This is a discussion on Young mummies ! (again lol ) within the Mummy Cafe forum, part of the Community Lounge category; Originally Posted by Janellebb Seriously dont understand why must singapore have so many rules! Actually under 18 the ROM parents ...
Lol. Really need to meh ? Idk . But I getting Rom soon. My bday dec so basically I still need to wait 1 and a half year ! So I think I'll just go rom. Even if my parents need to go counselling. (:
What is the procedure for the marriage of a minor below 18?
Both of you are required to go to apply online for a Special Marriage Licence (SML). Upon successful submission of the application, both of ou and your respective parents will be contacted by a staff from the MCYS appointed agency for a social assessment of your suitability for marriage. As part of the social assessment, the couple and their parents are required to attend the marriage preparation programme.
Upon completion of the social assessment, you will be given a reference number (for example, IF123456). Please use this reference number to update your information in the ROM website at www.rom.gov.sg. Upon completion, please print the ‘Filing Instructions’ which shows the appointed date and time to appear at the ROM to complete the application process including making a Statutory Declaration. The appointment is usually within the next 5 working days. The SML application will only be processed once all requisite procedures have been complied with.
Where the SML application has been approved by the Minister, you have to visit the ROM again to confirm your solemnization date, time, venue and the solemnizer’s details. Please note that the SML is only valid for a period of one (1) month i.e. your marriage must be solemnized within one (1) month from the date of approval.
- The social assessment and application process would take between 2 to 3 months to complete. - Where the application for a Special Marriage Licence is approved, the couple shall be followed up by the MCYS appointed Agencies for a period of up to 3 years after their marriage. - No-show cases will be treated as voluntary cancellation of SML application and there would be no refund granted. - SML is granted only if both parties are found suitable for marriage.
Actually the counseling still okay na. They will give you some marriage prep course. Then during the last lesson they will ask your parents come only. And during the first interview also need. So should be that's all.
Ya. Last year. Me and karynn same batch want. Hahaha! Ya . But okay . They will teach you a lot things plus lessons quite fun too
What can they actually teach you ? How to love each other ? Lol. I think my Boyfr a little bit not understanding about my pregnancy . It's like in th beginning he damn guan xin. After that in the middle he even ask if the baby was his. But I dont't blame him. Cos he army. Today suay suay ladies night I dozed off to sleep didn't text him then I think he super paranoid now. Feel guilty thou. ):
They will Have some talks like what's couples will have to go thru after marriage blah blah. What shall we do if we face difficulties in the future etc. Plus during our lesson they taught us how to swaddle baby. Hahaha. Hmm he paranoid cos he tout you went out?
I still rmb joey swaddled the fake baby very well !! My mother in law compliment you !! Haha ..
I find it quite okay .
Although first lesson maybe boring . But they really teaches us alot . I will always recall what the counsellor told us ..
I still rmb That the counsellor said always put pur partner in the first place cause they are the one who will acc till the end . Parents will old , children will grow up and marry . The only one who will acc till death is our partner
So good uh ? Still teach all this ! Lol. How many lessons ?
4 i think ..
Ya. Maybe cos the first lesson too long hours already. Very sleepy in the air-con room! Hahaha. Really? Hehe thanks!! Actually I very lousy is my hus teach me then I know. :x hahahah! Yea agree that they taught us a lot that will still make me think back of what they say especially when quarrel with hus.
i'm 25...malay,mom of 2 kids aged 7&7mths
Hi young mums!
Actually it's quite common already in sg having mums at young age like 17,18,19...
Some I've seen is like only 15 ..
I myself 26 this yr, have 2 kids!
1 girl alrdy 7yrs old & a boy 5months!
Haha, can consider I'm a young mum before !
dont ask me why my kid's age gap so much diff, I can only say divorced n got remarried
It's difficult to handle kids nowadays..
But as long as we work hard, we can survive !
Helloh ! (: yeah. We can all make it thru. I find that actually we are more fortunate ! We got more energy to chase our kids around ! Hahaha.
Sometimes i feel a bit regret getting married so early!! Anyone of you still club after birth?
Hahaha, got married early got good and bad. When the bad comes is really bad. When me and my hubby just got married we keep quarrel, at that point of time i really feel so terrible and end of life. But sometimes good then feel very sweet and romantic.. Being somebody's wife really not a easy job.. I guess my mum suffered a lot too. Haha cause she got married at age of 18! I know how she feels now!! Really not easy. The future still got a lot things to come!
Yup ! We just gotta be strong ! (: look on the brighter side of life. After being preggy I realise I had lesser time to bother to quarrel with my Boyfr. Too busy caring about my health and suffering. So whenever I suspect something is wrong I tend to keep quiet. Thanks to the symptoms , I will forget about it ! (: I hope it will still last even after birth. Too busy to care for baby no time for Boyfr ! Hahaha. (: just have to be strong and know that one day we will overcome it. The storm before the calm. (:
Haha, I do club after birth
But now seldom , cos need takecare baby... Tired to even go out..
Agree with janellebb, there's good n bad married n háve children early..
Good thing is: We'll tends to be more matured mind set that the ones at your age, as we'll start earning n saving money very hard for the sake of your child & really learn alot!
Another thing good is when we rch 38-40 like that, your children might be wrking alrdy n you can relax alot n kind of enjoy life ..
The bad is : we have to start suffering at such young age while others are enjoying or studying hard for better qualification, while we have to stay at home look after kids until stable then can go back to study, by the time all your friends dont know graduate until whr alrdy but you still stuck thr..
At such young age you'll still definitely wanna enjoy life and will kind of lost in touch with the world out thr due to your kids etc.. and relationship wise might not be so stable (touch wood)
Had went thru all this shits before, but I do hope you young mummies to be strong n strive hard, always think for your little ones
Feel free to ask me anything k!
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Or email vonn_55@Hotmail.com
Yeah . It's not rly regret its just that everything seems to be like restricted. Like wherever h wanna go have to think for baby first. And slowly also drift away from friends already. For me I never club after birth. Only went pub to relax and drink and chit chat with friends only. But since I chose it myself, so have to be responsible for what I have chosen.. And think of the good advantages in future. Hahahha! Think for your baby and you will feel that what you sacrifice now is all worth it! ^^
If possible, let's organize go pub chil out & chit chat 1 day together.. But must when baby have someone to look after ...
But feel abit old being with young mums like you hahahahhaa!