This is a discussion on EDD Sept 2012 mummies! within the Year 2012 Mummy forum, part of the Mummy Meeting Place category; camcam, I think your mother in law also another tough one to due with .. any intention to move out in e ...
I think your mother in law also another tough one to due with .. any intention to move out in e up coming yrs? if not no choice hav to close one eye n accept it .. mine also another one .. enduring to avoid husband being caught inbetween..
uttmama, for comfort suck initially I train my baby with pacifier .. no choice .. although is tough at e beginning hav to keep trying n trying .. n I even bought lots of different type of pacifier for him .finally he accept it n he normally take it before sleep, when deep sleep he will push out e pacifier himself .
Yea Kary, glad you can come!! Thanks keatbear for organizing.. Let us know if you need us to get anything, like log cake etc? Paper plates, cups? Drinks?
Camcam, hmm.. your mother in law sounds scary too.. Think it's never easy to stay together with in law.. your hubby got say anything? Think the only solution is to have our own house, less contact, less conflicts.. Haha, my friend once said that the government is at fault for causing all these coz all the BTO projects take so long to complete and by then, friction and conflicts will start off.. Now, home alone with mother in law, coz hubby went to take exam. Hope things will go well..
All your babies are drinking so much. Am my girl taking too little? She is only drinking around 100ml for a 3 hour interval feed.. The most is 120ml.. She is feeding directly from bottle, I'm not latching her coz she has forgotten how to latch. So, at night, I will try to force her pacifier if she is seeking for comfort sucking. Take almost 2 weeks for her to accept pacifier. Even now, also need some technique to force that into her mouth..
Camcam find a way n talk to your hubby. Do you intend to move out? If your hubby sides your mum then no choice but I think you have to talk reasons to him.
My mother in law realised she is wrong for kicking a big fuss over a small matter. She left n thought I can't handle my son alone. Well we didn't call her but she called my hubby after that. I m no pushover.. If I have done wrong I will apologies but this time I m clearly an innocent party. So ya she will b coming back again but I told my hubby under one condition. Since I give in to him to let the mother in law come back then he also have to give in to my condition n that is e mum come on mon n stay over till thur then fri when I reach hm she go back her own house. I need my life n privacy too. Whole day she sticks around only make me feel pek chek. When I was pregnant I alrdy told hubby two women can't stay in same house one.. He doesn't believe keep saying his mum very nice n simple.. Well I thought so too... End up now he witness the drama himself. Another condition I state is once my son turns 18mths I will send him to childcare n his mum has to go. No more staying. So ya.. I think need to fight for your own rights n happiness sometimes.
Actuly it's good to clean baby's tongue n gums. good for oral hygiene n also cos the milk stains will affect his taste bud.I m in e dental industry so I would definitely recommend you to do so. If you find e wipes expensive use a small thin cloth damp it n wipe also can. As for e gripe water I read some research online saying they dont't recommend toddler less than a yr to drink that.. So I also dont dare to feed him that.
Camcam, your mother in law also power ! If mine dares to throw my things, I'm not gg to be polite with her .. your hubby sides with you? Get your hubby to tok sense to her .. I'm thankful I'm not staying with my mother in law.. Else I'm sure I will hit the roof everyday too.. The few times I bring baby to her house, she will always act the know-it-all.. As if she noes my baby better than me! I always place a hanky on baby chin when feeding ebm, she wil just sit beside me and take away the hanky.. I was like TSK.. Then baby started to look around, she will say baby start to recognise house oredi, MUST let baby sitter take care of her NOW if not she sure can't settle in if I wait till I go back work.. Heck care her .. I say I take maternity leave to bond with baby, not throw to baby sitter and I slack at home.. Anyway, my girl super adaptable.. She sleeps anywhere, I'm sure she will adapt well wen the time comes.. We dont stay together so I will just one ear in another ear out.. I can't imagine if we stay under one roof..
Wa.. your babies drink so much.. Mine onli drinks 110ml every 2 to 2.5hrs.. Sometimes she can't finish too.. And she's 10 wks plus oredi.. But I'm happy as long as she puts on weight.. Hee..
