This is a discussion on Miscarriage within the First Trimester forum, part of the Pregnancy Forum category; (: Pm me if you need somebody to talk to ! i will reply asap....
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I m 28yo and was first pregnant last yr Nov2012. at 8wks scan,found that baby no grow n no husband.I was quite emotionless and the dr only explained that it is 1 in 4 and such things happens..there was no blood,no symptom. I have no nauseas, no swollen boobs throughout. Missed miscarriage..went for D&C in Jan 2013.Rested and took lingzhi pills cos chinese doc say my body weak, so the baby cant survive....
And wahla..I conceived in March13...my bday gift from Heaven! Am 12wks now... I have to admit i do feel very paranoid throughout. At my 7wks scan, we saw heartbeat..excited but sudden, no nausea, no swollen boobs..i was so paranoid again... cos chinese doc sae I shld have waited..after D&C easy have,but easy drop.... Went back and saw husband again~ and at 12wks scan...saw the little bean kicking, jumping... still paranoid but 2nd trimester shld be stable bah?
Guess it's really one of the things that happen... but good news is, recover well and relax and soon, baby will be back...
Someone told me, the baby choose when and whose child it wants to be... In Jan my new house just collect key...I thought it would be a double happiness, turned out to be single..but I figured probably baby did not wanna inconvenient me during the time when I m busy renovating, so it decided, Well, I'll be back~ and yes, its back... The mc also makes my hubby takes extra care of me this time..no household chores for me at all, no mopping, no sweeping, no laundry...I just be a queen... so is a blessing?
Cry your heart out..then be brave, be strong mentally and physically, and try again..we can conceive once, we can conceive again! most of us did..so will you!
I understand the pain of losing a child as I am currently miscarrying. As in miscarrying naturally. Bleeding is tapering already. Will be seeing gynae tomorrow as she wants to see how "clean" I am on the inside and decide what to do from there.
First appt with gyane already gave me a bad feeling as nothing was seen in my womb. Blood tests followed and results were not good. My Hcg wasn't doubling but increased only slightly then decreased a little. So gynae told me that it was either an ectopic pregnancy or a pregnancy that is not viable.
I started bleeding on sat and went to see gynae on mon. She confirmed it was a biochemical pregnancy and gave me a day's mc. She also told me to call her if I get any severe cramps or bleeding. Thank goodness I have none of that though I did pass out clots.
Everyone has been telling me to not think about it and that I'm still young, can try again etc. I know all these... But the pain is still there. I dont't cry anymore now even if people tries to comfort me. I have sort of put it behind me. It may seem fast but deep inside I know that if I dont't, it will be hard to try again with the pain lingering on.
So I told myself to get over with it and take good care of myself now. I'm just glad hubby has been very supportive this whole time and will be bringing me on a shopping spree this weekend to shop to my heart's content. Haha... The poor wallet of his...
Anyways, sorry for the long post but I just want to let you ladies know that you can also do it and let it go. Letting go doesn't mean forgetting the one you have lost but putting him/her in your heart forever. Now I just want my cycle to be normal again so that I can start trying again.
So long didn't come back & read this forum. Life is busy with works again.. back to normal AGAIN...
To miso: thanks for your encouraging words same like you currently I'm more careful of what I eat & drink. Now I dont't drink cold stuffs & try to balance my diet.
But now I feel so irritated of my hormones. My complexion is super bad pimples all over & now I'm having my first menses. It has been 6 days & is still so heavy with clots.
When I thought the whole miscarriage episode is ending & I can start all over again. This menses thing bothers me again & making me worry is it something wrong or is normal.
This is my first time experiencing heavy menses & before that my menses only last 4 days.
you have any advice to give me? or Anyone here can advise?
i rmb after my d&c my menses was quite cranky and unlike what i should have normally so it should be okay. Till now my period is lighter than what i usually have but i rmb my gyane telling me that it was fine if it gets cranky, just to monitor the next month after that. Just a little tip, studies also shown that women are at their most fertile between 6 months after the d&c so if you are ready you can try again after 2 or 3 cycles, wont be surprise if you have good news. But still rmb to tiao your body and rest more. Less caffine and No alcohol. Always felt i lost my first one was due to frequent drinking at pubs
Love and hugs!
Hi lush thanks for your prompt advise! I think I shall monitor for the next few days & hope it will get lighter. I worry I've any underlying health issue.. *paranoid again* hahaa..
