FANTASTIC - couldn't be better, God send angel~~
EXCELLENT - very nice and understanding
GOOD - okay , mai hiam buay pai
MEDIOCRE - 50% ok 50% not ok
BAD - cannot bear to see her face for a minute
LOUSY - I purposely avoid her anywhere i could
NO WORDS CAN DESCRIBE - ..................
not applicable - i am single, not married yet~~~
This is a discussion on Anti M.I.L. CLUBB - we all know wads that :p (Includes anything that ends with I.L.) within the Mummy Cafe forum, part of the Community Lounge category; Originally Posted by Domique Cannot complain to dear husband too much. No matter what also her mother! ya, i agree. So ...
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I guess most mother in law are hard to please. Just like mine, I used to boast to everyone how nice my mother in law is until she stay with me.....
Once she stayed with me, the nightmare begins, the house is dirty cos she likes to cook, my children is naughty cos they bully her the noise level in my house increase due to her screaming at my kids and the kids crying.....
Guess the only way to live together peacefully is act blind, deaf and dumb. That way, everyone will live happily ever after
Then she dont even bother to look at me....so pissed off that I did not even bother to bring my baby out of the nursery room when she visited again the next day. I saw her and father in law standing outside the nursery room for an hour before leaving the hospital but never never come to my room and show concerns.....sigh.
Btw, I feel that your mother in law should not comment that your case is inherited from your mum. It's hurt to hear that.
Faint to have mother in law like that. for me, we visit my mother in law every week. everytime we go, there will be comparison between my sister in law's baby and mine which are 2 weeks difference in age only. Since I got pregnant already a lot of comparison so I somehow not close to her and have prejudice already.
Sigh.. sometimes also think poor dear husband very wei nan position..
worst thing is she can boast to my mum she will cook high grade birdnest for me to eat yet only 1 small miserable cup in my 6th month. so i tel her my mother had bought high grade birdnest & coryceps for me to eat, spent almost $800 on them. should had seen her face when she heard that , like so shocked.
Compare stomach size, compare baby weigh, compare when you delivery, compare hospital.
After give birth, compare labor hours, compare baby weigh, compare baby feedin how much, compare breast milk/FM, compare baby sleeping hours.......
all i can say is learn how to one ear in one ear out. sometimes she keep repeating how good is the other grandson, i just keep quiet and pretend never hear as i am so sick of the same story every week....
even my dear husband aso cannot tarhan!
but what to do....
pkshl / Domique...I think the compare thingy will be never ending....next time..mother in law will compare school, exam result, job, salary..etc...really hate that.
Talk about comparing... I think mine gonna start soon... Actually already start but lucky my sister In law told my mother in law off to keep quiet...
Bcoz my dear husband uncle's wife (her name is Sue) is preggy with 2nd child. My dear husband uncle 50 years old! Old daddy... My mother in law will say Wah Sue stomach so big, urs still so small. Sue this Sue that...
I dont know when baby born, what is she gonna start again?
Actually I ok with my mother in law, I do tell her my method of looking after baby, she do agree and use but if she see my method wrong, she tell me, I will COE(close one eye) , but one thing I dont like is that I treat her good, she still think her daughter is still the best.
is this educating her?
Yes, we shldn't scold, punish the kiddo ALL the time (as if we do), but I feel some discipline is necessary when bringing up a kid. Grandparents seems to fail to @@ that.
There was one incident my dear daughter threw a paint brush on mother in law's wall coz she asked her to keep up. And my mother in law goes, "aiyoh, ok ok, continue to play ... Hahahah" then mother in law gotta take a cloth and try to wipe the wall of paint Of coz that time I told dear daughter off and asked her to wipe it and mother in law said, "nm nm little kids... dont scold .. see cry .." As if cry alittle will die? *shakes head*
for me, i always keep quiet & smile when she starts the comparison previously, but now if she still compare, i will tel her straight that every1 is different, no need to compare. she getting on my nerves & i feel that since she dont respect me, she also dont deserve my respect. i already tolerated her when she critize me about my tummy(since im pregnant until now). luckily now she shut up , never compare me & her daughter or else i sure snap at her.
even my own mother also said theres no need to compare, its never ending.
sometimes i dont understand y my mum can b understanding yet my mother in law can treat me like this. my mum get along very well with my bro's wife & they can chat almost everything, of cos occassionally she will gossip about sister In law
Totally agreed. To them, their mum cook the best dishes and is the kindness person in the whole planet.
The previous holiday, I sugguested to go to park with mother in law and his sibling. What happen is, when we reached the destination for breakfast, everybody simply get off the car and walked to the coffee shop. My dear husband went to help brother in law and sister, left me alone with my baby and his things and shoe to struggle with ourselves. I nearly fall when I forgot to take out my safety belt. I was very angry and shouted loudly for my husband who is standing a distance away to see whether the brother in law and sister and maid need help.... I tell my dear husband off, why he still need to go over when there are already 2 person attending to her sick sister and his answer is " I thought my mum will help you." "Sorry loh, they simply walk off loh"
I regreted wasting my holiday, I should have keep my mouth shut and wait for my dear husband to propose.
Last edited by elmo493; 25-04-2009 at 09:59 AM.