yesterday a very close gf of mine.. asked how was i and stuff.. the next minute, she plunged into her favourite topic.. "so are you intending to work?".. i jokingly said "obviously you've not been hanging out much with tods".. then she was a little offended (knowing her) and said "not even PT?".. i said "nope".. and laughed (forcefully). and left the convo as it is.
firstly.. financially, we are doing okay. not kick ass rich. i do admit my parents do help out a little but they see it as a gift for my girl. secondly, my daughter's health is really weak. when i was working, she would fall sick for half a month, i switched from FT to flexible hours to PT (i had an amazing employer who was really understanding).. just to look after her. yet inevitably, she still falls sick.
recently, i decided that she really needs me as a stay at home mum which her health has improved a little and enables her to attend school much more frequently. as a mother, i put the needs of my child first even. she has been my first priority and will continue to be for all the growing yrs.
i won't say i'm friendless.. but sometimes, it irks me when a friend especially a good one, thinks that my life should work the same way as theirs. i've always made it clear my family and love ones come first.
i rather be comfortable and happy.. than have a broken family and wealth off. i come from the latter family.. and always felt something has been missing in my life. until i had my own family. i count my blessings frequently for having a happy family.. things between my parents (mum and stepfather) has also improved vastly.. what more can i ask for?
seriously it hurts a lot when she put it in such a way.. especially when she's an extremely close friend. but friends come and go, only the real ones stick around when you need them.