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Have anyone kena such things before? Everytime i take bus my tummy feel unwell and having headache nobody willing to give up their seats to me... Maybe my tummy too small. But i think my tummy also can see a bit already. Everytime take bus so fucked up. The bus so reckless and those passengers some purposely sit outside and leave the inside seat empty. Some put their bags or etc. wth, then when bord the bus they'll give those "you better stay away from me, i am not gonna sit with you" stare. Right!!!!!!!
Yup, totally agree. Im now in my 35th weeks, ppl on the bus also ignore me.. Lol
priority seats are useless. Those passengers are extremely inconsiderate.
Yap even at Baby fair @ expo, ppl will not give way to you, I got pushed many times even they saw my obvious bum ... dont know what is the rush, the items r not running away...
In my 18th weeks (4 months plus), the very first person who gave up seat to me in public bus is a guy.
After that, no one give up seat to me
Sometimes if you dont't stand beside them, they won't be able to see you. And if they see you and give up their seat to you, they would be cursing you, "bus so big, why you have to stand near me???"
Currently 29th weeks now. So far, 1 lady & 1 guy gave up seat to me without me walking any further in. If not, there are empty seats (those seats which you have to face the rest of the passagers in bus, that mean your back facing the driver kinda seats)
Sometimes, it really depend on your luck. Your luck on meeting nice people.
Before i got pregnant, i always give up seats to pregnant lady and old people. But when i got pregnant, nobody give up seat to me
Actually I felt quite paiseh for them to offer seats to me. I mean we are paying the same fare and I really appreciate them if they are kind enough to offer me but I will not expect them to offer their seat just because am pregnant. Before am pregnant, I offered my seats to elderly ppl and pregnant ladies too.
I dont't purposely stand infront of them or touch my tummy to let them see am pregnant. To secure a seat, for myself, am staying in SK, I just have to get out early and alight the reverse train to punggol and then to town.
But for buses, of course I hope someone is kind enough to offer their seat up as nowadays the bus driver are all foreigners, their driving skills really sucks big time. They like to step on their brake, very dangerous for pregnant lady to stand around.
Last edited by diamondfericia; 24-04-2012 at 06:11 PM.
I also dont't purposely stand beside people. Is just that the bus too packed, people dont't move in and i dont't dare to move in without holding on to anything coz like you mentioned, bus driver always brake. Especially the express bus i'm taking, it will go all the way without stopping for 45 mins to an hour if there is traffic jam and so i have to stand all the way for 45mins to an hour.
And for a few times, i have to stand at the standing area in the bus with my swollen feets (water retention) and plus afew guys standing with me.
I will also feel paiseh with people giving up seat to me, but usually are those who are going to get down. And whenever there are people who give up seat to me, i will touch my tummy and tell my baby in my heart to bless whoever give their seat to me.
Maybe i look fat than pregnant coz my tummy is not round but flat and big.
Talking about this, I had some embarrassing moments before pregnancy. Kuku me dont't know how to see pregnant lady, kept offering my seats to the wrong person. See how they rejected me made me wanna dig a hole and jump in.
so obvious that i'm standing in front of her, she just pretend never see me..when she going down the bus, she purposely pushed me sm more..I dont understand, she's a women, she probably was pregnant before, doesnt she know how a pregnant women feel?
i will always thank those ppl who gave their seat to me with a smile, i really appreciate their kindness..
there was once i was seated at the priority seat & another pregnant women came into the train, her tummy is so big it seems like she's having twins..e train is super crowded, the lady sitting beside me is sleeping..so i stand up n let the pregnant women sit..there's another lady who's standing show that i as a pregnant women gave up my seat to another pregnant women, she wake the lady sitting beside & gt her to offer her seat to me..that I was very touched!
There are good people around, its really your luck that day whether you'll meet them or not..
I encountered the same thing too during my pregnancy. My tummy is the very obvious type. People always mistaken that I am carrying twin! I remember when i was 38 weeks pregnant i took the bus it was very crowded and nobody offer to give up their seat so I had to stand all the way from Tampines to Sengkang. This goes the same when I took MRT! The prior seat and sign and even ad on TV are useless. I think our school and govement need to work more in this area to educate our children as well as its citizen. Why not impose fine on people who dont't give up seat to the those in need instead of serving fine to people who need to have a sip of water or need to make milk for babies/children or even to suck a sweet.
