This is a discussion on Second trimester sleep within the Second Trimester forum, part of the Pregnancy Forum category; Originally Posted by XenXuan Haha it's very hard to say that now.. I also did said I dun1 my son ...
I will try to sleep separately with my baby from day 1. Promised myself that I will ignore his cries...but things r hard to say.
Oh gosh,the cryings is something you cannot ignore successfully,i can assuredly tell you this.. Newborns will cry every 1-3hrs.. Mine was crying every hour or 2 till full month..sleeping peacefully was almpst impossible for me n hubby back then.. only till 2nd month onwards he's sleeping thru the night.. Finally dragged his milk time to 3hrs interval at 3mths I think..
I am also planning to put baby in another room w CL, during my confinement month cos I need to rest mah. Kekekeke...so selfish .
Anyway I dont know what to expect since its my #1. XenXuan, maybe you can give us a few tips here and there....
At last few days of confinement, have to start doing night duties to be used to it. Any problem, there's still CL to take over.
Mine was kind of i wanted to learn n do everything myself..ended up doin quite few wrong things..my health was still weak n breastmilk eventually stopped after 2mths only.. Did not know can take those milk formula for lactating mums n wasn't eating much since confinement as I totally lost my appetite n was too tired breastfeeding my baby.. Luckily my health recovered back before my son turns 6mths old,but still feel it's not as good as before pregnancy already.. No wonder they said confinement rest is important,I learned it the hard way..
Eating a good diet also helps in producing milk. If no appetite, try eating small meals more frequently.
I did natural birth,so till 3rd week onwards when my wound dont't hurt anymore then I started to attempt use my breastpump but product was little..was taught to express each side breast 5-15mins then change side often for total of 30-45mins each session..I even bought the rather expensive breastpump that can massage during expressing,but only used for 2mths..already feeling very guilty for unable to supply breasmilk for my boy,when my hubby still say I dont pump often,tats y no milk,wasted the breastpump..he thinks that as long as i got pump,will have milk..was so depressed back then..
I wasnt eating much as I dont even have enough rest,was just wanting to sleep more than eat..i tried to eat as much whenever i can,but still did not have much nutrition myself,how to have enough for milk production? Was learning to take care of baby myself as my hubby wanted me to be able to look after him alone after my confinement..Was suffering from baby blues eventually,almost turn into depression that I wanted to go see a specialist..
Now 2nd pregnancy,symptoms of depression is getting on me again,with my 2yr old son so naughty n on my nerves always,problems of this n that arising due to the upcoming 2nd baby,I'm so stressed up,was so afraid I what be able to rest well again for this confinement.. Hubby refused to get CL nor maid as he thinks me n my mom r superwomen,can handle all that cooking,take care of 2yr old n newborn,breastfeed n others when my wound stitches pain is killing me..I dont know what to do,dont know how I can handle by then too.. Omg I'm feeling depressed again..
Last edited by XenXuan; 11-03-2011 at 04:58 AM.
Is hubby against CL because of finances or some other reason? If finances, then having good CL (supportive of breastfeeding) can help Mummy breastfeed successfully. After that, can save money on formula milk. Well-rested Mummy = happy kids & family that no money can buy. If you really think you can't cope in first month, then try to let hubby understand gently.
Another alternative is to cater confinement food so that your mum can concentrate on helping you with baby. I live away from family in KL, so CL took care of me & baby, while I catered food. The cost is about the same as buying the ingredients and cooking them. Saves so much time and hassle.
If it's impossible to change hubby's mind, then make do with the resources and energy you have. Take one step at a time and try to relax. Focus on the priorities and let go of less important things. E.g. It's ok for house to be a little messier than usual, if that means more rest for you. All the best and cheer up!
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we already prepared the money for food n my mom's Ang bao.. Maybe I will put my son to child care during my confinement..trying to source out alternatives for my confinement to be easier..really stress out at this topic,unable to sleep bcuz of this more than times already.. Maybe will express breastmilk to feed my baby in the day/evening, night time then latch on.. Or hire my younger sister to take care of my son since she is in poly holidays..
Finally relieved my mind off the confinement problem.. Confirmed with my hubby ,he will be taking his 2weeks maternity leave during my confinement.. after which,his job scope will be slightly lesser so that he can come home early or go work late since he's the 2nd chair in his company haha,arranged/push to others below to do haha.. Can ease my 2yr old toddler to his care while I rest n feed my newborn..
Took this off my stress load,these few days sleep have been better,even thou still got weird dreams n urgent toilet visits when I wake up,it's still a proper rest after so long time..
Any mommies hands become numb in the middle of the night while sleeping but you're very sure your hand's not under any part of your body? I'm having it almost every night recently.. = ( My mom has it too and she said she's been suffering the numbness for a few years already ..
I'm not working,full time housewife who only take care of my son n do nothing much lol.. But it's still tiring for me now if didn't have a good night sleep.. I have numbness on my arms/tights too when I sleep on my sides,had it during 1st pregnancy too.. Mom said it's normal cuz our blood flow is slower during sleep n blood circulation during pregnancy is abit messy.. Not sure what can be done with it so did not bother also =x just do abit massage when I feel the numbness..
Ya quite stressful at times ESP now pregnant with 2nd,cuz gotta prepare alot money in hand before my baby arrive.. After that should be alright already..but if I go out work,my kids will have no1 to take care them..I just dont trust those maids n stuff..