This is a discussion on No. 2 - To have or not to have? within the General Pregnancy Discussion forum, part of the Pregnancy Forum category; Seriously, when i dont't have kids, i tell myself, i want to have more than 2 kids. Because i had ...
Seriously, when i dont't have kids, i tell myself, i want to have more than 2 kids.
Because i had never experience the 'mother life' thus, without thinking, i wants to have as many kids as possible.
After having #1, i tell myself i will only have #2 unless #1 wants it. Otherwise, will stop at one.
Its really not easy to look after 1 baby.
But #1 very much wanted to have another sibling, thus decide to try for #2.
But i definitely wants to stop at 2.
#3 came accidentally when #2 was only 10months old.
Yes, financial is part of the issue why i dont't want to have more kids.
But main issue is, i feel that i've been neglecting #1 eversince #2 is born.
I can't give equally love, attention and concern.
I believe NO ONE can give equal love too.
Sure will be slightly more bias to 1 kid.
And i'm extremely guilty over this.
So to me, no more #3.
But after knowing that i'm pregnant with #3, i do have the thought of abortion.
But comes to think of it, if abort because of our irresponsible act of not doing precaution at first, i think we are damn selfish.
So decide to give birth to #3.
But of cos, NO MORE #4!
Will do all the nessassry precautions.
Young mummy of my Big princess, prince and small princess.
1 is enough..not when i have an insensitive spouse who cannot say comforting and supportive words to me
my son now already 5 yrs old n n i'm already pregnant for my 2nd child and son was looking forward to the arrival of his sbling n he hope that is a ger .
For me, we were very sure we wanted #2.
But for #3, I wasnt very sure but decided to let nature takes its course.
Having No.2 was a definite decision for us but we just needed to agree on the age gap. There are pros and cons of close age gap. For close age gap, you may be tired in the initial months and years but you also get to see them growing 'faster'. They share similar toys, books and food sooner than siblings who are spaced.
For us, my kids are spaced almost 3.5 yrs but it is good in a way that we get to 'rest' a while before the next baby came.
So it is really what you want....