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Dear all, I have to terminate my pregnancy on 14.01.2009 at 13 weeks becos my fetal was abnormal. Doc say may be either chromosome or gen disorder, seldom happen, but no way to prevent.
It was a planned pregnancy, I have started taking my folic vitamin etc 2 months before trying. Also dont't know why this happened.
I am 36 this yr, first baby gal was in feb 2005. I intend to try to conceive again in end apr. Is there any mummies out there who had similar experience with me and have since have successful pregnacy after that? Just hope to get some encouragement before I start my "new life" again. Thanks.
It was the scan at Kandang Kerbau Hospital, on the 2nd flr near the delivery suite. Think its suppose to scan for dwn syndrome, but saw the other abnormalities. that's why doc advised to terminate the pregnancy.
sorry to hear that. How are you feeling now?
I have paid for prayer at Ji Shi Ling Temple, today is the 49 days, also the last day of the prayer, me n husband will be going there later around 12 nn.
Next month is qin ming, we will also set up a prayer for him at the temple, we will pray for him 3 yrs, just hope that he can go in peace, once we know that we had him, we already given him a name, Chen Xiao Long, it was a "tai ming", cos my husband born in the yr of dragon, we hope this is a son, so we name him the little dragon.
He should know that his papa n mummy loves him, we dont't want him to suffer, no choice, if he has to go, he has to go, just hope he can go in peace............................
that's why now we tend to cuddle my 4 yo frequent, cos having a healthy child is really heaven's gift.
We sure r still sad and scare cos we will be trying for the next one, but recently heard my cousin's wife loss her baby at 32 weeks becos the placenta drop......sighz........life is full of uncertainty..................
**Today is the #49 days that we have lost our beloved unborn son. My dear, always remember, papa n mummy love you**
Last edited by MsKoh1973; 03-03-2009 at 08:21 AM.
I'm sorie to hear about this... Hope you will get this over this soon though its really hard on you during these periods.. But slowly, time will heal your saddness.. Jia you and be brave!!
sorry to hear about this... hope you & yr hubby will recover soon mentally n physically.
try again when you r ready n wish you all the best. Jia you!
I'm so sorry to learn about your loss.. I'm sure your baby loves you just as much,he's in a better place now.. My best wishes to you and family..
I was pregnant during last march and it wasn't a planned one.. But still, both dear husband and me were looking forward to the lil life..
I was very very careful then and well taken-care of. But sad to say, during the 11th week, gynae can't detect baby's heartbeat and I was asked to have an operation to the remove the baby.
I was feeling depressed, losing hope etc...
BUT I was found pregnant again after 3mth +.... Now am in the 27th weeks of pregnancy.. hopefully my current baby will be born healthy and normal, that's the only things we pray for now! =)
What I wanna say is, there's quite a number of ladies who experience "unsuccessful pregnancy" but still able to get pregnant again, think positively!!! =D
Hi My dear, i am so sorry to learn about your loss.. But you must think positively... you will have the blessing from God.. Cheer up. Wish you all the best
Pls take care, to all the mummies' lost. I understand it too, i suffered 2 miscarrage too. but thr is always hope! I'm with my 2nd child 26weeks.
Thanks for all the words of encouragement, really appreciate it.
After about 2 months of rest, I understand that its not easy to let go, but is for his own good.
Anybody eating 2 tab of folic acid per day? Previously I was on 5 mg, tho if I were to increase it to 10 mg (2 tab), will it be better for my next pregnancy?
Anyone also taking multivi? Vit B when trying to concieve?
Sorry to hear about your loss, hope you are coping well now.
I had an empty sac last yr when I was 7 or 8weeks. had D&C to remove it. Before that had spotting and all, had bed rest also bo bian. Doctor also can't explain why this happen but said it's very common.
After D&C 1 week, i went back to my doc (from gleneagles) for checkup, he said I got this adenomyoma (a mass/ growth around tissue of inner uterus). He said my uterus wall is irregular. He even suggest that i remove the mass! I did not't go for it. Cos me & dear husband thought, just had D&C, of cos uterus looks big and irregular. (we boycott that doctor already)
I rested for 3months (during which I was on chinese medicine).. I went to see another Gynae (from Mt E) for checkup before trying for baby. He said my uterus looks perfectly normal.
Now i'm in my 16weeks. My gynae advise me to take 10mg folic per day (during my 1st trimester). He said 10mg is the correct dosage.
Wishing you all the best. dont't lose hope!!
I also have irregular mens after my opn, just had 2 days on 6 mar, then y'sday stained but now stop . Cham...............
Done some research at internet, its say tho not 100% full proof, but may also help to reduce risk of dwn sydrom. Anybody else taking 10 mg of folic?
Last edited by MsKoh1973; 19-03-2009 at 07:03 AM.
Y dont you try the chec up with other gynae again before deciding.. Well i ever had a friend also did check up in Kandang Kerbau Hospital, doc say got down sydrome she so sad but when 2 Thomson Medical Center check again doc say ok lei fine lei.. Now baby healthy born..
Well all i can say is Kandang Kerbau Hospital might not be so pro at all.. I have to much friend got complications in Kandang Kerbau Hospital before . Got another friend lose her 2 babies twice in a row because of the Kandang Kerbau Hospital doc neglectness. Her both pregnancies was 1st in 6mth still born and another coming 5th month but early labour due to the doc and nurses never sew her womb and vaginal after still born so baby too heavy water bag burst early in 5th month thus unable to survive.
i am into my 5mth next week & i'm still 'pending' for results -- dont ask me y, the Kandang Kerbau Hospital docs said this is the normal process
my fetus not was very thick & together with the blood test -- the calculation showe that i'm super high risk to have a Down or fetus having heart defects
last week i did the amino-test last week to further confirm if the fetus is Down or not & next week going for detailed scan -- also to check if fetus heart functioning ok or not... ...
i am still praying good health for my fetus & the thoughts of terminating life of a full form fetus is really scary & depressing (esp he/she is so active in me -- i can feel him/her when he/she around 16 weeks & it getting stronger & frequent as days goes by)
but dont get too sad/depress, i do hope your next pregnancy comes sooner than expected and the fetus is in pink of health!
Hi Lonerjas, hows your friend now? Hope she is ok, is she a private patient at Kandang Kerbau Hospital or under subsidy? Who's her gyn, why so careless.
Hi Khaosan, thanks for the info.
Hi Budgetmum, I know how you feel, I know the result on 13.01.09 and terminated the pregnancy on 14.01.09, I was very sad as my birthday was on 16 Jan and CNY was then round the corner. Although its only 24 hours wait (from knowing d result to opn), it was like a year's wait. I will pray hard for you, when will your result be out? BTW, who is your gyn? Like what Lonerjas says, after the result is out, if its not favourable, you might want to seek a second opinion at another hospital
I am sure it should be ok, dont worry too much and be strong.