im going back to India for a month in Nov can't wait for that holiday and a break from household chores..
This is a discussion on EDD Sept 2012 mummies! within the Year 2012 Mummy forum, part of the Mummy Meeting Place category; erlina , you r not alone my baby also cranky at nitez .. I think is just a growing stage ...
erlina , you r not alone my baby also cranky at nitez .. I think is just a growing stage for them .. while for your mother in law think no choice hav to swallow all your frustration as you all r living under one roof ..
im going back to India for a month in Nov can't wait for that holiday and a break from household chores..
Does anyone know where I will be able to find catholic baptism robes / gowns here?
reiann, no choice no helper .. although she is not good but at least can help me do laundry wash bottles do little of house work here n there .. haa .. at least I can nap awhile on n off .. earlier gonna terminate her service but scare e replacement even worse so just Hold on .. get her fr PEM agency ..
I went to buy a sling yesterday hoping to bring baby out in future with the sling.. Just tried with baby but she looked super uncomfy inside and kept fidgeting.. Also, her neck seems at an awkward angle.. Wen I put her down in her cot after multiple attempts with the sling, she's so relieved she actualli smiled at me.. Sobz.. I dont know how to use the sling!
hey felicity, hugs hugs.. hope you're feeling better.. i can understand the pain in piles.. actually i dont really check my poop .. had mixture of blood and stuff in it... but my piles getting better.. gynae gave me more cream and daflon.. occasionally i'll just try to push it back in like what the nurse in hospital n gynae did.. if not very uncomfy to sit on it.. sigh but it comes out again very soon.. My baby's temperature is always between 36.9 to 37.3degs.. i think its normal.. when its hot in the day, i measure forehead is around 37.1,37.2.. will ventilate room more.. on humid nights, i only swaddle tummy down , leave legs open.. if too hot then i unswaddle... i think if it persists above 37.5deg then its a cause for concern.. that time charlotte was persistently at 38.5deg.. unswaddled her completely still did not go down in half hr.. then we brought her to A&E ...
Sigh i still putting up w my CL's black face.. attitude .... told her to reuse the water that used to heat up milk, to soak my bottles before washing.. coz she used a huge bowl of water to heat up.. she is quite wasteful in water.. always full blast tap and pour water away... told her to reuse since its clean.. but she did not do it.... :/ I am still discussing w hibbynif we shld tahan her for amother week.. confinement ends on 23rd...... shld i terminate her early and try to diy all by myself? currently i am still super tired physically and mentally.. all the things that came n pass since delivery... i have not been able to reat well, build up my body.. my ex CL was saying i need to take more tonics and maybe drink DOM everyday to build back my strength , after confinement its harder to gain back... but then this CL never do anything.. cook normal food n veg only and it sucks.. anyone got any wine to recommend for us mummies to drink? I'm really worried i have lost my physical strength and canmt really have energy to take care of baby from 2nd month on... i have seen friends who gave birth and really build back their strength and still going b strong....
Mummies hang in there... Be it cl or mother in law... We are mommies... I believe you all can... Now at night i just take care of baby alone... dont even bother husband... Feel depend on myself better still... Ytd baby also cranky.. Coz hardly sleep in e day... I just latch her to comfort her phew....
Btw i just went polyclinic n had baby 2nd husband jab... Wt gain about 1.3kg consider good... Jiayou mommies..
Lings you try with bolster first till get e hang... Coz keep trying with baby... baby pissed off one
Hi lingz12 I realized our daughter has the same name,Desiree and coincidentally born on the same day too!! 11th sept
lingz: same! I bought a sling weeks ago and tried it with my then-newborn, and it was so awkward. I had tips from a friend but it still didn't really help. I found it also cause her to spit up too, as it's putting her in a very awkward c-shape. I think i'll only use it later, when she's large enough and able to more or less hold her head up so I dont't put her in the cradle hold anymore.
so in the meanwhile I bought a manduca.. those soft structured carriers. more expensive.. but so far, it's really fantastic. great for the baby (allows it to have its head upright without pressing down flat on mattress), and she sleeps so quickly in it and nicely. I go out with her now with it, never without!
kary!!! you're going to india! fantastic. I'm going on a holiday in december too with the baby, really not sure how it'd go. hope it goes well for you in november. would you update us how it goes? eg packing for baby, travelling with it (in plane especially), etc? tips and all will be so helpful. seems like not many people travel with babies that young, hence I'm rather clueless..