i encountered an auntie standing near me (like starting to push me) when boarding the bus and still sitting and move her thighs only when i want to alight. and all thanks to her i bumped onto the seat in front of me, it does feel uncomfy. cos she wasn't too small size and i only got an thighs size to move out from the front seat and her body. haissssssss. people these daysssss~
no doubt it's not a compulsory thingy to give up sit to pregnant ladies or elderlys, perhaps they should think for others or think about if their partner or family members were the pregnant ladies/elderlys. spread the kindness around~
all preggy mummies got sleepy spell!! it will works super fast when board the trains or buses, cos all sleep when you step in. but will become blind or actor/ actress also.. that the magic our cuties give us!!
w/ my big 35week bump, i dont always have ppl give up seat also, some even push me to snatch seats!! may karma fall on them soon..
i dont mind not having any seat since we all pay fare, but dont push me..
can't agree more. some while waiting at the bus-stop for the bus to stop. they will step in front of you.
as if the first person who got up the bus will have prize. zzZZ.....
perhaps mine wasn't that obvious as compared to another preggy lady whom stands beside mi.. ppl offer to her but not mi..
i ever encountered this 2 incidents in 1 train ride.
1) an uncle rushed towards the priority seat as i was walking towards me. he sat down and immediately flashed me his senior citizen ezlink card n remarked that he's a senior citizen. I retorted him that i'm pregnant (1st trimester only) w/o the intention of him giving up his seat and he just went "oh..you r pregnant" (say only , never offer his seat). then at the next stop, the person sitting next to him alighted, and he just chope that seat, and asked his wife from the opposite aisle to come over and sit..
2) after the above, i walked to the opposite aisle to sit.. and all the seats were filled and then i saw a heavily pregnant lady standing in front of me. so i asked the guy next to me, if he can give up his seat to the pregnant lady.. He retorted by saying, "why dont you give up your seat instead?" So i told him, i'm pregnant too. Then he LL stand up and give up his seat.. This guy is only in his 30s-40s. i cannot imagine a guy saying such things to me.. throughout the day, i was like, totally disappointed in the calibre of singapore men...
I've given up on mrts. Most of them feign ignorance or fall asleep the moment I enter. I starte taking taxi when I enter 3rd trimester. Taxis aren't any better - got some reckless drivers. I complained one to comfortdelgro where this driver was speedin like as if I was in desperate need of a hospital!! But in fact I never told him to rush. At one point I almost slip off the car seat cos he jammed brake while trying to fight with other taxi driver n bus drivers on the road!! CDG wrote back to say he had bad record and they terminated him after my complain. I shudder to imagine who else sat in his cab before. Or for that matter I dont't think it wld stop him from applying to other taxi co
The issue is not about having to stand... But the train and bus always jam brake.. this is very dangerous for pregnant ladies and elder.. hopefully there will be less ppl fake sleep and give up seat to ppl who really need it more..
I think I'm lucky enough that majority of the times, there will definitely be seats for me on the bus/trains. Even if not, there are pple who will give up their seats for me. But same sentiments, it's quite paiseh feel and sometimes I will politely reject if I'm ok with standing or only a few stops.
There was once I got on the train at Orchard/Somerset. As you know, these stations are the most crowded and everyone's snatching any available seats. I wasn't hoping for much or dont't wanna purposely stand infront of someone to let them give up their seat to me. Once I got into the train with my hubby and his friend, I immediately stood at the pole and turn around facing door, meaning no intention to sit down. This very kind lady tapped my shoulder and asked me to sit on the priority seat though she was carrying alot of barang barang. Apparently she already prepared to give up her seat to me when she saw me outside the train doors cos hubby and his friend noticed her preparing to give her seat up to me. Really very sweet feeling.
But another time when I boarded the train at Tampines, yet another crowded station. Train was quite empty but train station is quite packed. Once the train came, I was standing right at the door yet those behind just chiong in. Okay, nvm, let them chiong. No seat I also dont't mind since I'm alighting at Bedok. But it reach my limit when I was about to sit down and someone actually PUSHED ME AWAY and hurridly sat down on the seat. There was still an empty seat beside the seat she sat down which I could have sat, but I was so damn pissed off I just stood infront of her exclaiming loudly to my hubby that some pple so kanchiong must sit down, machiam disabled like that. Too bad she's not local, a pinoy if i rmb correctly. So I dont't think she feel really paiseh. But seriously wtf, snatching seat w pregnant lady is already so omg and still PUSH AWAY. So inconsiderate!
And my babybump is already very obvious. I was already 5-6 months pregnant then!
And I really hate those who pretend not to see pregnant ladies or just can't be bothered. So what if you are not sitting on priority seat? Then can't just be polite and give up a seat to them? When I was just 2-3 months pregnant, I had to give up my seat to another pregnant lady cos everyone else pretended to be blind. Funny right? Pregnant lady giving up her seat for another pregnant lady. Hahaha.