most people around me knows of my pregnancy at around 6weeks ..
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yeah, that's why I dont't wish to tell anyone til everything is confirmed.
most people around me knows of my pregnancy at around 6weeks ..
I am now currently 5weeks only. Other than hubby, my in-law & cousin who is a nurse. no-one else know. Will wait for it to have a heartbeat first before announcing to close relatives. For colleauges, probably only during 2nd trimester or if anyone notices prior to that.
i'm also keeping it hush hush till my 2nd trimester. currently at 5 weeks or so.
think is better to believe old wives tales till baby 3 mths..
Yes, I did - both times to my parents and ILs first.
The first time, my mum went around announcing it to everyone and then a few weeks later, when I had a miscarriage, she blamed me - "this will teach you a lesson not to go around telling people". My ILs and my hubby especially got very upset with my parents because they were hurtful and worse, they blamed me for it. My miscarriage was because of a blighted ovum and purely genetics. Whether I tell people or not, it wouldn't have changed a thing.
The second time, my hubby told his friends and parents. After which only did I tell my mum and I was clear from the start - "dont't tell anyone and keep this to yourself". I did it not because I was pantang or anything of the sort. It was more for their benefit and the fact that if history were to repeat itself, I dont't want to be blamed for something that isn't my fault to begin with.
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I announced mine quite early in first trimester, to my parents and in-laws the week after we found out (which was about Week 6 or so).
Personally, to me, I am not pantang and neither are they. We see it as a matter of 'convenience'(for lack of a better word) - It is to help make things easier in the unfortunate event of a subsequent miscarriage (which apparently is still quite common up til 3 months). This was exactly what happened to my sisters before, so I was advised to keep it under wraps from extended family members who have a reputation for being nosy.
Also, partly for work reasons, I had to make it known to my immediate boss so that I could be excused from tedious duties.
Unfortunately, I couldn't get out of some superstitious beliefs that my mother imposed on me when my grandmother passed away subsequently. Had to wear a small piece of raw ginger tied using a red string/ribbon around my waist. Then after the funeral, I had to dispose of it by hanging on a tree or something. That was when all my extended family members knew...
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i announce to my boss so he know why i take mc and leave for, and unfortunately in the end my whole dept know i am pregnant already.hope they dont go and gossip around to the whole company.
As for me I only announce it after 3-4 mths, very the "pantang" ..
for my 1st pregnancy - the moment tested positive, told my hubby then both side of our parents. I also told bosses and some of my colleagues cos i had some functions which is quite physically involved so i can be excused. And I put on weight quite fast and went to buy drawstring pants on that Friday, next day when i went for chkup.. realised my baby's heartbeat has stopped and that was wk9. sigh..
for my 2nd pregnancy - we became pantang. Only me and hubby know until about wk8 or 9. Told ILs is cos 1 happened to cook dan gui chicken soup, then didn't wanna anyhow eat... and told parents cos I was having very bad morning/all day sickness - vomit badly and no appetite to eat. For closer friends/colleagues, they also suspect when i always didn't wanna go out lunch (cos of the food smell), when they ask, I admit. After 3mths, i announced to bosses and some of the colleagues. The rest of the ppl, they didn't know i was pregnant cos instead of putting on weight, i lost 4kgs - they thought i on diet. hee... ppl only start to noticed when i was after 6th month when i slowly gaining a bit of weight. i'm now wk33 and continue praying that everything will be smooth and sound.
Last edited by woofy55; 14-10-2009 at 02:58 PM.
I didnt tell anyone except my parents and parents in laws. I am those superstitious type so would want to keep it a secret after the 1st trimester..But my mother in law kinda informed her mom, which is my grandma-in law and some relatives from her side...
I was very upset as I do not want anything to happen ;(
But so far my little gal has been a good gal and I hope she remain this way and stay healthy until she meet us
So it depends on whether you believe in superstitions....
Take care and smooth pregnancy process ahead
for me, i am now going thru my 2nd pregnancy and am really pray hard that it will be a success one for me as i underwent Miscarriage with my 1st pregnancy. am now in 5 week plus.
so far, i guess only my office people know cos they all know y i am on so long MC.. sucks right. and then i told my mother in law about it cos i need help for praying to zu shen niang niang. other than that, i will keep a secret till got heartbeat then tell my parents about it...
personally I dont until after the 1st trimester is over and baby is stable..
My own gynae himself advise me against 'announcing' my pregnancy to others. hehe
Mummies, I need some advice.
I'm almost in week 9 and so far I've only told my hubby and my parents.
Have not told in-laws even though I knew since week 4. Reason being, in-laws been waiting for grandchild for years and I'm afraid if baby not stable I go tell them, if anything happens they will be very disappointed. So I've been thinking of telling only after 1st trimester.
However, my mum said that my in-laws would be unhappy if I tell only after 1st trimester.
What would you do? My in-laws very excitable one, will tell whole world.
I tink is subjective ....i tink mostly old people wont announce cos they might be "pang tang" .....maybe you can let them know when you r about 12 or 13 weeks cos i tink is more or less stable around that time bah....let your in laws know that you also let your mum know the same time as them loh
my in-laws is quite diff cos when she happen to found out about it she dont look happy she just look normal cos she say cannt appear to be too excited & she also dont talk about my pregnancy till 12 to 13 weeks cos baby sensitive....haha
I was expecting them to be more excited cos first grandchild. You can't imagine how upset I was by their nonchalant reaction. It's like they dont't care. Was very, very sad last night.
dont't be upset! =) I'm sure they are very excited and happy but maybe because they aren't too expressive? Hugs to you dear! =) have a happy pregnancy yeah? God bless..
btw are you staying with them ? if you are not comfy with her taking care of the baby then ask your mom to help out... but sound your hubby out 1st just in case he has diff thinking
it's ok if she did not buy tonic for you...believe you can afford them yourself... look on the bright side...you can choose what you want to eat and not being forced to eat what she get you