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There is this saying cannot announce your pregnancy during T1 bec baby not yet stable. Do you follow?
i planned not to but my mom suspected and she asked so i told her and she spread the news.
i didn't plan to tell everyone before i enter 2nd trimester not because of superstitious, but if anything happens i won't want people to give sympathy as it will make me more sad.
then it happened to my sis, she announced her 2nd pregnancy the moment she tested positive, and got miscarriage at 6weeks.. she became more sad as when she meet people they will ask hows her baby and it's so hard to tell that it's gone.
first person to know is of coz my hubby and my parents, which was at 6 weeks
after that i told my boss at 8 weeks
the feeling of uncertainty is definitely there
i think i told my bestie after i visited my gynae at first appointment
besides that i dont know who else spreaded the news
but i left it as it is, naturally lorr....if they know they know. IF not will keep it quiet until it is obvious then everyone will start asking
Only my husband, parents and close friends know at 5th week, The rest at 3mths.
I am not that 'pantang' person but is not purposely tell anyone.
Because I dont't have any relative in Singapore, so need to ask my colleague about her pregnancy progress and what should I need to prepare.....
Of course the first person to tell is my hubby and is my mum when I found out I am pregnant about 4 weeks...
I only announce to family members then hubby announce to some friends. But that time we dont know about this "cannot announce thing" until one of his friend told me that must wait till baby stable then can announce. From then on we keep quite about the news. Till baby is around 4 or 5 month plus then we openly announce.
For my first pregnancy,i told everyone the minute i found out i was pregnant..I was sooo happy to share the good news with everybody.But sadly,i had a miscarriage at 5weeks.And some of the people whom ive told about my pregnancy started spreading rumours about me saying that i never take care of myself and that is what caused my pregnancy.Some even openly told me that my womb is not strong (whoever made them the doctor..!!).Maybe i was just being too emotionally sensitive but instead of offering me their sympathies,they talked bad behind my back.
For my second pregnancy,i never told anyone coz i learnt my lesson.And thankfully i didnt because my second pregnancy too ended in just about 6weeks.Think of all the emotional roller-coaster i would have had to go through AGAIN had i told everyone about my second pregnancy..!!
For my third pregnancy,i waited till i was past my 12th week(3rd month) before telling my parents and in-laws.Due to my high-risk pregnancy,i literally held my breath hoping that i could make it pass my 1st trimester.After my 20th week (5th month),i told my boss and my closest friends and collegues.After my 24th week (6th month),i announced to the rest of my relatives and friends.Honestly speaking,im still quite anxious about letting people know of my pregnancy.But since my baby bump is quite obvious,my secret is out for everyone to know..!!!
So it depends on you.Some elderly people might say its "pantang" not to announce your pregnancy till you are safely pass your 5th month.But finding out that ure pregnant makes you wanna share the happy news to everyone you know.Just be prepared emotionally for any setbacks.Even friendships with a few of my girl friends who've been trying to conceive have changed since they've known of my pregnancy.But i have faith in GOD because all good things come from HIM and hopefully the rest of my pregnancy will be a safe one.
The first one who know wasn't baby daddy...bt is my collegue...zzzz...she idiot..still suspect i was playin a fool...zzzz...then next moment is baby daddy...then my parent...after dat...all friend..i not pantnag type....nor do I wori about miscarriage...so i think is fine for me to let them know at e veri startin.....
p.s:wen i know i preggy was 4weeks plus nia....
so far, only my family, close relatives n close friends knw about my preg.. i'd rather wait after 1st trimester before letting everyone else know.. i even refrain frm buying any baby stuff in case anything unfortunate happens.. but honestly, i cant wait to start shopping especially with e taka baby fair starting nxt week!! hahaha!!
i also did not announce when 1st trimester , only 1 of my best friend , 2nd is hubby , 3rd is parent , only announce on the2nd trimester ..
I m a pantang person so i did not tell anyone, only my hubby knew.
But close friends n relatives suspect coz i begin to wear loose clothing (normally like to wear tight fitting), so i admit when they ask.
But for the rest of the collegues, only announce when 20 weeks, alot of them also suspected coz i grow much fatter..haha
i announce during my 1st trimester too coz of some complications... then got to take time off to go Kandang Kerbau Hospital and take HL so no choice... i also did not know cannot announce till one of my colleague told me...
Well, it all depends whether you are superstitious or not. For me, the moment I found out, I told everyone, especially at work. So I got special treatment, HAHA.... SO many things that I usually gotta do 1, no need to do. Bcoz I work retail line, normally gotta vacuum n mop at night, all I no need to do... So if I waited few weeks later to say, I still gotta do, hehe... And best is got ppl help me buy food all the time...
my mum was the first person i told. hus was second. they did the announcement to the rest. ha ha
So far only my family, close relatives and my best friend know about it.
I didn't want to let everyone know, but hubby wanted to share his joy with everyone. Anyway I didn't want to be treated like a queen, but his family members are treating me as one. A part of me regret telling so early, especially since its the chinese calendar 7th month, and now they are restricting me from going out at night. lol.
for my 1st preg, everyone knows it once i was tested positive but i got MC on the 11th week... actually i'm not pantang on this but the 1st tri is the mot impt one which determine if your preg can continue so on my 2nd preg, most relatives konw only when i entered 2nd tri, anw there are some sill know before 2nd tri due to my mum's 'help' haha...