This is a discussion on Baby keep cry and cry I dont know what she wants! within the Newborn Baby and Infant Care (up to 12 months old) forum, part of the Growing Up & Parenting category; Thanks for all the help.. this only happened yesterday afternoon.. she cried from her last feed to next feed for ...
Thanks for all the help.. this only happened yesterday afternoon.. she cried from her last feed to next feed for no reason.. that is y I dont know what she wants.. My mum actually told me she's tired and stuff and that's what made me upset cuz I did try my best to help out also..
Last edited by breadgal; 02-10-2009 at 08:38 PM.
just now saw my parents in law passing baby girl around.. as mother in law cant see clearly, she almost twisted baby HEAD! I endured cannot scream when see baby giving the expression that she's in pain
Joanna, does your baby stop crying when you hold her? A lot of newborns cry because that's the only way they know how to communicate. You can run through a list of things on what's wrong - diaper change, too hot, too cold, hungry, fear, anxiety, insecurity, colic, tired from lack of sleep, and so forth.
Sometimes some babies just need to cry and instead of hushing them, why not hold them and assure them that them crying won't result in mum or dad leaving them? That it's okay to cry. When you do that, you're telling baby that their needs are being heard and that you're there to comfort them no matter how annoying or irritating it may be.
Also, some babies have problems adjusting to day-night and will be fussier or cry more during transition periods like sunrise and sunset. It's a new environment for them and as such, they are afraid - I mean wouldn't you be if you couldn't see very well (as with all 1 week olds), dont't know where you are and everything is dark and all?
Eva was like that during the first few weeks - she would cry if we left her alone so hubby and myself took turns in holding her, singing lullabies and such. And she'd doze off in our arms.
My parents used to tell me that I shouldn't do that, that she'll get used to it and won't sleep. What a load of crock! Today, Eva is perfectly fine, hardly cries and goes to sleep on her own. I believe me being attentive to her fussiness and crying spells in the first few weeks (and thus telling her that she's safe and secure) was what made the real difference.
i went thru what you're talking about. i was virtually alone after discharge frm hospital, hubby working (can't take leave cos family business & he's working night shift), no confinement lady cos not used to having stranger in my house, mum not traditional type and dont wanna trouble her too, mother in law tooooo troublesome and FON. my baby sometimes cry and i dunnoe what's wrong but if it's in the day time he cries and nothing to do with diaper or hungry i carry him n open the door let wind come in and play music for him if at night i will latch him on. ocne they're more settled with the outside environment then i shld b better.
my son now 6 months plus ocne i on music for him he keep quiet already but the bad thing is he's still using my nipples as pacifier.
it's always tougher for first time mummies but no worries you will get the hang soon...
when baby throw temper who carry also cry.. unless she needs someone carry n comfort her to sleep..
JOanna mummy... please take care of yourself.. dont stress out..
i believe you are doing well and your best...
now i start to worry for myself.... hahahaha
in-laws also keep 'reminding' dont carry.. but i believe as a 1st time mom sure wanna carry and i like the sense of touch..
dont under-estimate babies.. they also want sayang sayang .. maybe cos they in our womb...very used to enclosure...
CARRY your baby as often as possible and enjoy it because once your baby grows up, they may not want to be carried so much. Like Eva - she may be two months old but when she has had enough of being carried, she'll protest and fuss. :S
i cant comment much but i personally feel maybe the baby is just not used to exposure... maybe see people more wont like that? or maybe let the baby cry awhile 1st, dont immediately cry then sayang and carry baby back, cos baby very smart will know, i cry mummy sure carry me back..
i would still wanna carry my baby as much unless baby slpg or what dont purposely go carry..cos baby slpg means my time
how is things? Is your baby still so colicky?
I have read somewhere before that newborn tends to cry alots. Even if you have meet all her needs, she still be crying.
My boy at a few days old was also crying non-stop.
He could cry from late afternoon to early morning. Like 4 am.
I would like change his diaper, feed him, burp him and he would still be crying.
As i was the one taking care of him, i was really tired.
And i cried. Not knowing what he wants.
I am lucky this only happen for less than a week.
From then on, every month untill when he was 3 months old he would behave like that for a few days then back to norm.
I think this crying thing will passed.
Do not gave yourself so much stress and think negatively. Or it might develop into post natal depression.
Please think positively.
You can do it!
[FONT='Calibri','sans-serif']MaMa_P & Bb_J[/FONT]
I suspect baby got colic... she crys near late afternoon and evening.. yst from 4.30pm til 8pm.. then 6.30pm was her last feed, she woke up 12.10am for her next feed and went back to sleep..
Sometimes the inconsolable crying could be from reflux, especially if it happens all the time. If it's this, you should see a paed because if measures are not taken, reflux can result in a lot of gastrointestinal problems for your little one.
Joanna, it's normal for babies to cry around the transition period (430pm to 8pm). Eva was like that - she would be very fussy during the evenings (must carry her, otherwise, mati...) so what me and my hubby did, in order to get some relief, is put her in the stroller and we go out for walks. She'd look around for a few minutes and then before you know it, fall asleep. Then we'd try to sneak her back into the house and deposit her into the crib. It was good for us because we got to get out of the house (I did this during the confinement - was dying for some fresh air), and we got to have some "us time" instead of being stuck with Eva all the time.
This was the case in the first month but after that, she was okay already. I suspect it's because she's not used to the whole day-night difference and in the first month, she was very afraid of being in the dark by herself, hence the crying, wanting to be carried and having a night light on.
Now, she can sleep right up till 6pm or later and if she wakes up before 6pm, she'll start coo-ing because it's stroller time (we both go for a stroll around 630pm every evening so that I can get some exercise). Not that it matters much for her because she'll stare around for 15 minutes and then fall asleep. LOL.
Last edited by meiteoh; 04-10-2009 at 05:40 PM.
Is your stroller just a stroller or does it come with an infant carrier/car seat? Mine is a travel system whereby it's a car seat/infant carrier AND a stroller for toddlers. That way I can use it from birth up till a certain age.
Aiya, there is no such thing as "too young" as long as you take the necessary safety precautions - that's the typical "old fashioned" mentality.
my husband more traditional -.- although he only 1 yr older than me..
Hi, I have the CD from this doctor too, its a recording of heartbeats which may put your baby at ease as all she/he hears for 9 mths is within your body, you may want to give this a try.
I read in a book,to learn what the different crying sounds mean, I realise baby's not too fussy with soiled diapers unless its been left there for a long time, if baby cries while changing diaper, she is more likely hungry. Touch her feet, is she cold? You could also try giving her some water.
I agree that your mum n you should take turns.. both of you get more rest n with that more patience.. to take better care of baby.. and if taking a sip of coke will make you feel much better, I say you should just take it. sometimes the list of "cannots" frustrates me. hang in there.. keep trying
Haha ! I just want Sarsi and those without caffine will be good enough! That day hubby let me have a sip of 100plus! haha! And after I gave birth he bought me H2o cuz he knew I no more energy.. ahhh I want coke so much! Pregnant time, I dont like coke at all.. now I keep craving for it!