This is a discussion on Seat in MRT within the Second Trimester forum, part of the Pregnancy Forum category; i'm also in my 4th month of pregnancy, and depending what i wear, the tummy can be seen, though not ...
i'm also in my 4th month of pregnancy, and depending what i wear, the tummy can be seen, though not too obvious sometimes. so i can understand if people can't tell whether i'm pregnant or not, and dont't offer their seats to me. but it's quite sickening to see an elderly or pregnant lady or woman with kids get onto the mrt/bus, and not a single person gives up the seat, and pretends to sleep, sms or play game.
i had a funny experience recently, when i took mrt to see gynae. there were no seats, so i ended up standing in front of this guy who was seated and talking on his phone. after a while, he kept looking up at me and my tummy. think he was trying to decide whether i was pregnant or not. then he asked whether i wanted to sit. i was going to get off the train in a few stops anyway, plus it was the morning, so i declined.
then a mother & daughter got onto the train, and someone else gave up their seat for them. again this guy looked at me. i can just imagine his brain juices churning and wondering 'is she pregnant?'. then he tried offering his seat again. but i was going to get off in 2 stops, so again, i declined.
i think it's quite funny when you're in your early stages of pregnancy, and people keep looking at you funny. you just know they're wondering whether you're pregnant.
I have met a few kind one. Like today. One Malay guy immediately gave up his seat to me when he saw me.
sigh..... I always had the same problems.
No one is giving up the seat to me, Now at my 6th month, my stomach so big, idiots also can tell i'm pregnant. But still when i stand in front of them, they immediately fall asleep or look elsewhere or just concentrated in reading their books or listening to their ipods.
i have good and bad encounter. The ones that give their seats up to me are mainly from china or phillipines. There was once i met a lady in a very crowded bus. No one gave the seat up but it was ok to me except the fact the lady standing behind me kept pushing me and looking back at me. I got piss and push her back. She think perg woman can bully, she is wrong
That lady is blind or what? How come keep pushing? Tell her straight to the face "Hello, can you stop pushing?"
I was talking with my hubby in the MRT that day and this lady was standing infront of me and I was so engrossed in the talk that I didn't realised she is pregnant until 2 mins later
I jumped up and say "sorry didn't see you" and gave my seat to her.
The ironic part is,
That is that very day (2 hours later) I found out I was 5 weeks pregnant
Until now my hubby will still laugh at me and say "pregnant woman give seat to another one" LOL
Its difficult to get a seat be it in MRT or bus.
Now I'm preggie 5.5mths, even if I stand in front of those pple who are seating they heck care, pretend to be "blind" or act sleeping even though they are seated @ "PRIORITY SEAT".
Duuno y got so many uncivillised pple in Singapore .. got education but no morals.
Aniwae there's always retribution, coz there's always gonna be their turn one day.
To some kind souls, thks so much for giving me the seat, so far I come across 2 pple only.
the day before i gave birth, i stand all the way from City hall to Simei!! no one gave me a seat... I wonder sometimes may that's why give birth early!!! too tired .......
huh, how come that lady dont give it up herself!!!
i know! preg ladies, next time, pretend to have leg cramps!!then ppl will sure give it up!!
they pretend, we also pretend lohh!!
I think we should ask for the seats in a polite manner. I was feeling dizzy on the train today, the lady@ the priority was sleeping, I went up, gently tap her and politely ask for the seat. She gave up the seat to me and was quite embarassed, think she didnt sleep on purpose but maybe plain tired.
My wife was laughing when she was telling me this story as she was wondering, how come my tummy not big enough for people to realise that she is pregnant meh. lol
Ok, I am now about 6.5mth pregnant can comment on this topic, as my bump is quite obvious now but depend what I wear that day, I have good and bad encounter over seat in MRT, so far I have been given seat 4-5 time since I was pregnant. Actually I was a bit not used to it when ppl given their seat and sometime I would just tell them is ok but some are really sincere where already stand up... so if I dont't sit they might be embarred... so I usually smile and thank them at least they would feel what they have done is been appreciated, this might encourage them to repeat the same behavior if they see other ppl have the need.
I think is not that I am happy to be able to get a seat but it warm your heart to feel ppl living in our society are considerate about others.
Actually, people nowadays are more interested in earning money till the part where they forget to be gracious.
Lol.. this topic again.. dont talk about it .. I wasnt given a seat til the day I give birth.. Even taxi also people want to snatch from me, what do you think?
yeah i know joanna, even now ppl see me with pin, they also snatch!
esp at taxi stands, cos i carry pin, or holding pin, sure cant walk faster than them then they will "run" to the taxi stand... GRRRRRRR~!!!
Not only seats in MRT. In my gyane's clinic, other preggies's hubby also won't give up seat for me to seat. I am 5.5mths preggy with a bump still have to stand and wait for my turn to see my gynae. LOL.
haha, i ever heard of this encounter, where this 2 ladies r friends.
one preg one not.
so they both enter the train n then the not preg sat down n ask the person next to her to give up the seat to her friend!
then the person say, im also preg, why not you give your friend seat??
then that lady was so embarrassed.
i also dont get it lohh. her friend preg yet she sit first n ask other ppl give her sit. -.-"
anyway, when i was preg, my tummy also very small. but im was very skinny that time, so can still see my bulge, n mostly who give me sit r old uncles/aunties.... n some working women... other ppl? just STARE!
Do not argue with an idiot. He will drag you down to his level and beat you with experience.