Thank you for the mutual support and sharing, Happy MTB & Cygo.
Indeed it's not easy and "jia jia you ben nan nian jin" (every family has its own issues, challenges, and problems).
I believe both of you also need to come to terms with your own family issues. ((Hugs)) Redirect Notice
Yes, let us rejoice in the new life we have created which is growing inside us each day.
We should look at the positive side of things and remember that ultimately, as parents, we are the ones who bring our children to this world and we ought to be responsible to and for them. Of course, with dual income families as the norm, we often need some extra helping hands.
I'll get a domestic helper but not sure if I will get a nanny.
I have even thought of resigning from my job and be a stay-at-home mum for my baby, but that will mean a lot of sacrifices which at this moment, I am not willing to make yet. I still want my financial independence (who knows what will happen in future?
I mean it's scary to be a homemaker and one day, you may find your hubby is unable to support you for some reason, be it health / death / disappearance / betrayal / divorce...
I also want a professional identity which is not just linked to being a wife and mother.
I help to supplement my hubby's income and pay the housing, and definitely still give my parents monthly allowance to show my appreciation for bringing me up. In addition, my father had decided to retire earlier than the official age.
In other words, I am starting to know how it feels like to be sandwiched between having parents and future children to support.