I clean baby tongue with damp cotton wool wrapped around my index finger.. But she always bite my finger so can onli clean e tip.. How to clean the inside? So her tongue now looks perpetually milk-stained.. Haha..
Oh ya.. My girl used to like bathing a lot.. She always smile and kicks in the tub.. But ever since Sat, she kept screaming the moment I put her in the tub.. Have to quickly bathe her and quickly take her out.. Water temp is ok and I have never dropped her in the tub before, really dont know what's wrong.. Sighz.. Anybody has this prob too?
kary i've been bringing baby out in my ergo carrier without the infant insert. however i just realized (cos today i went out for quite long w baby in the carrier) that there are red marks behind her knees, maybe abrasion against the carrier seat ><
my baby drink very frequently but i dont know how much she drinking cos always latch. but last night she slept from 8+ to this morning 6+! 10 hours!! she woke up also never cry, i kept wondering if she's not hungry?! cannot be... once i carry her she rooting like crazy lol so i quickly latch her~
actually i have not't cleaned baby tongue n gums >< cos i dont know how! >< omg...
camcam oh dear... your mother in law really get on ppl's nerves! *hugs* will you be getting your own place?
keatbear thank you!! we will split the bills~ i must rem to draw money before i go! XD
Lizzy and felicity - are your ergo carriers comfortable for baby and you? Im in such a dilemma if i should buy ergo or manduca... Thinking properly this time dont wanna buy another one which i wont use..
Keatbear ya tell us what you need.. Each of us can bring somethibg so that its not a strain on you.. We can probably make a list of things reqd and different ppl can volubteer to get things and then split the bills.
I cant believe so many of you have mother in law problems.. Sigh! They are such touchy subjects.. Im so glad i dont live with mine, because the times she comes to live with us or when i go dere its always like walking on thin ice. She feels she knows everything and she is always right and whatever i say is wrong... Especially When it comes to my baby.
camcam & Rodorsany,
Your babies take how long to finish 150 & 160ml ? My baby drinking 120, 130ml every 3 to 3.5hours....seems cant increase somemore coz he will tends to fall asleep & have to keep wake him up. I try to change to medium teat but he will fuss & cry and refuse to drink, so no choice have to continue use smaller teat. I even tried to poke the hole a little bit bigger but he also fuss & cried. sigh....
My 7weeks gal only drink 110ml, trying to up to 120ml but she often can't finish.. Worried it will be too little for her.. She is using tommee tippee no1, tried to use the vary flow teat but she cries and choke so I used back slow teat.
I am on partial fm too, supply has been dropping to 80ml each pump, i took domperidone last week and supply up to 110ml, this week i stopped taking and drop back to 80ml. Looka like need to keep taking it. maybe I should try lactagreek soon..
Btw I tried to latch my gal this eve but after 10min she fuss while sucking, does it mean no milk come out??? Any mummies has same experience?
yeah, I really feel very sorry for you girls with mother in law problems. they're soooooo tricky, aren't they? my mother in law is in town too, but she really is very nice especially compared to all yours! BUT - the fact is, I'm just not used to living with anybody else except my husband.. I do like my space (like piglim!! good for you!!!).. but it's only for a while, so I'm just tolerating it. and I have to keep reminding myself that one day I might be a granny too, and if my daughter has a kid, I wouldn't want her husband to not like me.
kary: if you're not in a rush, why not wait till 19 Dec the meet up and try out the Ergo and Manduca carriers some of us have? I have a Manduca, and I'll gladly lend you on that day to try on your baby... and I'm sure Felicity or whoever else with an Ergo can lend. I'm thinking of buying an Ergo as an extra carrier - cos sometimes my baby poops while in carrier and if it's a huge poop, it can leak would like to try it too.
eh, I have never once cleaned my baby's mouth!!
how are your babies' development? mine's about 9 weeks and IF and WHEN she's in a good mood, she does smile and coo... but sigh. her reflux and gas problems cause her to still cry quite a bit... but at least I'm thankful she feeds effeciently, and only needs to feed every 3-4 hours.