Reiann - I will let you know what my experience is once I get there.. For now I'm extremely nervous, cos I'm traveling alone with baby, but I've booked on business just so that I get extra special care... But I've been doing a lot of reading up on travelling with an infant and a lot of people say its easier when the baby is really small, plus now most airlines provide that extra care for passengers travelling with infants. *Fingers and toes crossed* If she's a good baby on this trip, then planning another holiday in December after I come back..
heh yes, Kary! that's what I read too - and some of my friends told me the same - that infants when they can't roll/crawl/walk/talk/complain are much easier than older babies/toddlers. I think it'll only be the equalising problem and maybe night feedings/wind/colic etc usual problems, otherwise, when they sleep, young babies can be such angels.
well, good luck, and have fun business class sounds awesome. wish I could travel on business class too!
I still have not't got my passport photo of baby done yet! argh.
Sigh! Just bathed came out n saw my baby sleeping on CL's bed beside her, she lying down w one hand on handphone, one hand on baby... she asked me before if i sllow baby to sleep on her bed an i told her NO.. i wanna train baby sleep in cot... then sh has done this twice without my permission ! i just reminded her and told her to put baby back in cot soon.. she says she tried 3 time baby just refuse and cry.. so she is holding her in her bed first then transfer.. sigh what to do w a CL like that?
I swear! babies are real angels when they are asleep so peaceful and calm..
Good luck with the passport photo, I had taken soo many pictures right from day 4, and finally one was right but her hair was not done in that picture.. And when you take the picture make sure there's no shadow, a lot of my pics had just a little shadow but the embassy was not ok with those pics..
Meltie I think you will be better off without a CL... If I were you I would have just fired her, she seems to be causing you more stress.. I'm sure you will do fine on your own, a lot of us are doing it, you will get the hang of it in no time..
yeah I have to agree with Kary: meltie, if she's causing you more unhappiness.. what is the long term benefit? if she's a helper, than you can slowly teach her what you'd like to do, but even if a helper is reluctant to listen to your instructions and do things your way for MOST things, I'd fire her too. so for a CL, I'd fire her on the spot!
it really , really REALLY isn't that tough to take care of your baby yourself. only the food bit sucks. I have a helper who cooks for me, but she doesn't help with the baby, only for laundry.
you can either get confinement food delivered to you, or you can make batches of food and freeze them, and pop them in microwave (not confinement food). not that I believe in confinement food anyway..
good luck with your CL!
@Kary: passport photo = stress. but yes I really should get this done. will try now. sigh.
Yea I agree the only painful part is the cookin.. For me I normally hated the cooking part after I got married n now with a baby I hate it even more..
Kary, true enough! Will try my best not to have expectations on mother in law which will make me feel worse. Sometimes, I just wish my flat can come soon and on our own than put up with it. Baby super cranky just now, refuse to sleep after milk. Didn't even have time for lunch and finally she's asleep. Faster finish up my lunch and pumps milk before she might wake up again. Must learn to be independent.
I saw dirt in my baby's nose. So far in and it's like blocking her whole nostril, which I suspect might be causing her crankiness and not able to sleep deeply. But, how to take out?
Meltie, hmm, if your CL is causing you so much stress, think mayb it's a better choice to terminate her service.
melti, although my cl not good but I think urs is worse .. I also agree with other mummies you should ask her to leave .. mayb get in a replacement if can if not you b having more stress with her in your house ..
any baby is easy to handle ?? like eat n sleep thru out so guai n dont fuss ?
Meltie.. I think if you cant tahan your cl.. Might as well fire her... Too stress not good for you...
So kary your pic took fm studio???! Last time i made my #1 i go those photoshop took one.. Coz i never manage to take it properly... Lol
Today my mother in law keep nagging when we use e carrier... Haha... No point explaining i feel just 1 ear in 1 ear out..
Rodorsany I took the pic on my own... And then took it to the studio for them to select the one that was suitable and they cut it to te measurements. But if you take a proper pic and dont't require too many changes you can crop the pic to the measurements yourself, deres a website that allows you to edit to passport size measurements..
Recently, baby likes to pee just wen I'm removing her soiled diaper and before I push a new diaper beneath her buttock.. As a result, she will be all wet and I have to wipe her clean and change her clothes.. Esp hate it wen she pull this stunt on me in the middle of the night.. And just now she got a new stunt! Just wen I'm wiping her bottom, a fresh spurt of explosive poo shot out, staining the changing mat, cot bedsheet, cot rails, my thighs, calves, feet and the floor.. I just went AHHHHHH! And baby looks super satisfied with her explosive poo.. Sighz.. I hate her stunts! In the end gotta tip-toe to the washroom to clean myself, wipe the floor clean and change the sheets.. Sighz.. If she keeps this up, I'm gg bonkers..
Who here went for doctor cos if breast lump?! Sowee cant track post as some numbering cannot load..