tak tau plak ape name.. nanti i try ask my sister In law..
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tak tau plak ape name.. nanti i try ask my sister In law..
aku rasa aku ni having insomnia.. keep waking up and has trouble falling asleep walaupun dah ngantuk sgt.. sigh..
mayb i m too tired agaknye.. keje ni uat aku fikiran gilerr ar.. smlm je aku alik lmbat.. hubby dah angry.. sigh...
hi ladies..m new here..just wanna ask you guys your opinions on tis problem that had occured to my close friend...she's very depressed n needs help.
she's 20 yrs old n is single. she gave birth to a baby girl last yr n her boyfren had told her that he wants to take full responsibility of my friend n their baby. so my friend,who was gullible, believed him n moved into his place. they survived by the money that her boyfren gt by selling drugs.
after 3 months, her boyfren chased her n her baby out of the house claiming that he wants to take 'sejuk'(ice) in the home w his friends n he doesnt want the smoke to harm his baby. she didnt want to go n they ended up in a big fight. he beat her up till she bled..
she went back to her parent's place n styd for around 2 months. by that time,she had already broke up w her boyfren. during tis period, her boyfriend kept on harassing her,forcing her to hand over their baby. when she refused, he will come to her parents place late at night n threaten her. my friend had made countless number of police reports against him..but the police seemed that they were not bothered by her complains.
he managed to take his baby away when my friend was out to work.she had sent her baby out to a baby sitter. he entered the babysitter;'s place witout permission. the baby sitter had forgot to lock the gate. he took tis opportunity n barged in her home. he had also threathened to beat her up. another report was made. but to no avail. the police didnt do anyting.
now,it has been around 5 months eversince her baby had seperated from her..she wants to bring tis case up to court,but she cant afford a lawyer. she knows that her baby is not in good hands. her boyfren is both a drug addict n drug trafficker.how is he able to take good care of his baby when he cant even take care of himself???? both his step mother n father are also drug addicts. no one in his family is responsible enough to take care n support her baby..she made a mistake by not telling the police in previous reports that he is a drug dealer. she thought that maybe she might want to accept him back in her life..but now she regrets by not telling them. she's all cofused.so i urge mummies out there who r reading tis,pls share your personal views on hw to help my friend...tnk you for your time reading.your help will b greatly appreciated
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ello dear.. i've read thru your post..
i personally think that she just need to make another police report..
this time round please indicate that he's a drug dealer as well.. so that the police will take some action now.. previously they can't be bothered coz both of them aren't related.. jadi drg pon malas nk buat keje.. but if now to lodge a report bout a drug dealer.. i'm sure they'll get their butt to work..!
tell her(your friend) not to fuss over that big time sucker animore..!! just leave him alone.. and move on.. make sure that she has an income now.. so that even if the guy were to report her to the police in whatever occasion.. she'll still win the case coz she has an income.. and the court won't send her doter to some foster parents..
then now your friend lives w who..? and who is the baby sitter..? how come the guy can just anyhow ambush the fellow's house..?
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hi ahpen's wifey- what i would suggest is that she should source for a lawyer who is able to understand her situation. If i m not mistaken, there are such lawyers around just that you have to look for them. It is impt that your friend actually keep the police reports as evidence. In the first place, if she was harrassed constantly, she should have taken up a police protection order for her and her child. This will prevent d guy from close to her.
Right now, she should get a protection order for herself in case the guy wanna harm her. She should also lodge a report indicating the bf's actual "job". That will wake the police up.
The babysitter should also make a police report with regards to this. This will help support your friend's claims as the police can sometimes regard this as a domestic problem and not get involve.
Tell her to keep on trying to locate her daughter and engage a lawyer. Sometimes the best way is to engage a PI to find out the whereabouts of her bf and daughter. What I am worried about is some ppl can stoop so low as to sell their own child for the sake of money.
Last edited by arabjunior; 30-07-2009 at 12:19 PM.
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Hi aHpen's wifey...
