ask if we go back malaysia for CNY or not, which makes my hubby in dilemma. At week 8, she said she bought a baby wrapper, but enventually came without anything, maybe she wants to reserve it for grandson. whatever, who cares. My hubby and I all loves gal, especially my hubby, he hopes to have a mini version of me. hehe
Hii Isy, i understand your feeling, i also have the thought of not letting my mother in law to carry the baby after smoking. My husband and family asked her to quit smoking many times and she said if she quit immediately she will "go" faster than before ( this is her believes) and also asked her dont't smoke in front of me, she still did the same thing , my mother in law also not stay home type, she prefer go out to play mahjong with friends the wholeday. And she cough very frequently , so i am abit worried in future when she take care of my baby gal.
Infant care is good, although there might be higher chances of your child get sick easily, so extra care from the begining is very important. We dont't have transport, so getting a maid is their prefered choice. Currently the maid already started working in my in laws place, and so far she is ok, throughtout my ML i will train her slowing, once my child reach 18 months, i will send her to child care,and maid's contract just nice will be completed by then.
Really not easy to become parenthood these days huh.. , i wonder how my parents cope last time.
Last time parents full time housewife ...different from nowadays.Guess 1 working parent could not afford the standard of living d.
My hubby also smokes in the kitchen at times and i can even sniff it from inside my bedroom (if door not closed).
Up to this stage i am not giving face anymore...mother's responsibility is taking over. Either you go out or i will throw your whole packet of cigarette down the rubbish bin chute.
I read from some thread about smoking during pregnancy. dont't know if it's true, this lady smoked throughout her pregnancy and when she delivered, the placenta was black. And her baby passed on 3 months after delivery due to complications caused by smoking. I guess passive smoker is worse than normal smoker. So you might want to tell your husband that and perhaps he will try to smoke far far away.
I am finding it hard to concentrate at work..
Me too very hard to concentrate at work ..
Luckily my boss is so kind that he already allowed me to pass down the job duties to another colleague, my work load is less.
I think maybe is the position of the baby , sometimes they stretch on one side which might be our organ is located,thats why can feel the pain.
Sometimes my baby will kick me to roll to another side ..
Then been drinking weekly since 31st week.
Im taking those from NTUC Thailand Young Coconut. Cold Storage also got sell same thing.It is white colour because they have actually peeled off the green layer.
Whether the coconut is young or not can only tell from the coconut meat inside. If it is easily scrap off light and smooth then it is "very young". If it is hard and need to use energy to scrap means it is aging d. LoL I prefer in between ...too young water will taste a little sour.
Wanna ask you, how you know you need to get the Glutinous Rice Wine? Is it based on some confinement books? Where you got the contacts to get it??
From mommy here n also colleague I get to know there's no Ginger wine in sg. Have also glut.rice wine only. Just grab 2 bottles for my mom to add into stir fry dishes . I do have 2 bottles of DOM too.
i think you can call your gynae..he/she shld have an emergency no for you to call..