Hi I'm new here.
I have seen Gynae today and he has told me my baby is not growing. I am really devastated. Have been crying since afternoon.
I supposed to be 8-9weeks but my baby has stopped growing at week 5. Sac is growing but not baby and there no heartbeat at week 7 today.
He gave me 2 options - to DC / let it out naturally but I dont know when.
Can someone pls advise me?
I keep telling myself baby is not fated with me but still I cannot withstand the sadness inside me.
This is my first pregnancy. Can anyone share with me their experience?
I am so lost, dunnoe what is the next step.
Sorry for the late reply..
Almost the same as you, I'm given 2 choices but my gynae advised me to have a dc cos worry I might unable to take the "messy" situation & personally I find is more clesner in a way.
I feel your sadness as I also gone through the same thing 2 mths ago. I took around 1mth plus to stop crying but if you ask me in my heart it still aches whenever I think of it.
One of my close friend who had the same scenario told me that I'll not be able to totally get over until I have a successful pregnancy in future. I'm thinking she might be right.
No matter what happened now, we still have to move on & be healthy mentally & physically cos the body is ours & we need to take care for any future lies ahead for us.
Be strong & dont be sad too long ok you're not alone..
Thanks for your reply.
I have seeked second opinion and I still decided to go for the natural way, I am really very scared of the dc procedure.
I am still waiting, I really hope its soon eg. Today. So I could move on. My gnae actually ask me to visit her when its my second day menses so she could actually see if all is out (the major ones).
Yes, I has accepted this as a fact and I will move on. I think, yes I will be constantly worried for my next pregnancy. Only set a piece of mind when we see the baby out!
Will be strong. Thanks for your message.
I dont't know who to talk to. Just went for D&C last Friday.
We went for 2 scans, 1st when 6 weeks+, still can see and hear heart beat. Went back for 2nd appt at week 10, was told baby stop growing at wk 8!
I just kept thinking why I dont't even know or feel anything. How can baby be in me for 2 weeks, and had already stopped growing and I didn't know.
I opted for D&C as gynae said it could be too big and may have bad cramps. I still have to care for my 2 kids on my own. Another reason is also I can't bear the thought of having my 'dead' baby in me for another week. It's just killing me. I thought I would feel better after the ops. But I just cried again and can't fall asleep even though I'm feeling so tired.
We could have taken this for granted, as we have 2 lovely kids and was trying for our 3rd and last one. It was always 1st time concieve for us. Totally not expecting this to happen.
My 5 year old tells us he misses baby. I lost my temper at my 2 year old just now and made her cry so sadly and it makes me sad. But she came to hug me so tight and kiss me so many times on the lips, trying to make me feel better. It just made me feel like a terrible mum. Yet I feel so blessed to have them.
I had told some of my friends about the pregnancy but yet to break the bad news to them. I can't face the comfort. I know I will break down again.
How long will it take for me to be stronger again. I need to be strong for my kids.
I just had a D&C done last friday and was admitted to A&E in the middle of the night as i had sudden bleeding accompanied by bad painful cramps.
I'm doing my confinement now. Was wondering whether is it normal to just have bleeding for a day and spotting from 2nd day onwards? Today is the 3rd day and spotting seems to finish too. Is it considered normal? I thought that the norm is to have bleeding for a week.
i am am very sorry to hear this. For my case, I had bleeding for 6 days.
dont worry as after this, you could check with doctor whether everything is fine after your menses end.
Every body is different so let the doctor diagnose you.
I m sure rainbow baby will come to you soon! Have faith!
dont't be too upset.
Let your body recover first, and you can try again and believe that it will work out fine.
