This is a discussion on EDD May 2012 Mummies! within the Year 2012 Mummy forum, part of the Mummy Meeting Place category; For those who have delivered - how many of you are still having lochia bleeding and if cleared how long ...
For those who have delivered - how many of you are still having lochia bleeding and if cleared how long did it take to clear?
My bleeding is brownish and some days just spotting but on one or 2 days it gets heavy and I'm not sure why. So just wondering if anyone has something similar. Mine isn't fresh/bright red blood - more like uhmmm say 3rd day of period that kind - dark brown/red.
I'm aching and having more painful contractions today.. My boss just asked me to stay home if I dont deliver by this sunday. Haha...
Hi selineleow n tannie, our edd are the same n our gynae will away during our edd, arghhhh
Induce or wait , I am lost...
My gynae also away from 20-24 may. Is this a mass gynae conference or something??? Lol....
Reading your post tells me that your unhappiness with your mother in law is cumulative. Thus, coupled with the recent 'baby snatching' incident, your tolerance is to the max n you no longer wants to tolerate further.
Now, for the baby shower, understand that you want to host n welcome your guests but unless you want to tell her straight in the face (which is a big No no) that you prefer her not to join, you may have to compromise n have her around. No matter what decision you made, must think of your hubby. He is caught btw his mum n you. Not worthwhile if you tarnish the relationship with your hubby over your mother in law.
At times, we cannot be so 'forceful' in our ways. Marriage is alot of compromises n putting ourselves in each party's shoes. this a way, couple can go a long way. with a child now, there wil def be conflicts re child upbringing so all the more husband n wife needs to communicate n understand each others point of view.
For the bag of clothes, since you have already asked yr hubby twice n he's obviously not giving you a clear answer, there is no need to make things difficult for him. Also no need for you to give your back to yr mother in law. just throw them away. when your hubby next ask you re this bag (provided if he ever Realised it is missing), you can casually mentioned that you have thrown it away. Be as casual as possible. No need bring in your emotions over such trivial matter. At times we woman must be smart to know when to give in, when to persevere
Above my 2 cents worth. Always rem the reason y you married your hubby. Thus, any decision you made, must consider his feelings too. This a way, you can build your marriage further. Best of luck k.
Rukia, miracle, meilynn
Thanks for yr feedback. I was getting a bit worried cos I was only spotting 2 days ago and suddenly last night I saw my pad a bit soaked after pumping/feeding. I just breastfeed my baby a while ago and same thing as well. Discharge is dark brownish red.
I also read online that (like what some said) this can go on for weeks and stop before your real period comes back. Funny thing is some people dont't even know what is real period cos they also think its still lochia bleeding :P
I also read so long as your pad isn't soaked every hour which requires you to change and have some smell I think it's safe to say its normal lochia bleeding as oppose to post natal hemorrhage.
Yap, most prob they r goin to the same conference ... my gynea did not propose induce, otherwise I will... I dont't like to wait...Originally Posted by Tataro:649888
it'll b a bigger risk if I throw that bag of clothes away.. its a definite no no.. I'd rather give it back to mother in law directly & say in a nice way is it she has forgotten to take back.
I knw we as wife has to see ourselves in their shoes but my hubby is rather insensitive towards my feelings.. he fun like me to cry over such issues but I just cant help it. why shld d wife always b d one to compromise & not d guy? my case is clearly shown that his mum is d cause why cant he give in to me? ultimately I'm d one living with him for tis lifetime not his mum.
I tink given d choice to let mother in law come & help host or return d clothes, I'd choose to return d clothes. as I wont see d clothes anymore in my house & that she'll only b at my house that few hours hosting.
haha, same, i keep talk to my girl ask her to come out today or tomorrow, so no need to induce, i told her will bring her to disneyland next time, wahahahah
these few days my body start to get swollen, especially my legs and my hands, dont know is this a sign of labor soon, face also more pimples, so ugly now
If mother in law ask why bring back, just say you thou she forgot as it is there for a long time , you also keeps forgot to take back for her. Act as you r helping her to bring back, not return.
Just went for check up. Cervix already dilate. Will go back on mon again which is my edd then gynae will decide to induce baby on that day. I told my gynae wow Lao, what baby wants now. Make me feel uncomfortable with the cramp and contraction and still dont want to come out. He laugh. He asked me keep walking these few days. I lost 1 kg too and he say is
Normal at this stage.
I dont't want to induce, want to wait for the natural first signs to happen.. But also wait until impatient ...wanted baby to come out this week too!
My hands n legs swollen for quite some time . Back aching more n more these days. Tummy also hardens up for most of the day. Been trying to track n time my contractions but seems difficult to tell when they start n stop. sigh..