cant really help much 'cause i only got 1 baby. but 1 thing we have in common is the fear of needles. i rem shivering like hell when the anesthesist n nurse r preparing the drip n epi. shivering so much that they had to ask me not to move, even ask my husband to hold me so my body wont shake so much. hahaha...
but since your no. 2 is already on the way, there's no way you can avoid it already rite? since so, y dont just accept n face it. like there's this saying, 'whether you r happy or sad, you still have to go thru the day. so might as well go thru it happily.' dont know if you know what i'm trying to say.
alw rem, if you kept feeling scared, worried, unhappy,... it'll affect your baby (physically, mentally n emotionally) also. i'm sure you want your baby to b a happy bubbly cheerful healthy one rite?
all the while, i'm vvvv scared of needles n staying in hospitals. i've never been operated before. n i never like exposing my 'ahem' to doctors or nurses. that's partly y i gave birth late. but when i know i'm preggy, i know i have to face it even if i'm scared. even if i dont want to face it, i still have to abort. n abort also have to go hospital, take injections, do some surgery, expose my 'ahem',... so no matter what, cannot escape. so what i did was to ignore. just live life day by day. dont think too much n too far. if have to do something i dont like, just think that i'm doing it for my baby.
it works for me. mayb you want to try too. ;p