I am still awake! Have very bad headache throughout the day, decided to get a milo to relax in bed, thinking that maybe I'm stress. But it helped a bit only.
I'm feeling a bit resentful today towards my mother in law. Today she told us that we should go and hire a maid. Then I tried to give excuse saying that my hubby has no official record that he is fully employed and is earning at least $30k per annum, since his job has no CPF contribution. So we cannot hire a maid. Then my mother in law says ask me to hire my maid under my parents' name & address. I said no way because if MOM finds out we'll all be in trouble, especially if the maid is aware of her rights and stuff. But for me, it's more of it's not right and it's illegal.
Then she told me to hire those maid without off-days if not she will go gallivanting, then hear all those rubbish from her friends and get influenced, then she will become rebellious. But to me I find it very bad for the maid's emotional well-being. It's like she got no friends to share her problems with and all she does is work and face her employers & their children everyday. But I also dont't want the maid to have off-day and listen to all the gossip and stories from her friends and get into trouble. So might as well dont't hire one!
When my husband came home she immediately hounded him about this maid issue. I really dont't like the way she talks. My husband just come home and she quickly "instruct" him on hiring the maid. My husband just got home and hasn't even caught his breath. It feels like she is telling us what to do with running the household which I honestly thinks she has no right to. I also dont't like it when she assumes certain things about my daughter's behavior, which is very stupid. Like today, my daughter was fussing because she didn't want to be carried by her and just wants to go to the floor to play with me. My mother in law simply told us that my daughter is just being hot and needs the fan. Sometimes certain behavior I will even tell her WHY and she tells me, "No, it's because of something else." It's like as if she spends more time with my girl and understands her very well. I know she is just a proud grandparent but you shouldn't cut me off like that.
I did share my concerns about hiring a maid with my mother in law, in an attempt to be honest and have a sincere discussion with her and let her know why I dont't want to a maid yet, until I've tried other alternatives. Personally, getting a maid is a last & desperate resort for me, not the first choice.
Anyway I just ranting here, more so because of my mother in law's tone & views whenever she talks to us. I try not to create any conflicts, because I know it would not be very nice either. I hope she quickly forgets about this issue, although I know tomorrow she might start calling one of his aunts and ask them about hiring a maid. Thank God we're not financially ready to hire one yet, or else she will start "running the show" for us.
I do believe the biggest financial obstacle for us in the next few months will be my hospital bill, and I want to make sure we are able to pay for it without going bankrupt, before thinking of hiring the maid.