I thot of trying for 2nd one when my son turns 2.....
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c-sect mums, when did you start trying for 2nd baby?
I thot of trying for 2nd one when my son turns 2.....
My gynae advice me to try only after my boy turn 1 year so that the c-section wound can be heal.. I did tried after 1 year and after about 4 months I got pregnant. I also wanted to try after 1 year so that I can breast feed my boy for 1 year... I wasn't sure if I can cope with breastfeeding after I'm pregnant.
I 'm a stay home mom without help. This time round when I get pregnant, I become very sick with severe vomiting.. Can't take care of my boy at all... It's tough arranging to get someone to help me take care of my boy... There are other considerations like finances etc....
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I rest for 4 years coz I was afraid I can't cope with 2 kids, 1 baby 1 toddler.
im also thinking of trying for 2nd baby when my boy turns 1, but my husband wants to ve closer age gap for my boy. i did ask my gyne when can i try for 2nd baby, he said as long as my c-sect wound heals is ok to try..funi ,i thought ve to wait at least a year for wound to heal?
Autumn mummy, I think I will be like you... Age gap about 4-5 years old. LOL. I also scared I cannot cope... :P
Anyway, that time my gynae also told me that once the wound is ok, can try for 2nd one. My gynae actually told me to try during my 3rd month post c-sect check. LOL.
my gynae told me to try for no 2 only after 1 year later, which means, when dear son is 1 year old. she said better to play safe. cos sometimes outside heal doesnt mean inside heal alrdy. but also have to depends on individual's wound i think..
i'm thinking of trying for no 2 when dear son is 2-3 year old. means dear son and no 2 age gap around 3-4 years.. haha..
same like janice... i'm a stay home mom without any help. Hubby and I wanted a sibling for my 1st born and we just want 2 kids. so I delivered my 2nd baby when my toddler was 1 your 5 mths old. Also, my other rational to having 2 babies close in age, is to focus on them for 3 - 4 years, then when they are older, I can focus on myself and do the things i want without feeling like i missed their babyhood.
Now my first dotter is 19 months... my second dotter is 2 months. I have to admit, its very tough to handle. But i always look on the positive side, they can have more things in common since the age gap is very close. They can share clothes too when they are older. My mom always tells me, its tougher to manage 2 children close in age gap when they are infants/toddlers but it'll get easier the older they are. So gotta have lots of patience!
I am now expecting No 2 when my dear son is only 6 mths plus! Was worried about the wound initially. Checked with gynae and he said its alrite and my wound is recovering well.
He has also seen many cases like mine and everything goes very well for the mummies. Gynae still encourage us to have more kids but I thought of stopping at 2. Cos I do agree with mummies here that it can be very tough to take care of kids of close age gap.
Now, I really wonder can I cope it anot cos I'm also a stay at home mum w/o an help. husband did say wanted to get a maid but I dont want. I prefer to take care of my kids by myself.
an ideal situation for stay home moms (if you have the spare cash) would be to get a helper to do the housework only. hubby n i are not keen on live in maids so we're considering part time cleaners. At least then i won't have to tire myself cleaning the house. i can have more energy to just focus on my children.
for working mums, how did yr company react when they know you r expecting yr no.2 so fast ?
This comp that I worked in is like a big family. Hence, everyone is happy for me.
last night my husband asked if im ok to ve no.2 when baby turns 6mths, i said im not prepared cos to go through pregnancy, all the worries/labor/confinement etc sometimes scares me ... he really wants to ve a close gap baby then i ask him what if no.2 is boy again how, then he got the cheek to say try for no.3! i looked at him & said NO.
hello! i'm a full time working mum... i started trying for my 2nd baby when my first gal turned 2yo.... and it took me 6mths to conceive my 2nd gal... thus they're 3 years apart... just nice the gap for me
and since my 2nd gal is also delivered via csect.... think i'm gonna stop for now?
very scared to go thru another csect and what if it turned out to be another gal?
Mine is exact 2 years apart, 1 and 3 years.....it's so tiring to take care of 2 kids..
In fact now, I also worried whether i can hope anot...
Hi mummies...I delivered my first baby via caesarean about 3 weeks ago..I would like to know how long did your c-sect wound heal..?? Its been 3 weeks already but i still have a strong achy feeling at my wound area..And sometimes,it hurts when i try to get up from sitting or lying down..My c-sect area looks fine..The wound has totally healed but i wont know if the inner stitches has healed or not..
I wont get to see my gynae till the end of this month.
If you still feel pain when getting up/lying down, remember to turn to yr side then get up from bed like when you were pregnant, it helps reduce the pain. dont do a 'sit up' position when getting up,it adds pressure to the wound. Alternatively, get a binder to wrap around the waist, it reduces the pressure... hope this helps....
BTW, have yr waterproof dressing been removed already? or yr gynae had given you cream to apply on the area? I think is normal for some itch since the skin is growing, that shld be a +ive sign... If you still worry, better to always check with yr gynae.
Last edited by yyt47; 11-12-2009 at 04:42 PM.