Did the husband hit the wife? If he did, MUST go to get PPO.
This is a discussion on Too Scary within the Mummy Cafe forum, part of the Community Lounge category; Hello mummies... when a couple get ino heated argument and eventually leads to fightr, is it ok for the husband ...
when a couple get ino heated argument and eventually leads to fightr, is it ok for the husband to be abusive to the extend in which he is gonna kill you?
Did the husband hit the wife? If he did, MUST go to get PPO.
of cos it's not ok....
I dont't think the argument should even lead to a fight, much less to violence.
If you think the argument cannot be resolved among yourselves, then you can visit a family service centre for some counselling.
if they still cherish the marriage and still love and care for each other, they have to seek help from the pros, possibly long term consultation.
but if what the wife said its true, then i think its pointless to continue. he might bear the grudge and stab her when she's sleeping.
I doubt a woman's strength is stronger than a guy.. love is not about violence.. if he hit once, will happen again..
if i'm the wife and I have kids I will pack my bags and bring my kids to somewhere else. Who knows one day while i'm sleeping he will kill me and my kids
A man shouldnt hit a woman. Period. Its best to ask her to make a police report then get a PPO, court will make him go for anger management, then seek a marriage counsellor.
if a man beats his wife, it's definitely NOT normal and NOT okay! babe, do seek for help if you're facing such problem! dont ever let your hubby has the chance to lay his hands on you! if there is the 1st time, soon the 2nd, 3rd time will come...... never ending!
as for his family side, he is left with a mother but whenever the daughter-in-law told the mum she will say that you know he is like that one.. so when yr auntie ask just say you sprained yrself and never call police
Please call AWARE, 18007745935 or go to the nearest family center, and move out asap!
It could be possible but not till the extend of laying his hands on his wife.. or the other way round.
A man should never NEVER lay hands on a woman, even if the woman is retaliating, unreasonable, a man should just walk away. What more a husband??? A husband is to protect, love and comfort a woman!
I would never also provoke my hubby if I know that he's very angry bcos if he lay hands on me I think I will end up in the hospital....
Wife, dont provoke/nag your husband and husband dont lay a finger on your wife for the wrong reasons!
The mother in law is not helping, or rather, she is helping the son to commit such abuse. The wife on the other hand should be firm and be determined to move out immediately. She cant be soft hearted and tolerate such abuse. God knows what will happen eventually.
i can think of one example, like long term emotionally put him down, "you are so useless always never give me more money/ more presents like so and so husband blah blah blah, why dont you just drop dead so i can find someone BETTER, i curse you to get hit by a car and die so that i can claim insurance money blah blah blah why are you such an idiot you deserve it blah blah blah,."
having said that, i dont mean that its OK to hit the wife just because she's nagging or have said a few things to upset their husbands. but not all men can control their temper right?
although there are some men who just loves hitting their wives for the slightest reason or when they're drunk. these type no need to give chance. all excuses and promises are pure nonsense.
No!a man shld never hit/beat a woman.they do once they'll do twice,thrice and many more!my mom is a good example.my father beat her since we were young.every year,we'll have to go my grandma's place to stay for a period of time.then my father'll come beg my mom home.e cycle just cont again and again.is very unhealthy 4 e whole family.i did ask my mom to divorce with my father,but she dont want.i dont know y also.pls ask e lady to get help from e police!
be it man or woman, both have no rights to be abusive n whack each other.
even if the woman bcomes violent n hit the man, she can be reported to the police too.
some women r the abusive ones n its not just about the strength, if she has a weapon in hand n just continuosly hit the man on vital points (ie head), he can also get hurt or die. when you r in anger, you have alot of strength.
back to the topic, if your hubby can hit you once, then he will do it all over again n again, n if he can do it til the extend of almost murdering you, then LEAVE HIM IMMEDIATELY. anything can happen in a fit of anger, all sanity is gone.
go to the police, make a report, file for a PPO, go to the hospital n get the doc to check your bruises to prove that you have been abused.
Do not argue with an idiot. He will drag you down to his level and beat you with experience.
thank you all mummies for the support and advise..
i do agree to all of you.. this is actually my personal experience... i must admit that i did provoke my husband verbally in the sense that i ask him why is he back late as our baby was having a high fever and i cant cope, perhaps my tone was overboard and he felt offended that y he got abusive.. it was bad cause he almost killed me in the abuse as he sat on me on my back and pinned me down and strangle me, i did screamed for help loud hoping that the neighbour will come forward but he was fast he actually use his other hand to cover my mouth and nose.. the more i struggle, the more force he used in on me... i beg him to let me go but he simply refuse.. when he let me go, the first thing i do is to run away, but maybe he thought i m going to the police so he actually pulled my hair and drag and bang my head against the wall.. he took all my cell phone, unplug the telephone wire, lock up the phone and kept his keys.. for yr information they had never give me the house keys...
thank god that someone called the police for me and i could escape..
but i m glad that this whole incident is over..