This is a discussion on EDD in Sept 2011 within the Year 2011 and earlier Mummy forum, part of the Mummy Meeting Place category; Originally Posted by Shannyang Ladies, may I know who will be going to do the confinment for you gals? I've ...
I didn't want a confinement lady or total stranger to stay with me for an entire month for my first daughter, so hubby cooked, cleaned, bathed baby, etc. He will also rush back home from work during his lunch to give me a break, even if its just 20min, from looking after baby during all 4 months of my maternity leave.
Shannyang, you can ask your hubby to do most stuff... we survived, just the 2 of us with our 1st baby. It can be done!
Now its more of a headache cos my girl will only be 21 months when her baby sister arrives, and she's so active and harder to look after. So both hubby and I are more worried about looking after the toddler than the baby this time round... =)
Yup, babybull is right. It can be done. i ddnt have any proper confinement too. All i really wanted was a good rest. Cooking mostly was by me or hubby. Had mainly soups & porridge which is easy to cook, just boil. Lots of brands essence (those small bottles of fish, ginseng etc essence) Washing by machine, cleaning up the house etc hubby helps. The only bit i had a stranger come for was to give me a good massage. And she also got me lots of indonesian jamu & some roots to boil then drink the water. Soooo yucky. Suppose to be for wind. And 'bind' my tummy. A long cloth wound around me tight! But it was ok tho cos can feel like tummy was back in place n the bind held it there. Did that for few days then changed to normal post natal 'girdle' that can easily be bought. This time we'll do the same too.
My mother in law is only offered cook. Other then that she unable to do. Appreciate too . But I'm most concern about baby bathing, I think for guys they scare of handle such a soft baby.. And my mother in law said our maternity clothes cannot be throw into machine to wash, coz "dirty", pantang..
Actually I am not that particular that I die die must hav a CL . My hub also think if can find best . As he is working shift, hard to take care of baby too.. Somemore he will be going to reservist in sep. Sway ..
Oh.... Like that you'll need help when hubby not around. As for bathing baby, i think most people will be nervous 1st time giving baby a bath. But you'll learn n get used to it. If dont try then you'll never know right. No other relatives nearby?
It was my grandma's friend n that was 13 years ago. Lol. I have to check for myself too if she still do it. If she doesnt i will have to find 1 too. Will let you know k.
As for the maternity clothes... maybe just wear old clothes and throw? Given that your mother in law say cannot wash, though frankly I've never heard of ppl saying this. Actually since she's only cooking and won't be around much, you can still throw in machine to wash, and just tell her that your hubby washed it or something . What they dont't know doesn't hurt them.
As for bathing baby, i'm more scared than my hubby, haha... i only bathed my girl for the very first time when she's 5 months old! My hubby did all the bathing duties since we came back from hospital. I think men handle newborn babies better , cos their hands are much bigger. More steady, and babies feel calmer cos more assurance.
Lol... Yah , why do the older generation like to nag so much.their nagging is worse than the confinement itself!
Anyway i cant wait to give birth already!! Miss wearing my old jeans n heels.
Hi All mummy to be,
My EDD is on 11sept, first time to be mum and just got to know this website. Everything seems tough for me. Not ready to be a mother at all. 22 years old at the moment, my husband is 16yr older than me. (maybe fated ) Both of us are working sales job, we have a very hard time financially. Stress as well. Luckily my company have maternity leave 4months, but with that low basic, doesnt seems any diff for me at all.
Everything needs to go on budget. I used to plan my life, goal, and career etc. Ended up now everything seems to be in a great mess. Im stress with hospital bills, check up bills, car, credit cards etc.Me and my husband having hard time and now i have a MSP and unreasonable father in law, asking for allowance. what a headache. im always asking myself, is this baby comes at the wrong time?
Awwwww sweety... Dont feel sad. Im sure it's tough for you but there are ways around it. Let go of things you dont need. Car, credit cards... Do you really need? Im sure being in sales ure good in budgets. Just get your needs not your wants. you know what i mean. Baby is a blessing! Take hand me downs, dont have to get a cot for now, baby can sleep on the bed with you. (unless ure a rough sleeper) go on ebay, get 2nd hand stuff. talk to your father in law, or give him less than what you used to. If he moans, too bad. Baby n your family comes first. Is baby healthy? If he or she is then just go for check up once a month. Take subsidised class, it's just the same. Plus you'll get baby bonus after baby pops out, that will help. Then maybe later on find another job. But just think for now just dont stress yourself out n take one day at a time ok.
