have you considered infant care?
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Hubby and me are now facing a problem... my mother in law kept finding excuses not to take care of our baby... before we are preg, she kept rushing us to and even want us to go for check up to see whether are we having any problem. when im preg now, she sort of refuse to take care of our kid... hai... she is working as a sales personnel and earning around $1400 per month (exclude commission) we did propose to that she quit her job and we will give her more allowance, around $1000 - $1400 if we can afford. in the beginning, she say ok but after hear say from her own sisters, she still prefer to work.
even if we are to hire a maid, there must be someone at home to see the maid, we do not want anything to happen to our child which may be too late to regret...
so who look after your new born when you are working? im thinking of quitting my job since my mother in law do not want to take care but this will result in less income in my side too... headache ya!!!
have you considered infant care?
Ya.. Since you r prepared to fork out $1000-$1400 monthly already, maybe you wanna consider infantcare?
I was lucky enough to have my own mom look after my baby after my maternity leave ended.. She wen back to work after my girl turns 20 months n goes to a childcare instead..
My kid was at infant care from 3.5 mths old and is now N1 in the same child care.
Or mayb you can try on getting a day time nanny to take care..
I am getting a maid to help out - more cost efficient in the long run. BUT the maid will not be left alone with baby. Maid will be at my mum's pl with baby so that there is 24 hours surveillance (parent's watchful eyes) camera on maid + baby. hohohooo....
I think some parents put their baby with infant care.
And some tong pang at parents/in laws pl.
All are good ideas.
I'm thinking of getting a maid to help out as well. But will send baby and maid to parent's place for supervision.
But seriously maid also not cheap. At least 800 a month (inclusive of levy)
we also thinking of hiring a maid, and sending her and baby to my mom's place during daytime. but we do not have another room for her to sleep. so thats the problem.
Dont you have other relatives who can watch for your baby while you're at work? I mean, having a relative to do it is the best option than hiring someone you dont't even know. I will always go for someone whom I am comfortable with in taking good care of my baby. If it means quitting my job if I dont get one, then be it. Just my opinion.
i'm lucky to have a mother-in-law who studied for an infant care cert and worked at infant care. she quit her part time job to take care of my son. so i'm at total ease. she knows almost everything. from looking after to nutrition. =)
I used to have a maid before. It's really hard to get a good maid nowadays.
At first she is fine, take care of my family and housework well. After sometimes, etc 2 yrs later after we renewed her, her attitude change alot. I guess once those maid mixed with other maid, they will start to have some patterns come out. Therefore, we decided to let her leave. She actually want us to send her back to agency instead of sending her back to her country, but who noes, scarly she run away at the agency there then we will kena. Coz while waiting for another ppl to pick her, she still under our care, means we still paying for her levy.
Moreover, my hubby dont feel easy when got a stranger in the house. We shall see how, mayb will get a day time nanny will do. Who stay the same block as me. If not, since we stay near in law house, I got ppty housing license, I might switch job so that my timing is flexible to take care of baby. If I need to be out, baby will lobang my mother in law for a while. Think she is fine with it. But to think further, we might shift house too.. sigh.. headache sia..
If I was you, I'd consider infant care.
I dont't feel comfortable to leave my child with maid without any supervision. I won't take the risk.
if my mum is not able to help me, either i quit my job or i will put my kid in the infant care. i will never engage a maid to look after. even IF i ever get a maid, she will only be doing hsewrk while my baby is taken care of by my parents, so.... no point wasting $$$. i mean, its quite silly right? you hire a maid yet you want your parents to supervise, then why not in the first place just get your parents to look after? i mean since they can supervise the maid, then they can look after right? getting the maid in this case seems redundant?
Do not argue with an idiot. He will drag you down to his level and beat you with experience.
I'm also having a headache now as to where to place my #1. he is coming 8 mths nOw but I'm now 4 mths preg with another. Meaning they will only be 13 mths apart. My in law doesn't mind taking care but I mind coz she is very ' buay zhi dong' n always wanna play w my boy even when he's obviously tired. N alot of other things I can't stand .
We thought of getting a maid but have no space for her to sleep n we dont like strangers in house. Last option is to put #1 in infantcare while I care for #2. but I'm afraid he won't be well taken care of when he's in infantcare coz heard alot of ppl saying they let babies cry it out.
Hai... Any suggestions ladies?
get nanny or babysitter?
when i was young, my neighbor babysitted me. she had 2 kids who are older than me. she taught me spelling, cook food for me, etc etc. she was really nice.
but i guess it's tough to find a good babysitter. a babysitter is good because it's one-to-one care.
maybe you can ask around and find 1 near where you stay? not easy..
Nanny 's rates now is rather high too right? N mostly gotta send to their place.伤脑筋。。
Given your situation, I will consider to quit unless I can find a good and reliable infantcare or day-time nanny (must be recommended by friends/relatives who have used her services previously).
Hi I'm a baby-sitter staying in Pasir Ris with 30 yrs experience taking care of infant.I can have new intake next yr cos my present toddler girl + infant boy (brother n sister) are shifting out of Pasir Ris.Can contact me for further disscussion.
For my case is different from you..at last you can work..For me i must take care let my mom take care my baby for one month and plus after the following months i need to take care myself until my baby grow up to 3 years old so i can work only my husband who support us only..
i really admire mums who can choose not to work anytime without considering the drop in household income and wife's pay is merely to supplement.. >.<
think i will consider infant care if my mother in law dont take care ...
Oh my, I was faced with this very same dilemma when I gave birth to my son. Nobody could really take care of my son, we couldn't even find a nanny at the time. So the solution was, I had to give up my career and stopped working. I was taking care of our son for over a year, until we finally found a suitable nanny. So I simply had to start from scratch and applied to another company. I'm just blessed that my son's nanny can really be trusted, she has been with us for over 2 years now.
Ya I think infantcare would be a good idea.if get a maid, maid won't teach baby anything too. But can't bear to leave him there . Hai.... Gotta start sourcing for good ones. I closed my biz when I was preg with number one coz had miscarriages before. Now pop another boy so hubby gotta wrk harder loh. Maybe couple of yrs later then help hubby with expansion of his biz to support our family . No choice for now..
my mum has verbally agreed to help
i hope she dont change her mind the last minute =(