This is a discussion on Think Pregnant again... within the General Pregnancy Discussion forum, part of the Pregnancy Forum category; Originally Posted by reginakoh you used condom but still conceive???!!! Ya , dont know y also... Mayb condom kena ant bit ...
In previous post i mention i dont know should i keep or abort it...
1) My mother in law also believe & listen to the person she know (sometime which i already said or tell her)
2) She like to give my baby WATER H20 to drink when she was just born, is before having milk. (mayb some mummy can rem my post quite sometime ago)
3) She cant handle my girl now althot she is just 5+ month old, cant imagine if i have another one (think she will collapse)
4) She like to act strong where she cant even handle her own health (when my mum offer to help look after during weekend let mother in law rest, she insist she can but later on keep telling us she headache)
5) I feel that she irrespossible (like yest she left my girl to sister In law & her bf at home, sister In law was bathing her bf close the door inside room play PC. I dont know y she urgently need to go & buy stuff)
& many many more...
mummy out there PLS give advice...
She scare ppl said she dont look after grandchild, she everything also wanna follow ppl.
She cant lose out to other ppl
After seeing this thread really scare me a lot.. my 3rd baby also 5mths old and i was thinking what "IF" 1 day i also kenna pregnant even if we do take precaution (condom)??? give birth to 4th baby??? Think i sure faint..
think you should really think hard about not wanting to keep the baby - it's a life you are talking about. and if it's because you dont't trust your mother in law to cope with it, there are many more ways out of it! just got to put your foot down and say you will make other arrangements for no. 2. or if she prefers to look after no. 2 then no. 1 will go somewhere else. i hate to have to put it so bluntly but if she wants to be angry with you over this, then let her be. it's your children you need to be first and foremost responsible for and accountable to. can go infantcare / neighbourhood nanny / even your mother (if she's willing). really, shouldn't let your mother in law's wilful insistence on lording over your children affect your decision over a precious life
tonite will discuss with hubby who take care of who & all neccessary arrangment....
i have decide to keep & also make my stand clear that i will ahve my confinement at my mum house....
Congrats for wanna to keep the baby.... maybe you try talking to your mother in law.. cause i think she should not listen to what other auntie gotta say... maybe you can check out other way.. wish you all the best... remember to update us k.. cheers?
BTW, mummy have any good gynae at Jurong West to recommend?
and yes, definitely should talk to your husband about how you feel - remember to make him your partner in this and that you are planning with the welfare of the children in mind. let him know that it is also beneficial for your mother in law because otherwise she's stretching herself too thin - not good for her physically and psychological. plan a couple of options together with him and be open
congrats and enjoy your pregnancy!!
glad and happy that you have made a right choice!
Its good that you are firm in your decision.
I used to let my mother in law take care of my dear son when i returned to work.. But recently, I have quitted my job to take care of my dear son cos of my 2nd pregnancy. i dont live with my mother in law so at nites I'll be taking care of him by husband and myself.
Having some prob with mother in law too, so tink to quit my job and take care of my dear son is my best choice and so far I'm doing good..
Hope everything goes well for you! Take care, alrite?
mine was the other way around...(1st-5yo, 2nd-30mths, 3rd-19mths)
i had my 3rd when my 2nd son was barely 2mths old...so kind of struggle...even had post/pre natal blues...hahaha..
I had problems with the way my parents took care of my no.1 & 2...
so decided to put all into childcare, infant & toddler care after i gave birth to my 3rd...
I can understand that no one would want to place their precious no 1 to the centre ( i'm one of them)...but when you have no choice, you gonna face it
so i placed my 3rd son when he was 2mths old(MOE guideline-min.2mths)
the teachers there are fantastic...
btw...all my sons are still in the centre
From what i know MOM law, you need to work 3 mths and above than you be entitle for the maternity leave but will you afraid that your employer will dismissed you when they know you're pregnant???