hey ahwang.. jiayou jiayou.. i feel you too.. sometimes i do really wonder why i get myself into this.. but as always, when i look at this miracle in front of me, with her big innocent eyes and small little grin, i tell myself i can make it through this phase.. its worth it.. it has really been a tough journey for all of us mums so far.. thru conception, gestation, delivery , confinement, taking care baby ourselves and to adjust back to work.. in between still gotta face family, in laws, etc, even strangers..! Hmm i also dont't have an easy baby.. you've read my stories.. everyday is a battle.. i'm just so tired at times.. and its ok to complain, its ok to cry , its ok to breakdown in front of hubby.. we're not super humans, but just new mummies.. i feel that as mummies, we have that special strength inside of us , that'll propel us to do watever it takes to take care of our little one n to make him/her happy.. i feel that your boy is happy that his mum is strong! I feel sometimes its not saying we are weak when we ask for help.. maybe if you can have some support, ask fot it? try out?
hmm i already very thick skinned to ask my mother in law to help me buy lunch everyday n cook dinner for us to pick up almost every night.. somemore i am on a restricted diet (to reduce colic n gas).. my mother in law have to go market buy veg, buy lunch, drive to my place , drive home n cook dinner.. sometimes she even sends dinner to us coz we are tired n bz handling baby.. i used to also think i can do it all.. but somethings just gotta ask for help..? Well i'm still doing alot myself.. taking care of baby by muself takes up every min of my day.... (i'm still complaining.. haha) Even now as i am typing with one hand on my iphone, i am using the other hand to rock the bouncer .. baby has been fussing since this morn.. did not sleep after her 7am-9am feed (yes she latched for 2 hours!), bathed her, she did not sleep at all.. then 10.30am she cried for milk, after milk at 11.30am, she pooped n leaked.. cleaned up and put her on bouncer she also did not sleep, keep fussing n talking.. carried n walked around the house still doesn't get her drowsy.. then mother in law came to send lunch and made her alert by playing w her while i gobbled down my lunch.. just as i sipped my water, she cried again for milk.. tried to drag but to no avail, she wailed like crazy.. mother in law left n i am back to feeding baby again.. she fusses alot at the breast during latching (maybe gas or just fussy), unlatch n pulled my nipple so hard.. actually the base already sore n got bloody lines.. tried to rest one side by doing block feeding.. (pumping also pain!).. baby fed frm 1.40 to 3pm, pooped n leaked big time! cleaned her back while she was super cranky.. ;( she might have licked up some desitin that got to her hands as she was waving it around her thighs while i was wearing her diapers for her.. cleaned up n carried her want to put on bouncer.. but she wailed for milk.. attacked my breasts.. so i let her drink till 3.15pm.. she unlatched slpy.. but when i tried to burp her abit, she cranky again.. then walked around n put her down on bouncer.. her drowsy eyes no more .. now she is 'coughing' threatening to cry.. frowning at me while i rocking her... this is my morn n afternn so far... i am super tired.. only slept bare 2 hours? her 2am feed drove me nuts as she fed till 4.30am dont't wanna sleep.. Well sorry for hearing me rant! Haha but i just long to see my baby happy can .. see her peacefully sleeping though not for long also worth it... love her so much.. all the troubles just fade away and i just tell myself tomorrow is gonna be better? it will come.. i trust the advice of those who went before me.. just like during pregnancy, they say shld sleep more as baby come out very hard to sleep .. sure enough.. have not slept more than 4-5 hours per night (these 4-5 hours is interuppted n not block kind!)
Hmm ahwang i feel you shld really seek help? out seek an outlet? i feel mummies support grp is so impt! Really wish i can be there for you! Maybe we can have playdates tog w our bbs at our house.. take turns to take care of bbs tog? Afterall our bbs are all about the same age.. really hope we can be of help! but if you still feel uncomfortable, its ok.. Do rant here k? You're not alone!
As for carrying baby, i also scared will spoil baby... my friend who is a behavior therapist says it shld be ok as they will only really condition near 2 yrs old.. well when they learn to walk n run, maybe we'll miss carrying n cuddling them? So i just chreish cuddling and having her snuggling up to me.. but i practice with limitation.. when she not fussing n crying i won't carry.. when she fusses or unhappy, i feel she has no one to turn to, just want some comfort n cannot describe her pain.. maybe got itch on her eczema? maybe cradle cap itch? maybe pee got burning sensation? maybe the gas is really painful? Or her back is numb frm lying down? Poor bubs cannot do but to cry n look for her dearest mummy.. to us, she's one of our many things in life.. but to her, we are her everything n world.. i feel she'll be very desperate n broken if i dont't care for her n carry her when she needs me... haha just some thoughts..
oh ya, a word of advice from my mummy friends who have 3-4 kids.. they say we dont need to be so kan chiong to attend to our bubs.. can just go toilet n pee.. let baby call awhile pr cry abit its ok one.. and most imptly, they keep reminding me that baby doesn't always want milk when they cry.. most of the time they fuss n cry coz they wanna sleep n its normal.. many kids still cry to sleep n wake up that time also cry.. its ok one.. (oh well except cases like colic..where baby crys for no reason for hours.. i really 'tolong' my baby.. ) hope this helps!
Hmm any mummies with backache? i think mine gotta do w the epidural n bad posture during breastfeeding.. i feed on the bed, back to the headboard.. but its slanted.. so i feel the ache on my lower back.. jialat.. dont know if it'll be chronic...
Hey Angpq, i am using physiogel intensive care (i think only sold in clinics) its more for my baby's dry ezcema.. its been working very well.. before that i was using johnson baby lotion (pink).. it solved problems of dry hands n feet frm day of discharge frm hospital..