This is a discussion on Anyone confinement done by mom or mother in law? within the Confinement Period forum, part of the You and Your Family category; Hpoo - i agree with Hazel, give what you have in mind, its the thoughts that count. Most likely your ...
Hpoo - i agree with Hazel, give what you have in mind, its the thoughts that count. Most likely your mum or mother in law will accept whatever amount you give.
My mum helped me with my confinement, I asked her directly how much ang pow she'd like (as a token of our appreciation), and she said any amount will do. We gave her an ang pow of 1800 for everything, since that's the amount most confinement lady charge anyway.
hi duriz, i envy you.. your mother in law cooks fish soup for you almost everydae when you preggy.. my mother in law bo chap me.. from preggy till now she did not even bother to cook decent meal and ended up eating outside food.. so i went back to my mum's place to eat..
my mum will be doing confinement for me.. coz she everything act blur and bo chap..
My mum will be doing confinement for me as i'm fussy with food and she knew what my preference of food, but she can only cooks for me and i have to take care the baby myself as she needs to run her own business....so a bit worried i dont't know how to handle baby....Thinking to give her $1k as my token of appreciation....but a mother's love can never repaid....
Last edited by sufeit0115; 13-10-2009 at 11:44 AM. Reason: typo error
my mother in law did the confinement for me.
my husband gave her $500 on the first day to buy the essentials.
i gave her another $200 in an angbao when my confinement ends.
you are 'lucky', still have your mom to do confinement for you though your mother in law bo chap. me even worse! m from single parent family (no mom), mother in law bo chap (relationship not good; got conflicts after given birth to 1st child). so i can only order confinement food delivery, handle 2 kids & a baby all by myself!!
my mother in law does it for me...
i gave her 168.. (not much, a token only... no money..hahaha)
necessity we go buy w her..food everyday she go market buy.
she basically just cook for me, like any other days, we eat at home, we drk soup everyday,ginger sesame chicken that kind..more or less abit confinement food
as for baby she just use her eye power in the afternoon till evening while i rest /massage
end of confinement ll give her another 168..
my mum did confinement for me at her place cos i moved into my father-in-law's after i married my hubby. i gave her $1000 but she returned me $700. we were only at her place for about 23 days, cos we took home baby in the third weekend to get baby adjusted to our own home and then we took baby home permanently earlier for the full month celebration. i think we only gave a small $28 red packet on the last day as a token, according to her instructions.
mummy and mother in law did confinement for me...
mummy in charge of buying all the food/ cooking whilst mother in law in charge of taking care of my toddler and baby's needs (showering/ feeding etc)
i gave $ 500 ang pow each to both of them...in addition to hubby paying to food/ all other stuff costs...
paid at the end of confinement period...
My mother did for me, but i found it's really a hard work for doing confinement. My mother was so tired, because she need to cook the food and also took care of baby. so this time, i prefer order confinement food.
I know I'm lucky that my mom does my confinement for me and won't take $$ for it, but our working styles are so different and she cannot accept our differences in standards and priorties. Within 3 days of my confinement, my mom and aunt re-organised my kitchen and the kids' cupboard. So now I can't find things in my own house; must ask them where they put. Then my mom keeps complaining that my house not clean enough, this not good enough, that not well-taken care of, etc. Even the rice I buy not nice to eat; must buy different brand... So my confinement lagi like spot-check and scolding session all month long. She housewife + many years of experience of course can clean and tidy better than me and know where and how to get the best produce. I'm working and keeping house by myself and am still getting the hang of things. Of course I have to live with a lower standard of kempt in the house, else 24 hours won't be enough for me each day.
I know they mean well and I come out of my confinement with an exceptionally clean and tidy house, abite I have no idea where most things are kept by then. But the nagging gets to you, you know... makes me feel really lousy; like I can't do anything right. so sometimes I snap back. I do feel bad, but it's a chicken and egg thing...
*hugz* i share the same sentiments as you and can understand how you feel. my mum also did confinement for me and i felt so restricted i ended my confinement at 3 weeks cos i couldn't take it anymore. didn't want to jeopardise our relationship n my emotional and mental health further.
my mother in law will do confinement for me... my husband alrl pay/give her the $ for all the food that she need to cook for me to eat. i dont kw how much to give her..
some couples especially if both are working, they do not share their money.
they would only share expenses like i pay for PUB BIlls, you pay for School fees etc.
i have a friend who doesnt even know how much her hubby earns.
My mom did my confinement for me. She took 1 month unpaid leave. I gave he $100 per week for groceries, my dad gave her $200 to buy tonics for me. My gave her $888 ang pow after the confinement. My mom scolded me for giving her so much. But I dont want to short changed her.
Oops...I cancelled my confinement lady becos my mother in law is willing to do it for me. But I am not aware that we ought to give her an ang bao at the end . I engaged a maid to help her out, so she only needs to cook and bath the baby. Furthermore, she's not working, and my father in law and brother in law are also moving in together cos my mother in law said it''ll be easier for everybody. Also, I believe my hubby will be buying all the food (confinement or food eaten by my in-laws). However, the thought of my house being so crowded is already putting me a bit off. I hope I dont't suffer from baby blues.
My mum is gg to take care of me during my confinement period.. i think my in-law just dont care about it .. they did not even mentioned about anything towards my confinement.. they just suggested that my baby's shower to be done at their place...asking some close relative to their for celebration..
I really got pissed by this comments/suggestions.. "shitty and dirty things" to be done by my mum.. celebrating baby's shower they want to be in charge!!!!!!
What is this!!!!