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Hope and Healing After Miscarriage
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I also gt m.c recently. Natural m.c at home. It happen too fast that I cannot accept it still. I miss my period I already know I might be pregnant but I scare too early went to the gynane cannot confirm. Until 5 weeks doc say "well, I think you are pregnant" why must say think. Make me confuse. Was also very stupid didn't try to go to another clinic to confirm. As I had been seeing this gynane quite awhile as I was trying to concieve. Then next week was suppose to come back for the scan but after I see gynane, 2 days later I bleed. Flesh red, I was shock and scare call my husband. He ask me call the clinic they say red bleeding is not normal please come to the clinic in the morning (because when I call it was already 5pm plus, clinic closing). husband was so worried send me to kk hospital. Waited for a long time finally I seen the gynane there. Say that bleeding stop and cervix was close scan baby is still there. That was a relief for me. Then the gynane say m.c is very common in 20% of pregnant woman. This made me cry I got scare again. He gave me duphaston and 2 days mc because day after was a Good Friday long weekend. I really did bed rest not moving around. I didn't drink cold water stop eating any tidbits no coke no green tea(my fav) what ever is no good for baby I stop. I only take folic acid. I took them before I was pregnant too. But heavy bleeding start again the next 2 days. I call the clinic tell them that I bleed again. They ask me to come down immediately. My gynane scan give me injection did blood test says baby is still there. Ask me keep eating duphaston and say bleeding is common in pregnancy. I went back the next day still bleeding heavily so I remember doctor say is normal for pregnant woman to bleed so that 2 days I just rest, anyway after 2 days I am going back to gynane there. The day I went back I notice bleeding was not that heavy so I was thinking should be ok. Then I told gynane bleeding heavily last 2 days he say not a good sign. Scan can really see my baby. He say seems like still the same size. Should have a m.c did a blood test drop to 200! Perviously was 1900plus. Ask me to prepare anytime next week m.c naturally. Give me 5 days mc. I cry and cry the whole day. Some more was supposed to go holiday, tagging along as my husband go for business meeting day after I didn't get to go. So my husband went only and he send me back to my parents house so they can take care of me. The night I shower a big piece of thing like a york drop out. I was scare I know is my baby. And I know is a boy!!!! He drop out from my tummy already!! I pick it up take a look scare and flash it into toilet bowl. I cry and cry, thinking of the york then blame myself for flashing into the toilet bowl. I still kept thinking is it my fault so that he is gone. I still think of him everyday. I didn't really "pu" because my mum was working only I ask her to cook for me then she did it. Not everyday I got tonic soup to drink. So I want to see a Chinese doc so that I can "pu" back and prepare for a better pregnancy in future. I kept thinking was I did to cause this m.c is it because I did something stressful at office that hurt the baby or because i told my boss and my senior I am pregnant before it is 3 months. I didn't really told them I say I am on mc take a photo of the mc, they ask me if I am pregnant I say very pantang that's all. I dont't want to say I am sick because I scare they say I act take mc. husband and I was trying to concieve since last year I really thought wow thank you god for this wonderful gift but I didn't know m.c will ever happen to me. God why want to take away my baby boy from me and that fast!! My friend my mum say is my fault because I like to go gym go running! Sad to hear that! When I know I was pregnant I didn't run at all!! I skip gym also!! I only went yoga once!! Perhaps this is my retribution!
Hi Pinky Kitty, sorry for your lost. Do not blame yourself for the mc. I had 2 last 1 n half yr. My 2nd i went to another gynae for 2nd opinion. Was told mc that early has got nothing to do with what you did or what you did not do. The pregnancy is just not viable and your body kind of know it. Let yourself recover n try again. Depends on individual, I recover quite fast and now I m pregnant again into my 21 weeks. I dont know if it's true but yes for me even though not planned. I was told that a woman is usually more fertile after mc n after birth. So you need to recover emotionally n physically to be ready to try again. good luck to you.
congrats to you and thanks for the encouragement. I give myself deadline till this week to put everything to a stop and get back to work as usual not to let my colleagues friends family to worry about me. I hope I can do it. I intend to see Chinese doc weekly to make my body stronger before trying again. This time i must be all prepared to try again.
Dont worry dear. I too had a MC 5 months back and I know the pain. Please sorround yourself with supportive friends and family as they make so much difference for you.
I thought I have gotten over it when I just realized I missed my period this month. My periods are always regular, missed period for this month. excited I did a HPT 10 days back, -ve it turned out. I went to doctor on 9 April 2015 for a blood test and result was +ve. My HCG count was 89. This Doctor said its very early in pregnancy. I am now on Folic acid and UtroGestan 100mg (2 tabs at bedtime). Today I did another blood test and HCG count is 830........Is this normal?
Dear ladies, please let me know if I will sustain this pregnancy and become mother of a healthy baby. I am so worried and stressed out.My doctor has asked to see her again in 2 weeks time.
I have no nausea. However have backache, lower abdomen pain and sore breasts.