This is a discussion on Episiotomy vs. Natural Tear - Which is better? within the General Pregnancy Discussion forum, part of the Pregnancy Forum category; Originally Posted by CanCanMum ermmm i feel the tear when i gave that biggest push and then gynae proceed to ...
actually my gynae did quickly told me he gonna cut me lols~~~
but is it really scissors???? I thought it was those incisors pen knife????
thanks for all your feedback, really helpful to know what you mummies and daddies think so i can weigh the pros and cons properly. but i guess one thing's for sure - there's no 1 guaranteed plan to delivery and whatever you had planned will probably not happen at the moment of delivery. i think i will keep an open mind, try for natural (best is without tear) first but if the inevitable happens and i have to be cut then so be it.
i agree that baby's safety is more important than the post-delivery pain. maybe i'm already having post-delivery phobia due to the pain experienced during the 1st preggy. i remember the entire 39 weeks was quite effortless, even the delivery itself was painless due to the epidural but after delivery --- OMG! and yes, sex thereafter was so uncomfortable i couldnt enjoy the love-making for quite some time, kept worrying that the wound will tear altho it was already fully healed by the time we resumed activity. so the thought of going through this again is quite daunting.
btw, did all your gynaes inform you that they are going to cut it or allow your hubbies to see the process? coz mine didnt tell me what she was doing down there and when my hubby went to see if she's cutting or stitching me up, she just shuned him away.
I'm actually also considering paul tseng as my gynae too as i've read a lot of good reviews about him and that he is a strong advocate of natural birth. ironically, my 1st gynae also from the same clinic. but since he doesnt perform episiotomy (and i read somewhere that he's against it), do you know if he will cut if the need arises or will he still encourage natural tear to the last minute?
6 stitches sounds like a big tear but you seem to heal pretty well, so i assume paul is very good in his stitching skills? but 40+ hours in labour is no joke, i think my threshold is probably 20 hours max. :P
btw, when did you deliver and where? did you sign up a package with paul? can you share with me how much you paid in total (antenatal, delivery and hospital charges)? I rang up his clinic yesterday and they told me all the gynaes there have no more packages, its "alacarte" now so everytime you see him, you have to pay for consultation, scan and medicine. and he charges $1500-2000 for normal delivery. prices seem to have escalated since my 1st delivery in 2007.
Sorry, one more question.
does anyone know if water birth is practiced in singapore? read that water birth can greatly minimise tear but i'm wondering if anyone actually done that before.
Hi gaill, NUH has water birth. I think mount alvernia may have too, but im not very sure about that.
Thomson Medical Center has water birth also, but subjected to availability. Not very popular here in SG due to high costs.
Lonerjas, you are right, it's surgical scissors. My husband saw the whole process. My gynae did not shoo him away or anything
Water birth maybe more painless compare with natural birth but that time i see youtube,the ang mo water birth ...the baby looked so pale and purpleish liddat...poor thing.
And from the posts I read, you must be very brave to not take any pain management procedure.
I took epi mainly because I remembered that most doctors will administer an episiotomy, or it would definately tear anyway.As I had experienced very bad cramps pre pregnancy, I didn't really want to endure so much pain.
I think all mummies are to be saluted whether you give birth naturally or by c section. All the physical pain and emotional trauma to endure prior to birth and after. And also all the emotional ups and downs post baby = thanks to sleepless nights, very concerned/not concerned relatives etc,baby not behaving the way we want,setting limits, potty training, sleep training,school etc etc,giving up your old lifestyle/spending habits (for some mummies)
Just feel like telling all mummies that you are all very strong people.
The moment you conceive is the moment your life will change forever.
Raising a child is the most challenging job ever.
fr me i tol gynae dat i do not want an episiotomy but if he does see a need to do so, then do it. cos if its gonna be a 3rd degree tear to rectum, thn i think episiotomy is better, but if not i prefer natural tear.
i was on epidural, did not needed an episiotomy but had slight natural tear. My whole delivery before epi no pain, after epi of course no pain, after delivery also no pain. very blessed!
also i had a great gynae think dat made a big PLUS point!
btw, dont worry too much, n dont listen to too many horror stories, choose only the good ones. when i was 30 weeks, i stop asking about delivery stories n chucked aside all the pregnancy books. just relax n look foward to the big day!!
"And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love" 1 Cor 13:13"
Just saw your post and questions. I will reply you via email later tonite, ya. Six stitches is a lot? I dont know. Paul didn't seem at all worried about it and just did his stitching calmly as per normal. My hubby saw the whole process and vouched that his skill is good.
I have PMed you my reply. =>
even now after almost 3 years, i can still rmb the pain!!!
n each time i rmb i will cringe!
the nurse even cut it twice! without any warning!!
omg, she even scolded me for screaming out loud when she cut!!
i wasnt on epi or anything, so yeah.. hell yeah it was pain!
the only thing holding me back from wanting to get preg n deliver n this!!!