Thanks for the advise. At first im thinking for letting go the car, but we just got the car not long ago before i know im pregnant. If selling off is break even, i dont mind. but it mayb losing money at the moment. everything just happen so sudden. I was planning to change for a better pay job last year end, but due to knowing im pregnant (accident) i got to change my mind because of the 4month maternity leave.
I always do things with planning, but i never expect of this baby. Btw is a boy. Its tough for me from the start, vomit morning sickness, sleepy, no appetitie. after the 1st trim then i feels better.
Now im always look out for secondhand items online. No choice need to save first. Nothing gotta be fine till i give birth. After my confinement, needa find job immediately in order to give baby a better life.
well at least you can get the 4 months maternity benefit even its little..
my little gal is coming in sept and i am losing my job by august.. though many says its a good rest before giving birth but $$ wise its very painful in pockets.. i was not prepared for my baby too as it was quite sudden for us though we had been trying for 4 years to get a baby.. more of wants from my hubby but the bills and stuff just keep piling up..
plus my job just a contract so once they know, they just want to get rid of me..
for me is alot of things i am not getting and hope i get donations.. lol wishful thinking but i just provide the necessity for my baby and we call her the budget baby..
if you want to say what to do, i seriously dont know.. knowing how hard i tried in my job to get 4 months maternity leave but its not possible.. it pains me so much as i feel quite useless as why i have such a hard fate but end of the day i just want to see my baby born healthy and well.. money cant buy that too..
sorry not much of console to you but you are not alone.. ok be strong
i wanted to save on the Confinement lady but my hubby knows my health is not good so he rather just spend that money to bring me back to health..
we are on very tight budget but health is more important. no health how to look after the baby? so give and take at times and we managed to book our CL early.
do you all feel its fast? 5 months pass and another 4 months more to go and we going to have a little ones...
Thanks for the encouragement!!! Glad to be here! i need for a change. But now i cant do anyting at all, i can only wait for baby to be out then move on. Actually i have tink of join government job before, but the salary wise might not be as high as sales. No choice i need to work harder and to join sales.
btw can i check something, for the hospital bills right, do they collect in advice or we settle on the day of discharge?
This may help. I gave birth to my first girl at a govt hospital and also had a hysteroscopy +D&C done at a private hospital (Thomson Medical) so have a bit of experience there.
If you go to a government hospital ie Kandang Kerbau Hospital, you will only receive the bills later. Even then, for KK they actually refunded part of our deposit! So we did not have to pay anything further. When you discharge, just take your baby and medicines with you and that's it.
For KK, baby was delivered by my senior consultant, I stayed in an A class ward (single bed) for 4 days, was in the labour room for over 30 hours and received 5 epidurals. But at the end they still refunded us about 20% of our initial deposit of $1800 cash. The rest all covered by medisave. According to the KK guidelines my bill was actually on the high end for natural delivery, so its still very affordable with superb care and service from the midwives and nurses.
However if you go to Thomson Medical Center, you will need to settle the full bill upfront before leaving. I believe its the same at most other private hospitals. I didn't like my Thomson Medical Center stay at all but followed my gynae there cos he went into private practice after i delivered. But then maybe cos I didn't go there to give birth, so a bit different bah.
Last edited by babybull; 18-05-2011 at 10:47 AM.
My gynae is from one of the clinic in Thomson Medical Center, heard from one of my friend he only do it in Thomson Medical Center.
then how now? Is KK really cheaper than Thomson Medical Center? Because now the problem is, i might not be able to fork out the deposit at the moment.. Pls advise... =(
as for the hospital bills. you have to settle on the day of delivery for my case ( i delivered in Mt alvernia) BUT you can used medisave! 2100 for normal delivery.! you can actually save alot if you have enuff money in your medisave.!=)
See.... Tho we are strangers here, we all have 1 thing in common. To be a good mummy n have a happy baby!
I guess everyone has a problem here n there, just need to be strong, optimistic n overcome it. So dont be stressed ok.
About hospital bill if you go for private there's a downpayment for the delivery package.But for my first right,i went for consultant but we keep dragging about taking the package then last few check ups i too lazy to go.so when the day baby wanted to pop, we just walked in, normal delivery with M.O. No downpayment. Then before discharged just sign forms to claim from medisave n thats it.
Which hospital you go to if you dont mind me asking?