anyone to help you look after your children so you can go get a job? your parents? your in laws?
i know your torn between having to end a life and financial issues. its a really sticky situation. its not easy to raise children in sg and moreover you have 3 already. it wont be fair for your 3 children if you cant spend quality time and give them "the best" of everything if having no.4 is going to greatly affect that.... ive seen a family with 4 children struggling with finances and time spent on the children. it looks quite impossible.... BUT they believed that they just have to struggle through this period and they look at it in a positive way. but of course both husband and wife must cooperate very well so that all their children have balance love, concern, edu, etc.
im really against abortion unless its concerning life and death, health reasons.... and its also not fair for no. 4 since it wasnt his/ her decision to be created in this world....
i do hope that you can discuss this with your husband again. . .
i dont know what religion you are worshipping but you can get help from some of them financially n i know some of them actually sponsor children from financially tight family to study in kindergarten, tuition, etc.
and maybe if your husband and you have a whole new positive mindset, having 4 children would be an easy task?