My baby drinks milk 180 ml every 4 hours...
Karry the ergo i have os organic so quite soft. And the padding for the shoulder are quite comfy too. Only thing is very hot but i think manduca is hot as well.. Unless you wanna get bjorn airy mesh which not practical and only last till 12 months old.
how lOng does your baby take to finish 180ml? do you used medium flow teat? how do you train your boy accept it?
Yeoymp my girl feeding time ranges... Fm 15~45min.. Usually e last 30~40 took awhile if her stomach is full of wind if not 15~20mins will do e job... I will burp her when halfway then cont..
Reiann so far development ok.. baby has been interacting e moment she wakes up around 7+8am she will smile sweetly n chat she reacts very well to her sister
Yeoymp, i think takes him more or less 10 mins.. (My baby is a piggy lol) still using the 0-1month teats from MAM, i tried the 2months+ teat whic medium flow but he's just spilling milk and crying while drinking lol like being drown like that.. Ill change the teat if he complains bout the flow.. Like if baby stop drinking and still crying means slow for him cos i tried diff teat (playtex) which flow is super slow.
Ya agreed that mother in law issue is very touchy. I am staying with mother in law too. In one hand I am very happy as she is taking care of baby during day time while I rest and I am doing night shift feeding. But in the other hand, she is very sticky to baby and my husband, every where we go she wanna go and my husband is the mama boy type one, husband always said mum is alone in spore and very wu stay at home last monday we went out with baby w/o her an when we were back, she said to baby that nai nai miss you so much.. Come on we only out for 3hr dinner. I really hate mother in law to follow us, I have not't told her about our gathering, but I tell my husband , hope she doesnt insist to go with me to the gathering.
anyone using pigeon brand bottle?? i bought the wrong teat i bought the wide neck when my bottle is the slim type...if anyone using pigeon wide neck bottle i can pass you the teats...is not the one hole type i think is for 3mths plus
sigh why oh why... i'm staying with in laws too n no hope to move out. hubby already told me before, dont even think about it, he promised his parents to stay with them forever or something. like very filial but now i feel more like he's treating his mum like a free maid cos every single chore she does >< n he very good everyday still can play diablo... i thought after baby comes along no more. zzz. fat hope.
anyway baby been sleeping very soundly from 4pm until now >< omg i hope her sleeping hours dont't get messed up! she's supposed to sleep from 8pm to 6am! i think bringing her out tires her out... ><
kary i can always bring my ergo for you to try reiann you want try too? reiann i also never clean baby mouth ><
Thanks felicity! Would love to try ergo.
Aiyoh you should wake your baby to feed! Otherwise her long sleep would be shifted to 4pm till 12. Heh. I wake my baby up for last feeding at 11 no matter what.. Usually she's asleep but I'll wake er very gently to feed her a d she also feeds and drifts back to sleep. Dream feed!!
I really feel for all you with mother in law probs. yeah I think many mother in law s just dont't understand that we need time for ourselves, with our husbands.. Just the three of us.
Hee I'm latching now!! I came into room found her awake n suckling her own fist but never make any noise... Then quickly latch her. later hope can coax her back to sleep...
Any1 of you having bleeding in week 7? My initial bleeding stop when baby was on week 6, but the bleeding came again for 2days since yesterday. Is it called period or still dirty blood from the preg?
Linlln84.. I so called had menses at wk 8 but only 4 fm days... Pretty light flow I thought coz I partial bfg so perhaps menses partial??!!!
Count me in for the gathering too! Btw are all mummies here in your 20's? Any mummy born in the 70's?
Any one baby dont't wanna drink milk all of a sudden ? My boy at 8 weeks suddenly refuse to drink fm or breast milk and nothing wrong with my breast milk taste... Not sure why am getting worried it has been like this for 2 days and he can lie down on the bed look around for quite some time...read that at 8 weeks there is a wonder week where baby undergo mental development? Any mum experience this ?