My hubby n I used to have the same pblm.. He is the only child n his dad passed away several years ago.. So he is pretty much a mummy's boy..
He keep saying he have to check w his mum until I got so upset n blast at him saying that he is not wrong in respecting his mum decision but I have to consider my parents' too.. So I said if we can't come to an agreement, we might as well dont get married as I have given the utmost compromising factor n that is to stay w his mum even after we gt marry..
So in the end, he kinda consulted his friends n came to realise that he is marrying me n not his mum.. It's about 2 families decision n not just his mum..
Till this date, even when I m pregnant w his son, his mum hates my parents as I manage to psycho my hubby into considering my parents feelings during the wedding arrangement.. She is somehow jealous that my hubby sides me 1/2 the time now.. N that I spend my weekend w my parents instead.. But come on, I m staying w her.. So I spend ample time at Hm, it's just that she had her own activities 1/2 the time.. So it's not my fault that she is not Hm 1/2 the tym..
She even try to psycho my hubby to change my confinement arrangements even tho it is agreed that my mum is doing it for me as my mum is not working n she is.. N her reason for the change is that she dont feel right that she is not doing my confinement as it is her grandson we r talking about.. My hubby gt so pissed that he said 'then not her parents grandson meh?! She doing confinement w them for 40 days then come Hm already.. After that you can c your grandson everyday where as they only c theirs during the weekend'..
Lucky I have my hubby's support now, if not I sure get pre-natal n post-natal depression!!