Seriously amazed and shocked that the police did nothing coz every reports, they have to take statements and by doing that, it will be keyed into their systems so i really wonder why they're not doing anything. Eventhough your friend didnt tell the police about her bf's drug addiction, they still have to react!! Coz its about an infant's life. Anyways, yes... your friend HAS to report it again and seek help from them. Im sure your friend can also seek help from AMP or any badan2 Islam (if she's a muslim ). There's lots of places where your friend can ask help. Women have upper hand when it comes to this situation. So please please ask your friend to engage a lawyer asap coz anything can happen. Ask help from her parents too. They will know what to do.
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su.. dont b surprised that the authority did not take any actions.. coz they are just plain shit..! they didn't take any actions coz both of them aren't married.. that's y drg buat bodoh ajek.. unless she went to fight w lawyer.. bru jln cket.. kalau tk drg buat bodoh ajek.. drg anggap perkare biase.. especially among we malay..
i da tau sgt ngan perangi 'beruk' nie.. coz i got friends from tiz line last time..
aku sokong ckp lis. kwn aku kena bantai teruk dgn hubby dia. this report police then one day police at her house nmpk hubby dia pull her by d hair n drag her, drg dont do anything coz for them it's domestic problem.. kesian sey my friend...
tanks for all the reply ladies..really appreciate it!
Last edited by aHpen's wifey; 30-07-2009 at 02:08 PM.
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my friend cant afford a lawyer..you heard of the $1 lawyer scheme bfore??my friend ckp ade org blg pasl this scheme..cam bayar pakai instalment gitu..she wans to try n seek help from al the islam organisation..but she doesnt know how to say..sumtimes i myself dont understand her..she likes keeping things to herself n dislike sharing..nanti makan badan sendiri!
a friend of mine pn pena sell her daugther off for $10,000..die tk kawin..n is a prostitute..she sells her daughter off to her own customer declaring that its his son..wen i scolded her fo doing such cruel ting,die simply ckp yg she's just being rasional. she wans the best foe her child n she believes that the new family is able to jamin her son's future...
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aku tak jual kropok .. aku jual potatochips and krepeks.. hehehe... aku tk kena mengena dgn d you know who.. so ko jgn start wokeys.. aku suggest ko start topic baru.. hehehe.. diana mmg senyap. ko jgn terperanjat nanti dia ronggeng lagi power dari segala ronggeng ppl. hehehehe...
ko ni senyap je wats up?
Ku semalam on leave send my eldest gal for registration primary 1.. Chey! Punya senang seh register kan anak.. haahaahaaa.. Aku ada kancong seh pasal register ni smua skali sampai sana makai! Punya easy and tak ramai lak tu.. haaahaa.. Ayu, potatochips and kerepek ehk?? bagus2 mak aku tadi pagi ada sound aku tanya kawan aku ada jual kuih2 or kropok2 raya tak? So nak katakan pat sini dah terlalu bagus smuanye ada.. heeheehee.. Tak yah ku pening kepala nak beli pat geylang tu.. Memang tak fabret betul kalau mak ku suruh beli kuih pat sana confirm kuih mepek2 ku bwk alek.. Itu part dengar mak ku TERIAK!! haahaahaa...
hi ahpen's wife, read your post. Tell your friend to speak to her MP and also get in touch with AWARE. With MP's backup, her case may be stronger. About the finances, AWARE would link her up to the correct sources which she may be eligible for.
It would be better if she has concrete evidences to support her claims. Like for eg when she was beaten up. She should get a doctor to write her a report or at least, take pics. Also to keep any text messages which were threats to be given to the police.
And you said, she made a mistake for not reporting that he was a drug dealer. So what is she waiting for now ? Go and make report again about his identity. What she needs too is a professional help like counselling from centres that deal with her type of case.
You may be deceived if you trust too much,but you will live in tormentif you dont't trust enough.(So trust your instincts for it will never lie)
Kawan2, ada sesuatu yang ku tak paham ni pasal RUN ni.. I dah sign up and print up the confirmation slip.. Abih tu pat bawah it stated date 16,17 & 18th October 11am to 8pm suruh kita turun and present it dgn ID kita.. Tu apa cakap ehk? I tout RUN 1st November kan?? hmmmm... Ada orang ceritakan pat kita tak sedikit sebanyak pasal ini kisah???
Ina, anak skool mana nanti ? Senang kan register P1 nih. Tak yah kancheong gopoh. Next, tunggu reply later. Kalau ramai register, kena ballot. Kalau tak wait for orientation letter.
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