my mother in law help me with my last 2 weeks confinement.
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for mummies who did confinement at own house & engaged confinement aunty, did yr inlaws come & visit you or only came to c baby?
my mother in law help me with my last 2 weeks confinement.
Both times, we did the confinement in our own home ... but we didn't engage any confinement ladies.
We have a maid to do most of the chores ... including the cooking, with prior & continuous training by my mum & my wife's mum.
The 1st time round, my mum still pops by every morning (in the confinement month) after my sis' kids have boarded their schoolbus ...
Besides replenishing the supply of vinegar trotters every 2-3 days, she was there to QC my maid's work ... as well as to bathe my little Seamus in that 1st month, who was only a fragile-looking 3kg back then.
The 2nd time round, my mum didn't drop by that frequent anymore ... besides the maid already knowing her work well, I was also ready to do the daily bath for my meatier Siggi, whose birth weight was already 4kg.
What is the issue that is really bothering you?
You actually dread them visiting? Or the fact that it's the baby they care more about?
not really dread them visiting cos i guess during my confinement most of the times i will be resting & my confinement aunty will take care of baby. cos my father in law workplace quite near my house, just wondering will he come everyday during my confinement..this i tink i will really dread him visiting daily..as for care more about the baby, i guess its a common thing for grandparents to actually come n c my baby rather then c how im doing. im fine with them vising me once or twice a wk but not daily...
The pang tang is only valid for men outside the family ... daddies & FILs dont apply, by right.Originally Posted by yan2
Moreover, it's the grandchild they're really visiting ...
It is really common ... my in-laws are just so attached to my sons.Originally Posted by pkshl
Since we got married, it's been a standard routine to go back to her mums' on Sundays ... we still do that, now with the boys in tow.
However, my in-laws would still pop over mid-week (ie, Tue, Wed or Thu) to my place for dinner, just to spend time with the boys.
If they do pop over on a Tue, they're likely to do the same again on the Fri in the same week ... you go count yourself how many days they can go without seeing the boys.
To better appreciate their efforts, my in-laws live in Pasir Panjang & work in Senoko ... while my family is staying in Simei!!
If anything, think positive:
1) at such a young age, your father in law can't be spending too much time at your place with the baby ... even if he actually knows how to handle the baby
2) you can always continue to "look tired" ... & he should be sensitive enough to know you need the rest
3) if your child eventually grows attached to grandpa & grandma, that's still a good thing ... it means you can get to go on romantic dates with your hubby, after dropping your child off at your in-laws
my experiences were they r more interested in the baby not mommy
i guess only your own folks will care about you only, even my dear husband only interested in the well being of the little one
but its a good thing if they dont visit you esp if you hav some idea if they will b of help or nusiance to you
the visits really disrupt the bfeeding routine esp my mother in law strictly objects it & keep nagging about it
spread news if you dont want too many visitors during your confinement
Whole bunch of relatives came to visit me and baby on the 1st day that i was discharged. They only said my face was pale like paper.
my father in law did not come at all (he lived in KL).....lols....till now still quite pissed ....hahahahha.....now that you mentioned.
Yes they did.
My father in law is a taxi driver... so he would drop by once in a while and pass me tonic and eggs and food ... a very nice father in law. He wun stay long so it did not bother me. I appreciated it in fact.
My mother in law is a homely person. She doesn't go out of Bukit Panjang (her home area) one... so she doesn't know how to take train or bus to my house (Tiong Bahru). So she only visited me once and that was when my father in law was free to give her a ride ...
Never mind whether they got come visit you or visit the baby during your confinement ... you just get your rest and learn as much as you can from your confinement lady and enjoy your motherhood can ...
You will have a lot to do and worry about after giving birth ... this kind of small small things ... throw away from your mind ...
actually I dont like people to visit me during my confinement (after the last experience)... and ask this and ask that... I dont like people asking me questions (to me it's like what business is it of yours)... my father in law is a taxi driver, and when he's somewhere nearby, he will pop by.. and when he ask me question that I dont like, I wil ignore him (i know it's rude)... but i just dont like him... bad daughter in law right :P
i stay wib my in-laws.. so no much comment.. as my mother in law cook very nice confinement food, so i no complains.. hahaha.. my sister In law only 15yo that time, but she lyk 2 eat the confinement food also.. haha.. end up she complain she goin heaty n become fat liaoz.. hahaha.. hu ask her snatch my food.. lol..
i did have other relatives comin though.. all ask when labour what happen, know how 2 look after baby anot, got look after yourself anot, can cope anot etc etc.. but i very ok wib dear husband extended family.. so i enjoyed their visit.. (if they come when dear husband at home, he'll usually mind his own business.. can siam then siam.. sae go buy drinks, go outside smoke, blahz blahz blahz..) dont know is my family or his family .. lol!!