This is a discussion on Ain't they singaporean too within the Mummy Cafe forum, part of the Community Lounge category; Originally Posted by catherlyn Zzz kns aiai haha.... I wish I can walk out but I'm being block by other ...
I agree with the subtle yet firm reminder. I would do that too if faced with a similar situation. I definitely do not mean we should let them hurl verbal abuses at us and shittt on our heads.
Just yesterday I brought my 21 month old to Vivo playground and there were 3-4 rowdy teenagers playing next to her. One of them nearly banged into my dotter and I had to firmly but politely tell them to play nicely since there were MANY toddlers around and im sure none of us would want anyone to get hurt by accident. One of them glared at me but the other two mumbled a soft sorry.
I guess there's still some well mannered teenagers left in this world.
My worst encounter with teenagers was in the bus.They were about a group of 6..maybe 15-16 yrs old.Bus was crowded at first n they were sitting with feet all out.Then there was this old old lady.She told them off saying how come they were not giving up their seats to pple who needed it more than them?Coz there were old pple in bus,preggers etc.Then instead of looking sorry they started making snide remarks.She told them to put their feet in.They told her not to worry coz they will lay out red carpet for her when she walks through.Then she said you r all so ill mannered,next time your kids wld be like tht too if you dont change.Then they started saying stuff like ooh dont worry we wont be going out with your daughter coz she will be ugly like you etc.
I was with my younger son then.N while this waqs going on back n forth,the bus was not tht crowded anymore.All these other pple just listening in to the conversation while the poor old lady was getting insulted.I couldnt take it anymore.
I said to them"wht the hell is wrong with you guys..picking on an old lady???
They replied"she started it first"!
I retorted"she is old you cld just give in n didnt they teach you in school to give up seats n stuff ?"!!
They all shut up.
Actually they were stunned when i confronted them coz they were speaking in mandarin.I look like a foreigner so tht caught them off guard.
The pple in bus started saying to me"wahh..very good you tell them off !
I was disgusted.I mean they were all mostly chinese n cld well understand the dialogue between the 2 parties n yet no one stood up for the old lady.
How disgusting is tht?Must it take a foreigner to intervene?
Mother to 2 princes and 1 little princess
i think its the asian culture...
that time there was this couple with a todd, just entered the train, then this man sitting at the priority seat.. he just look look dont want to stand,then i look at him very long n give him that very disgusted look, then he quite paiseh he stood up n let the todd sit.
Actually I dont't know if you consider me a teen. I'm 28 this year, married.
I think there's two sides to the problem. OK, the teens described in the first post CMI, but why so?
I was at the basement of Century Square Tampines one afternoon with my colleagues. We were at the AXS machine paying our bills. I went first.
For those who aren't familiar with that area, the AXS machine is in the lift lobby of the basement.
There was this little boy running around and he was hammering on things and creating a ruckus which was already annoying enough. Just when I was about to key in my account number, he came around and poked at my keyboard. I was furious and held his hand and shoved him away. Not exactly very harsh, but not gentle either (because I was already annoyed).
I was done with my payment and my colleagues went next. Same thing happened and my colleagued shoved the kid aside.
I was really angry and I said loudly, "whose kid is this har?". No response.
All these while there's a couple waiting for the lift, with a pram and a sleeping baby.
Then when the lift came, the father turned around and said, "come boy, let's go".
I was like, ?!!!
So the kid was running around, poking at others using the AXS machine and behing shoved away, they just didn't freaking care. Even when somebody exclaimed whose kid was that, they didn't care?
I was very angry and told the parents straight in the face as they entered the lift that they "better learn to take care of their kid", in full view of all the lift passengers but they didn’t seem like they cared.
So really, the problem we're seeing now is contributed by the poor upbringing of these kids. It's a social problem and unfortunately cannot be solved unless we start looking at how we handle our kids.
Last edited by detach8; 12-02-2010 at 09:18 AM.
True. I do agree parents play a part so I always tell my hubby my ger is n will not become like them. In my family upbringing that is very impt that we pay respect to elders etc etc. I mk sure that is my house culture too.
Ytd just boarding the mrt n was carrying my child this teen sitting on the reserved seat saw n st8 fall aslp. My brother in law damn pissed n was about to go n ask him to gv up the seat when someone else gv me a seat. This is a kind of manner I gg to teach my ger too
yeah it definately has something to do with upbringing, but then again, even if the parents do teach the child well, it is still the child's character in the end that becomes who he really is right?
cos end up, due to peer influence, social influence, they child might turn from good to bad.
peers are very very influential,even at a very young age..
like pin's CC, once a kid start doing one thing, all will follow..
same like, if 1-2 kids stop having milk during nap time, all the kids also follow suit.