This is a discussion on Question.. Im Confused within the General Pregnancy Discussion forum, part of the Pregnancy Forum category; Originally Posted by elaine82 It will be better to bath & eat before going to the hospital unless it is ...
3-4cm quite alot ...you need 10cm dilation for baby to come out...
normally 1 hr for 1cm...so if it's your 1st baby dont't panic...you'll take at least 6 hours to go into labour...
only go to hospital when:
1) your water bag burst
2) bloody show
3) contractions once every 5-6 mins
my contractions lasted 36 hours!!! (started 7th Nov 7am) it was 20 mins initially...luckily that day i happened to have an appt with my gynae, afterwhich was told 1cm dilated...go home n waited ...
went to my parents place had dinner n told them their 1st grandchild coming out next day!!
kept timing my contractions...thought coming out in the middle of night...
sleeping was tough cos very uncomfortable but i knew baby not ready to be out yet...
on the 8th morning i showered, had a great b'fast then STILL TIMING CONTRACTIONS...
until 9am plus there's blood in my urine...contractions still not stable...were 6 mins sometimes 7,8,9 mins so i called my gynae told him my state...
got admitted at 10am plus...only 3cm dilated after a whole night of contractions!!!
imagine i got myself admitted at night we'll have to pay for 1 more night...hospital stay expensive ...
my 'durian' only dropped at 8th 8pm LOL...
so gals no need to be panicky...just remember 1),2) n 3)
oh BTW water bag burst doesn't mean baby's coming out...but gotta get admitted IMMEDIATELY in case of infection 'down there'...dangerous for baby...
have a smooth delivery!!!
Hahaha i was shocked that already open 3-4cm too , luckily i never deliver at the shopping mall .. My contraction aso every 10-15min , i pain for more than 12hr + .. you know what before my contraction start i was watching tv until gng 3,4am then sleep .. The pain start but i was too tired so i hack care until around 5,6+ evening rch hospital .. 8pm + baby arrived
Ladies ... hope you dont mind me sharing a couple of my own observations.
1) While "breaking of waterbags" means you must go hospital , it doesn't mean you have to wait for it to break before going ... in my wife's case, the waterbags had to be manually broken by the gynae in the delivery suite in both cases, when delivering my sons. If you are wondering, both times she delivered naturally.
2) Dilation also doesn't have to take place gradually nor linearly ... again, in my wife's case, it just suddenly opened up.
When giving birth to my 1st son, as we approaches EDD (Sun), that gynae visit (Thu) concluded with "another appointment for next week, as dilation has not started" ... then, on Sat morning itself, the contractions started ... once it hit the required intensity & frequency, we went into the delivery suite at 1pm or so & gynae declared dilation was about 3-4cm ... my son was finally delivered at 2am & in between, the dilation process was coupled with excruciating pain & lots of expletives, until the epidural was administered eventually.
When it came to my 2nd son, the EDD was on a weekend again ... but this time, the gynae didn't dare to say "it should not happen this weekend", even though the dilation still hadn't started at all.
Besides, we also had a false alarm ... we headed for the hospital when the contractions hit the required intensity & frequency, but when we reached there (we use NUH although we live in Simei), my wife stopped feeling the contractions .
So, what I am trying to say is ... every woman is different - take whatever is discussed here as reference only. You should know your own body better than anyone else. If you dont, then that's where your own gynae & ante-natal clases come in.
Even for the "exercising" bit, being pregnant means you are akin to having a sack of rice strapped on your abdomen ... whether it's swimming, walking or climbing stairs, it is beneficial only if it is not too taxing on you.
If you never even bother to exercise before you had this additional weight on you, dont start being ambitious & say "I must do this becoz it's gonna be good for me" ... forcing yourself may end up having a premature baby if you are already nearing term or much much worst a fate if you're not.
If it hasn't occurred to you, premature babies suffer becoz their organs are not fully developed yet & so, has to have tubes & what not put in whichever orifice as necessary ... not to mention the daddies & mummies also suffer, becoz it's them who are the ones paying for these expensive but painful procedures.
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Well said vroomvroomboys! bravo!
ladies take his advise. every pregnancy differs based on individuals. antenatal classes r good cos it clears your doubts n at the same time prepares you n yr hubby on what to expect. if you have any doubts feel free to ask yr gynae or the trainer of your antenatal class becos you paid for it n therefore should make every single cents worth. kekeke.
as for excercise, vroomvroomboys is very right too. if you never excercise before pregnancy, it is not advisable to start when pregnant especially with the extra weight. you might over-strained yrself. know yr limits.
i keep mum about it n pester my dear husband to go shopping that evening!! what i regretted is not bathing immediately or before the contractions becomes more intense!! haha, by the time i think i should go to the hospital, the contractions r so frequent n intense that i couldn't control my muscles when the contractions came n therefore didn't get to enjoy the bath!!
my dear daughter was delivered in before dawn!
When i reached hospital for my 1st delivery, it dilated about 5cm n within 1-2 hours I'd fully dilated to 10cm!! When my gynae finally arrived, her 1st comment was "why have not't push?"