This is a discussion on Pregnant or not?? within the General Pregnancy Discussion forum, part of the Pregnancy Forum category; usually my period is very accurate. regular monthly basis. during march, it come 2 times, 1st & 27th march. since ...
usually my period is very accurate. regular monthly basis.
during march, it come 2 times, 1st & 27th march.
since then, my menses never come. i used a pregnancy kit this morning and turned out to positive.
is it accurate?
me very concern on this cos i really dont want to have another baby. now at home looking after 2 yrs old twins. i dont want to go thru the hardship again. i told my hubby possible to abort it but he objected.
now im really very sian and headache....
Oh no! never do abortion, please.. that baby you are bearing (if the pregnancy test holds true), is a gift. he/she is innocent. be responsible on what you have done, you know it will come if you did it. I'm happy your husband disagrees on your option. There are lots of married couple who are dying to have at least one child but they were not given. how I wish I'll have one though . You are blessed; be thankful, accept and appreciate what God given you. Just my two cents.
It might seem daunting at first. Your husband does not support you in abortion and that means that he cares for your child! That means that you are not going to meet the challenge alone and your husband is around to give you the support that you need!
Plus, you have taken care of your twins for 2 years, you would have the experience. So your third child might not be as difficult to take care as before.
Yes, it's tough. But there's a chinese saying, once the boat reaches the harbor, the boat will straighten naturally. meaning that whatever it is, the situation will rectify itself. (ok, i'm bad at explaining it =X). The circumstances that you are in will push you out of your comfort zone. it forces you to find solutions no matter how hard it is to solve. but I bet that after 10 years down the road and you look back, you will not regret your choice.
And after your 3rd child, you can officially close shop. My mum put some contraceptive device in her uterus. You can check it out too.
Meet the challenged bravely ya! Your child has been given to you. Cherish him/her! =)
Remember that once murdered, there is nothing you can do to have it back. Abortion is a irreversible decision so please consider carefully.
I understand how tough it is for you but I am sure feeling guilty for the rest of your life will not be any easier.
Since the test says positive, you may get obgyn to check at about 6-7 weeks from last menstrual date.
At least 20% of pregnancies are not viable, so if that happens (fortunately or unfortunately), it's God's will for you.
If the pregnancy is viable, then I'd encourage you to cherish your blessing, especially when your hubby is supportive.
Women are made of steel, you've overcome bringing up twins, I'm confident you can bring up another baby.
By then, your twins will be about 3 years old, should be slightly more independent.
May even help you do little things for baby.
Think positive and all the best!
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A worried woman went to her gynecologist and said: 'Doctor, I have a serious problem and desperately need your help! My baby is not even 1 year old and I'm pregnant again. I dont't want kids so close together. So the doctor said: 'Ok and what do you want...t me to do?' She said: 'I want you to end my pregnancy, and I'm counting on your help with this.' The doctor thought for a little, and after some silence he said to the lady: 'I think I have a better solution for your problem. It's less dangerous for you too.' She smiled, thinking that the doctor was going to accept her request. Then he continued: 'You see, in order for you not to have to take care 2 babies at the same time, let's kill the one in your arms. This way, you could rest some before the other one is born. If we're going to kill one of them, it doesn't matter which one it is. There would be no risk for your body if you chose the one in your arms. The lady was horrified and said: 'No doctor! How terrible! It's a crime to kill a child! 'I agree', the doctor replied. 'But you seemed to be OK with it, so I thought maybe that was the best solution.' The doctor smiled, realizing that he had made his point. He convinced the mom that there is no difference in killing a child that's already been born and one that's still in the womb. The crime is the same!
jaybaobei, I hope you will not rush into a decision. Of course, none of us here will be encouraging when it comes to abortion. But no matter how we pursuade you, the ultimate decision lies on you and your hub, not us. You will be the one regretting in future, not us. Think carefully, is it fair for your unborn baby if you abort him? I know it is tiring to take care of a pair of twins and now you are preg again. But like the others had said, since your did not take precaution, that is the consequence both of you have to bear. You are good to have such a good husband who dont allow you to go for abortion. Not only he dont bear to lose this child, he dont bear to let you go under abortion and suffer from the emotional pain in future. =)
thanks @Triquetra, @rachellee, @Evangeline89 for the likes.