She sounds like a nightmare. Can terminate her contract in advance?
This is a discussion on Confinement Lady Madam Tan ( Chen Feng Yun / Tan Hoon) within the Confinement Period forum, part of the You and Your Family category; I've engaged Madam Tan ( for also know as Feng Jie ) throught my friend's recommendation. She used her as ...
I've engaged Madam Tan ( for also know as Feng Jie ) throught my friend's recommendation. She used her as CL 3 years ago and fine her service quite alright. However, this round when I used her, things seems to be going downhill.
Firstly, when I called her to meet up, we arranged to meet at Bugis Mac. ( Well naturally i will assume that it is the Mac at Bugis Junction right?) However when I was there, she keep saying she is there already. After serveral questioning, I realise she is at the Mac facing the Fu Lu Shou Building! We have to do some you turn and drive there to meet her ( in case she go missing again) The first thing she saw me was telling me it's quite a easy place to find and everytime she arrange for meeting there people have no issue finding her!!!! ( It's my fault?!?!?!?) Not wanting to argue with her I just ask her what is her charges like and she quoted 2.8K. She kept saying she is good at taking care of baby and mother that's why many people would do referral etc. Since we need to settle on CL soon, I deciced to use her and paid her a deposit ( I did request for her passport and took a pic of it)
2 months before I was due, she called up and asked if we need her to get all the herbs for the confinement. She mentioned that she will buying the stuff in Singapore. I requested for her to call me when she is in Singapore and we will go with her to buy the stuff ( to make sure she doesn't cheat and buy poor quality stuff ) She say she buy the stuff here and there, anyway i gave in again and she told me she would buy all the stuff, show me the bills and pass it to me at home ( We arranged to meet at MRT as my house is only 3 min away )
Just 1 month before i was due, i got a call from her on Sat morning saying that she had bought all the herbs and want me to go down to pick it up from her! Quite piss at this I told her I'm at home waiting for guest and if she could just take the MRT down, I will pick it up from her at the MRT station. However, she told me from my place to her place quite near, I can take MRT down, she dont't mind waiting for me!!!! Derrr You are asking a preggie woman who is due soon to go down and take heavy stuff from you!!!!! And the best part was she say since we drive is should not be a problem moving around!!!! At this point I was really really concern about using her but we have no choice ( we could only kick ourselves for not looking for CL early enough and look at a few before hiring her)
I delivered on the 10 March, about 1 week earlier than EDD date of 23 March. My husband called her to inform her and the very first thing she said was why so early! We told her 23 March now become 10!! ( Hellow do i have a choice?!?!?) I could hear her going on and on the phone saying why so early etc. Then she let go and told my husband she need to have her eyes checked on the 20 March at singapore general hospital. My husband told her we will still let her go for her appointment since it can't be helped. She assured us she will take cab there and take cab back ( Her appointment is at 10am)
On her first day here, well everything is in a mess. ( the only thing that is in order is baby is sleeping soundly in his room!) She complaint that I dont't have a wok, when I show her my wok, she said too big, difficult to clean! I showed her my happycall pan she say she dont't know how to use and refuse to use it! Showed her all the pots and pans we have at home and none of it pleases her! ( In the end my mother-in-law have to go and buy new sets of pots, pans and wok for her, all these is just for her convenience ) Hey I may not be a super chef, but I do cook at home ( western/Chinese/ boil soup etc) using the same pots n pans.
On top of that, she criticize everything my mother in law bought! From the meat, veggie and kidney! Seems like nothing my mother in law got FRESH from the market is good ( Hmm... have the stalls been cheating on my mother in law for over 20 years and supply her with things that are not good...) Even the fruits my hubby bought kanna criticize and CL said not good. ( Hmm didn't anyone told her my father-in-law had fruits stall and my hubby grow up helping him?!)
My mother in law got so pissed that instead of buying 3 days of food and sending it over, now she will get 1 week supply just to avoid any confrontation. She requested for chicken drumsticks, 3 layer meat and some other stuff saying that she will cook those for my hubby. But my hubby hardly take meat and she never bother to ask what we like and what we dont't like. She just keep giving the list to my mother in law to buy and said that we are the one who like to eat those stuff.
She didn't bother to thank us when we allow her to go for her medical appointment ( she left at 10am, came back at 3.30pm, took MRT instead of her "orginal intention" to take cab) And question me if I had switch off the slow cooker. I told her I finish the soup and switch off the main switch ( she assume that pulling out the switch is consider switching off ) Said that the slow cooker is not cooking because I did not switch off the slow cooker properly?!?!?!? And mind you, she was standing at my bedroom door, gunning me down on the slow cooker while I'm holding baby in one hand ( because she claim baby need to suck on my boos) and holding the electric pump on the other hand ( i was pumping halfway when she hand me the baby) Think I should pay myself the fee and do confinement myself!
She is always telling me how difficult other babies are etc. Hey different folks different strokes, if you can't love each baby that you handle i dont't think you should stay on this line. She has so much negative things to say each day that now i just hide in my room and only go out for meals or when my hubby is back.
I could write whole day on the list of never ending stuff that she perform but I shall stop here. For those who wish to verify her, you can PM me and I can provide the contact numbers to double confirm. Oh ya she kept telling my, after my confinement, she is heading to some landed house in Bedok, where they have maids etc and dont't need her to do anything except looking after baby and mom... Well best of luck to the family.
She sounds like a nightmare. Can terminate her contract in advance?
Anyway, she did request for early release ( think maybe she need to go home to attend to some issue cos she is always on the phone) Well sure know who not to hire for my next confinement...
This is scary. My EDD is october this year... Now I'm seriously considering not to have a CL...
Its very scary..I been through 3confinement period myself, know its not easy. I do my own confinement with help frm mother & in law and I do not enjoy it at all. Till now, I m a confinement nanny myself trained from Thomson Medical Ctr, I realise there is lots of caring & sharing require in term from mother & nanny itself. Pls free free to browse of my sharing : diyconfinement.blogspot.sg
Last edited by crazmum; 06-09-2012 at 04:52 PM.