I guess we r in a pretty similar situation. I bring my 5mths to mother in law house every morning and bring him back. The elder one goes to full day childcare. We have no maid as well and am working full time. But its taxing physically whenever I think about household chores and am hoping to be stay at home mum to look after the baby myself. Its always a joy to be there during their milestones.
Nice to know you. Take care.